When sending a PM.................personalise it!
My inbox is constantly filling up with obvious form PM's and I don't even bother to read them. If you really are interested in someone the search throws up...............for God's sake make a little effort! A form PM shows that the person receiving it is just one of maybe hundreds you have PM'd out of blind hope. Not a very attractive proposition!
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Sexlightened
Oh dear ! Sounds like you're having a bad day? Isn't this just the down side of having a nice picture of your bum on public display ? Remember some here don't type so good... Copy and paste is their only hope...
Maybe I just expect too much
But I do prefer a guy who has something between his ears as well as something between his legs :shock: Form PM's and text speak..............to me................show REAL unintelligence...............either that, or a total disregard for the intelligence of the person receiving the PM, which is even worse!
Sexlightened
Yes..............certainly is a wonderful bum....ooooooooooh !!!! Cheers my day up regularly!!
As for not being able to type, that is just silly anyone can type info into a PC, like bricklaying being able to do it both quickly AND accurately is a skill not so many possess, me included I have to say. Everyone can do it EITHER accurately OR FAST.............. Oh yes, also pays to read it through before hitting the send button..........you can corect it before it goes....
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As for not being able to type, that is just silly anyone can type info into a PC, like bricklaying being able to do it both quickly AND accurately is a skill not so many possess, me included I have to say. Everyone can do it EITHER accurately OR FAST.............. Oh yes, also pays to read it through before hitting the send button..........you can corect it before it goes....
PM.................
Quote by gingerminge38
Oh dear ! Sounds like you're having a bad day? Isn't this just the down side of having a nice picture of your bum on public display ? Remember some here don't type so good... Copy and paste is their only hope...
I don't think typing is an issue - even if it just says I've noticed on your profile you live in this area or your looking for ***, it shows that they've at least read it.
What we're talking about here is the people that have a one line message and spam every female the search function throws up - and these are usually the same people who come in the cafe moaning that they've been here a week and not had a meet yet
I'm afraid I will treat spam on Swinging Heaven the same way I treat all spam mail - delete, closely followed by ignore.
Another tip I'd give..................and this is to all the guys that show as being in this Forum but never post...............BLOODY POST!
You can't make an omelette without breaking eggs, and you won't get anywhere.........believe me............without making an effort! Pm-ing people will very rarely get you a favourable response, but getting known on the Forums is a big step towards getting accepted as genuine.
I would never comtemplate a meet with anyone just hopefully PM-ing because they've found me on a search................I only meet guys who post on the Forums and show they have a personality as well as a cock!
You can't make an omelette without breaking eggs, and you won't get anywhere.........believe me............without making an effort! Pm-ing people will very rarely get you a favourable response, but getting known on the Forums is a big step towards getting accepted as genuine.
I would never comtemplate a meet with anyone just hopefully PM-ing because they've found me on a search................I only meet guys who post on the Forums and show they have a personality as well as a cock!
Sex God
know what you mean lisa we have had about 20 today simple"nice ass" mind you we get them from cpls to,sometimes think they are looking to see what response we will give ,like a icebreaker ,but just respond if i can be bothered with a"cheers should see the mrs" 
Master of Sex
Quote by Lissa
Maybe we're getting PM's from the same people, Steph
I don't think it will make you feel any better, but even I've had two of these. Which considering they were both male (of course), shows a remarkable lack of interest in even reading my profile. I can understand someone having an uncontrollable urge to whip off a premature pm on seeing Lissa's deliciously tattoed bum, but my sunglasses? That's a fetish I hadn't imagined before now.
This is a cool topic. I'm a guy who has obviously replied to one or two ads, and I can vouch for the fact that a decent mail message certainly helps. I wont say I've been inundated wth replies from couples (be nice though), but I have met a couple here at my flat and they both said I sounded like a nice guy just from the message.
By the way, I live in Reading if anbody's at all interested.
By the way, I live in Reading if anbody's at all interested.
Sexlightened
It's when the pm's stop you need to worry... ! I received a pm the other day asking if I was a woman... Look hey I know the nick's a bit confusing what with having the word minge in it, but those pants ! Would a girl wear those ? I think not.... :shock:
Quote by gingerminge38
It's when the pm's stop you need to worry... ! I received a pm the other day asking if I was a woman... Look hey I know the nick's a bit confusing what with having the word minge in it, but those pants ! Would a girl wear those ? I think not.... :shock:
Um..................gotta say NO................but then I very rarely wear knickers anyway
Sexlightened
Quote by Lissa
It's when the pm's stop you need to worry... ! I received a pm the other day asking if I was a woman... Look hey I know the nick's a bit confusing what with having the word minge in it, but those pants ! Would a girl wear those ? I think not.... :shock:
Um..................gotta say NO................but then I very rarely wear knickers anyway
That's just gunna get you more unwanted PM's I'm afraid... You can use an image of my pants as your profile image.. Check my prices at gingerminge38pantsthatwon'tgetpm'
I'll give you an introductory offer of 15p a month..
Can I add some hints too?
1. Don't send a PM stating "I saw your ad" unless you really did see someones ad - chances are they don't have an ad and you look like an even bigger idiot.
2. Don't state that you are looking for someone "discreet" and you're willing to travel 80 miles for a shag - we can figure out that it means you're cheating, you might as well say so up front.
3. If you are going to pretend to be a couple, don't bother - you'll give yourself away within 3 PMs because you're an idiot.
Thank you
1. Don't send a PM stating "I saw your ad" unless you really did see someones ad - chances are they don't have an ad and you look like an even bigger idiot.
2. Don't state that you are looking for someone "discreet" and you're willing to travel 80 miles for a shag - we can figure out that it means you're cheating, you might as well say so up front.
3. If you are going to pretend to be a couple, don't bother - you'll give yourself away within 3 PMs because you're an idiot.
Thank you
i find i very funny that you single guys think us couples cant spot you a mile off when you pretend to be a couple
1/ your cam never works or you have no credit on your phone and you dont want to give out your number.
2/the second pm is 'what are you wearing im stroking my pussy im sooo horny' ye right real couples tend to chat abit and get to no one another before they start cyber sex(thats if they do cyber sex at all i personally never saw the point in it
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3/you arrange a meet and right at the last min you pull out car breakes down or some excuse
o and one more tip if you are pretending to be a couple or single woman remember that when your on msn and you change your contact card to a pic of your self that the people you are bull shitting to can see when your online too its a dead give away :!: :!: :!:
1/ your cam never works or you have no credit on your phone and you dont want to give out your number.
2/the second pm is 'what are you wearing im stroking my pussy im sooo horny' ye right real couples tend to chat abit and get to no one another before they start cyber sex(thats if they do cyber sex at all i personally never saw the point in it
) 3/you arrange a meet and right at the last min you pull out car breakes down or some excuse
o and one more tip if you are pretending to be a couple or single woman remember that when your on msn and you change your contact card to a pic of your self that the people you are bull shitting to can see when your online too its a dead give away :!: :!: :!:
Warming the Bed
Thanks for all the useful tips on this thread.
As a fairly new recruit, they all seem prettty straightforward to me, but good to know I am thinking along the right lines.
A little bit of consideration and honesty seems to go a long way...
As a fairly new recruit, they all seem prettty straightforward to me, but good to know I am thinking along the right lines.
A little bit of consideration and honesty seems to go a long way...
Quote by Serendipity
Can I add some hints too?
1. Don't send a PM stating "I saw your ad" unless you really did see someones ad - chances are they don't have an ad and you look like an even bigger idiot.
Oh yes.................this one REALLY pisses me off! I don't have an ad, haven't posted an ad for a long time, but still get PM's titled Your Ad. Deleted immediately.
