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hello folks,
have seen the phrase......no timewasters.....but whats the tell tale signs or phrases i should pick out ..................while we are at it another one was piccy collector, this i'm confused because some want pics sending others don't.............aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrgggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!
get me a beer................!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
A good indication is when you walk away from them thinking
"Well, that was a fucking waste of time."
lhk
Kat
Well you can't really tell until they waste your time i suppose!
OMG
Another whinging post about timewasters....
Cant believe after 15 mins it's not been locked yet!!
Doesn't it rather depend on how you look at time-wasters. Are they trying to waste your time or do they just have standards and you don't happen to meet them dunno
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Doesn't it rather depend on how you look at time-wasters. Are they trying to waste your time or do they just have standards and you don't happen to meet them dunno

Never thought of it that way but a good point!
it's called a 7th sense....... a little instinct and a good judge of character.
Polo
i agree mabe people just dont say enough when others arent there type! ,However i would consider a time waster someone who stands you up and doesnt get in touch to say why?
polo still looking for that midweek fuck buddy to join us abd our fuck buddy if you interested :P
I never answer ads that say No Timewasters, or demand pictures, or at least 2,000 words in the reply. I know that the advertisers will only be Timewasters.
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OMG
Another whinging post about timewasters....
Cant believe after 15 mins it's not been locked yet!!

sorry to be such a bloody whinger....!!!!!!!!!
i thought i'd asked a reasonable question having come across the phrase.........but then i suppose your comments about this thread can't be accused of whining.......
probably get told off now....rant over.....!!!!
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hello folks,
have seen the phrase......no timewasters.....but whats the tell tale signs or phrases i should pick out ..................while we are at it another one was piccy collector, this i'm confused because some want pics sending others don't.............aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrgggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!
get me a beer................!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You can't tell until you have tried for a meet and they have wasted your time, but be wary, theymay have a genuine reason for not showing up
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have seen the phrase......no timewasters.....but whats the tell tale signs

...when they tell you they own a Bentley then give you a Dartford phone number...
... when they suggest meeting at the Ritz then ask you where it is...
... when they tell you they don't have a landline then you hear it ringing in the background before one of their parents answers it...
... when you ask them if they'd like a Moet '76 and they say "Yeah, that's my favourite position!"...
... when you ask them about foreplay and they think you mean a new games console...
Quote by Ice Pie
have seen the phrase......no timewasters.....but whats the tell tale signs

...when they tell you they own a Bentley then give you a Dartford phone number...
... when they suggest meeting at the Ritz then ask you where it is...
... when they tell you they don't have a landline then you hear it ringing in the background before one of their parents answers it...
... when you ask them if they'd like a Moet '76 and they say "Yeah, that's my favourite position!"...
... when you ask them about foreplay and they think you mean a new games console...
brilliant Ice.
This by no means a fool-proof method.
First look at the pics - not just their bits!!!! Look for:
Jewellery - rings, chains bracelets, watches, are they still there in all pics? Is it the same jewellery?
Tatoos - Have they disappeared/appeared?
Background - 2/3 rooms, look at the decor does it match? i.e. wall colour and paper, has it changed?
Patterns - bed-sheets, duvet, carpet, furniture, do they match? i.e. same headboard?
Style - the same styling normally(?) runs throughout the house, is one pic clean and tidy, the other pic tatty?
Bodyshape (very difficult) - look for any irregularities i.e. disguised faces, head shape has it changed?
Agree with Sexysteph a cam is probably the most effective answer!!!
This is the criteria we use when selecting from photo-ads and we have still been caught out. Like the rest of us you have to grin and bear it unfortunately, its a mad, bad world out there!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hope this helps anyway.
Insp Clouseau xx
you usually find out who the time wasters are when your on your way home after sitting in the rain for a hour waiting for someone who keeps driving by you laughing lol
I spend loads of time in here, but i dont feel any of it is wasted time.
Time wasters cannot be picked out, until they do it to you.
I agree with Ricochet. I give a little info, never send a photo unless I have at least had an individual reply/acknowledgement. I also want to speak with someone after no-more than a couple of emails. I understand that everybody adopts their own methods and rules. This has worked well for me so far.
I think that you do get a sixth sense that some just dont seem right.
I also accept that it may be that I am not their type and also that they are not mine.... BUT... I would never mess someone about for entertainment.
I agree that the name and shame policy would be open to abuse, as would a verification process. I suppose its a matter of just getting known, just like in 'real life'.
I haven't been inundated with responses, but had some which also have led to some good experiences and also new friends,
I am sure there will be more.
Just iggy me .......... I am a time waster :giggle:
I waste loads of time on here !!!
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
I may have been lucky, but the only timewasters I've experienced have been the ones who haven't bothered to reply (and I know there's sometimes a good reason for that) - just a waste of time contacting them in the first place! Not had any no-shows.
A friend has had several contacts that have arranged to meet her, then have failed to turn up - I just cannot understand that, particularly if they knew her and what they were missing!
I don't now forward any photos, full stop. I've found if someone is genuine, they'll normally agree to a restaurant or pub meet first. If either of us aren't entirely happy, that's the end of it. At least we met and chatted. If the adverts says "replies without photos will be deleted", well, consider me deleted!
Just my experiences so far.
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I may have been lucky, but the only timewasters I've experienced have been the ones who haven't bothered to reply (and I know there's sometimes a good reason for that) - just a waste of time contacting them in the first place! Not had any no-shows.
A friend has had several contacts that have arranged to meet her, then have failed to turn up - I just cannot understand that, particularly if they knew her and what they were missing!
I don't now forward any photos, full stop. I've found if someone is genuine, they'll normally agree to a restaurant or pub meet first. If either of us aren't entirely happy, that's the end of it. At least we met and chatted. If the adverts says "replies without photos will be deleted", well, consider me deleted!
Just my experiences so far.

I'm with you Bi-Baz. You spend hours going through add's checking you meet every point on their never ending list of criteria, are absolutely honest in your reply, and what do you get. Not even a 'No Thanks' What a waste of time.
We would estimate that if we send out 10 replies to ads we have seen we would be lucky to actually meet up with 1 or 2 couples from that.
Mostly for us the timewasting is all in the emailing, some couples just don't reply, some reply then won't or can't chat on phone, some will chat on phone then can't make a meet etc.
However, once having made firm arrangements for a meet we have rarely been let down. We usually arrange to meet people in a swingers club or in a pub somewhere near a swingers club so that way if the other couple don't show up then we just have fun in the club.
John & Shel