Well?
Even if they are nice guys how many chances do you give them?
Personally I think I’m a soft touch, I seem to just say, ah well never mind……when maybe I should be telling them to take a hike.
can't you tell I have just been left in the lurch?
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Timewasters/let downs: how many chances do you give them?
Quote by naughtynymphos1
if someone just don't turn up they never get another chance with me
if they let me know b4 hand i will give a second chance but if the cancel twice they don't get another unless its someone i know
Well these are people I know....but still not good and a last minute let down too. Ignore me, just feeling crap lol :P
I agree with you about people that I havent met, they rarely get another chance. But I am a right softy sometimes, a bit of a doormat
Quote by Sexysteph
Awwwwww Bex
Crap happens so did they ring and cancel or just no show. If former up to you how many chances but if latter well it's a don't touch with bargepole if they try contacting you again (my philosophy - but like you am a soft touch and tend to fall for some of the sob stories
Steph
Play with us lot in here this afternoon instead :wink: :lol:
Yes, they let me know and to be fair the story seems true and not entirely their fault but I'm just feeling pissed off that's all....should call this Bex moan/rant thread really :P I even have a babysitter and they are like gold dust!
As for playing with 'you lot' hell yeah, pop over to my place :twisted:
Bex, If they give you notice as soon as they know they can't make it fair enough. If they don't then they simply can't be trusted. If they sound genuine give them a second chance anybody can foul up and deserve a second chance except for the chances and arse holes of course, Hmmm. Best wishes to you and I hope you are feeling better about it. Katie xxx
Quote by Katieftv
Bex, If they give you notice as soon as they know they can't make it fair enough. If they don't then they simply can't be trusted. If they sound genuine give them a second chance anybody can foul up and deserve a second chance except for the chances and arse holes of course, Hmmm. Best wishes to you and I hope you are feeling better about it. Katie xxx
Thank you Katie, and yes I know it can't be helped, everyone has problems at times and I have had to cancel dates in the past, though always with lots of notice and not several times with the same person. This wasn't the first time let-down though by same guys and also was VERY last minute (when I could have arranged something else.....though still time :twisted: ) It's just that I like them, but in the long run I don't think I will hold my breath if they say they can meet again
......and it's not easy to work round my circumstances either (hense the rant lol)Maybe I should change my deoderant :P
Quote by 34fun
just as bad as people actually turning up and they are nothing like you imagined or the photos they have given you !!
Now that is very naughty and deceitful to say the least. Put them also under the same catagory of arse holes.
I must admit I have never had that problem though thank god. Quote by berksbex
just as bad as people actually turning up and they are nothing like you imagined or the photos they have given you !!
That has happened too! :shock: :shock:
though these days I try and see someone on cam and never meet without phone chat first.
is that a roundabout way of asking me to get playing on cam for you berksbex?....ya only had to ask...
Quote by hardon2001
just as bad as people actually turning up and they are nothing like you imagined or the photos they have given you !!
That has happened too! :shock: :shock:
though these days I try and see someone on cam and never meet without phone chat first.
is that a roundabout way of asking me to get playing on cam for you berksbex?....ya only had to ask...
LOL
I said 'before I meet someone' :wink:
Quote by berksbex
just as bad as people actually turning up and they are nothing like you imagined or the photos they have given you !!
That has happened too! :shock: :shock:
though these days I try and see someone on cam and never meet without phone chat first.
I too like to see someone on cam or phone call first. Its amazing how people can be so different to what you imagine. As for timewasters, if there is a genuine reason than fair enough I would probably give 1 even 2 scond chances, but after that I would probably tell them I wasn't interested anymore.
Quote by berksbex
just as bad as people actually turning up and they are nothing like you imagined or the photos they have given you !!
That has happened too! :shock: :shock:
though these days I try and see someone on cam and never meet without phone chat first.
it has happened the other way for me too - met someone whos pic was ok, but when they turned up they were drop dead gorgeous !!!!
it's just hard being intimate with someone who has already lied to you before meeting you in person !!
Quote by 34fun
just as bad as people actually turning up and they are nothing like you imagined or the photos they have given you !!
That has happened too! :shock: :shock:
though these days I try and see someone on cam and never meet without phone chat first.
it has happened the other way for me too - met someone whos pic was ok, but when they turned up they were drop dead gorgeous !!!!
it's just hard being intimate with someone who has already lied to you before meeting you in person !!
very true, I used to lie about my age (years ago, and what woman hasn't? :P ) but then started to actually meet these people in real life and to see them longer term, you can't keep up a lie like your age.....so now I don't hide it or lie. Now I'm as straight as i can be about everything.
Quote by pinkruth
just as bad as people actually turning up and they are nothing like you imagined or the photos they have given you !!
That has happened too! :shock: :shock:
though these days I try and see someone on cam and never meet without phone chat first.
I too like to see someone on cam or phone call first. Its amazing how people can be so different to what you imagine. As for timewasters, if there is a genuine reason than fair enough I would probably give 1 even 2 scond chances, but after that I would probably tell them I wasn't interested anymore.
Hmm I know, hard cos nice guys
and Im a soft touch :P but i have a feeling that I will be let down again if i stick with them....so....ah well 
It happens to us all tho, i myself have had to let people down but i always make sure they know b4 hand and never stand people up, as much as i love meeting people i have kids and they come first, so if one of my kids gets ill sorry but the meets off, saying that i do not consider myself a time waster
its just one of them things in swinging so long as people let you know b4 hand i think its ok to call a meet off if you have good reason
its just one of them things in swinging so long as people let you know b4 hand i think its ok to call a meet off if you have good reason
Quote by berksbex
just as bad as people actually turning up and they are nothing like you imagined or the photos they have given you !!
That has happened too! :shock: :shock:
though these days I try and see someone on cam and never meet without phone chat first.
I too like to see someone on cam or phone call first. Its amazing how people can be so different to what you imagine. As for timewasters, if there is a genuine reason than fair enough I would probably give 1 even 2 scond chances, but after that I would probably tell them I wasn't interested anymore.
Hmm I know, hard cos nice guys
and Im a soft touch :P but i have a feeling that I will be let down again if i stick with them....so....ah well wether you know them or not if they keep letting you down bin them :smackbottom:
Quote by naughtynymphos1
It happens to us all tho, i myself have had to let people down but i always make sure they know b4 hand and never stand people up, as much as i love meeting people i have kids and they come first, so if one of my kids gets ill sorry but the meets off, saying that i do not consider myself a time waster
its just one of them things in swinging so long as people let you know b4 hand i think its ok to call a meet off if you have good reason
Yeah I do understand, and sometimes you just can't make it whatever the circumstances. I just wanted a little more notice really.....and I'm just sulking :P just having a hissy fit cos I didn't get to shag two horny guys today
:roll: :roll: I'll get over it, i always do :wink: 
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I think we've all been there with timewasters. I've driven 40 miles to meet up with someone only to find a note pinned to the door saying, sorry somethings come up can't answer the door : 
:uhoh:
Also was booked into a hotel once, phoned the guy I had arranged to meet on his mobile (expecting him to be near by or in the car park) to let him know I was ready and the room number, only to be told “OHH, yeah sorry mate clean forgot got play on the play station and lost track of time, I need to grab sommot to eat have a shower and drive there it will take me 2 hours†I put the phone down, FFS "got playing video games and forgot" PI55 OFF
he knew the hotel but not room or my really name. Don’t know if he bothered turning up but I never meet him, thankfully the room was a special offer and only cost £20. And I know how to have a goodtime on my own. :wanker: :twisted:
Yes, i shouldn't worry to much as the odds are stacked in your favour Bex.
I should say the two events above didn't involve anyone from SH.
: :uhoh: Also was booked into a hotel once, phoned the guy I had arranged to meet on his mobile (expecting him to be near by or in the car park) to let him know I was ready and the room number, only to be told “OHH, yeah sorry mate clean forgot got play on the play station and lost track of time, I need to grab sommot to eat have a shower and drive there it will take me 2 hours†I put the phone down, FFS "got playing video games and forgot" PI55 OFF
he knew the hotel but not room or my really name. Don’t know if he bothered turning up but I never meet him, thankfully the room was a special offer and only cost £20. And I know how to have a goodtime on my own. :wanker: :twisted: Quote by berksbex
They can go back to advertising amongst the 3zillion single men on here and I will go back to advertising amongst the 150 single women.
Yes, i shouldn't worry to much as the odds are stacked in your favour Bex.
I should say the two events above didn't involve anyone from SH.
:twisted:Quote by berksbex
It happens to us all tho, i myself have had to let people down but i always make sure they know b4 hand and never stand people up, as much as i love meeting people i have kids and they come first, so if one of my kids gets ill sorry but the meets off, saying that i do not consider myself a time waster
its just one of them things in swinging so long as people let you know b4 hand i think its ok to call a meet off if you have good reason
Yeah I do understand, and sometimes you just can't make it whatever the circumstances. I just wanted a little more notice really.....and I'm just sulking :P just having a hissy fit cos I didn't get to shag two horny guys today
:roll: :roll: I'll get over it, i always do :wink:you should have said earlier - i'm sure some of the genuine users on here would not have let you down :P :P
Quote by naughtynymphos1
if someone just don't turn up they never get another chance with me
if they let me know b4 hand i will give a second chance but if the cancel twice they don't get another unless its someone i know
I think this sounds fair enough but it is hard when you have just been let down even when they let you know because you get all paranoid and wonder if it is personal :cry: or maybe thats just me!
