Ok - second thread lol...
Top 10 tips for insecure swingers.
1) Swinging is a mutual activity if you're a couple. That means if you're male and your wife's not bi... don't try to persuade her to be.
2) If it's all about seeing your partner pleasured - why are you stopping her enjoying that other guy?
3) If your partner's having the time of their life, and you're not - don't go crying to them like a baby. You wanted this as much as they did - remember?
4) If your relationship needs 'spicing up' - don't start swinging. Swinging is far better suited to already great relationships that don't NEED spicing up, just enjoy the variety of spice.
5) "I'll think about it" - does not mean your partner enjoys the idea of swinging, nor does it constitute a pending 'yes'.
6) She is gonna see a bigger dick... and he is going to see a younger slimmer woman. Get used to that now - because you're in for an emotional roller coaster ride if you think you can manufacture a world where you can both swing and yet not have your partner exposed to the things that you fear.
7) If you can't muster up the courage to chat / phone people - then how the hell do you expect to be able to share a bed with them?
8 ) If it's Saturday night, and you're online at midnight begging for folk to join you.... then it's time to log off and seriously revisit your relationship. If you can't find enough pleasure in each other when there are no other swingers around, then it tells a story of its own doesn't it?
9) Constantly suggesting the same activity (to which you partner has already indicated a reluctance) isn't persuasion, it's bullying. Decent partners have a habit of giving way to persistence for you benefit. Don't be a bully.
10) NEVER ever ever ever break a rule in the middle of a swinging session. Know your rules and stick to them. If you have a change of heart, then talk about new rules later, never break them in the heat of the moment. There is nothing worse than seeing your partner do something you agreed not to do, even if you both agree in the heat of the moment, don't do it. There will be another time.
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Tips for insecure swingers
Slightly off topic........
Asked a friend of mine if she'd ever fancied "geddin itt ornn" with another girlie. She admitted she had and that her female work colleagues had discussed it one coffee break. Whilst the majority had declared a more than passing interest, none been prepared to try it.
The reason why..........
They were fearful that, when they got their kit off, the other girl would look better or have a better figure than them.
Asked a friend of mine if she'd ever fancied "geddin itt ornn" with another girlie. She admitted she had and that her female work colleagues had discussed it one coffee break. Whilst the majority had declared a more than passing interest, none been prepared to try it.
The reason why..........
They were fearful that, when they got their kit off, the other girl would look better or have a better figure than them.
Orgasminator
They were fearful that, when they got their kit off, the other girl would look better or have a better figure than them.
Hi RVM,
I think you may have hit the nail squarely on the head with that remark.
Unfortunately most swingers of both sexes are not built like fashion models
One of the main worries that swingers seem to have, prior to a meeting is that of will I be physically attractive to the other person or cpl. 
Lets face it, most of us, both men and women do not have the figures we had in our youth :cry: We may try to convince ourselves we have, but once over about 25 years of age (and sometimes before) our bodies start to change shape and there's dam little we can do about it.
The local gym or fitness club may be of help, if you have both the time and the money, but I wonder how many men say to their wives, mistresses, lovers or swinging partners, " sorry love I can't tonight, I'm too tired" after their visit to such a club. :D
I once replied to an add, in which the lady stated she was "slim, with a great figure and 42DD boobs, GSOH, etc. We met in a pub for a drink to 'suss' each other out. She looked absolutely great :shock: We later adjourned to her flat where we disrobed. Once she removed her bra the 42"DD's sank at least 7" from their previous position, and when her girdle was removed the hourglass figure completely disappeared. However she did have a GSOH and an even better personality, and we had a great time. 8) Once she had stopped laughing at me after I had undressed. :(
I think there is far too much emphasis placed on what people look like, and perhaps we should be looking more towards the personality of the people we meet, rather than just their physical attributes.
If some of the adds in Swinging Heaven were perhaps more honest then they may get more replies than they do now.
Harry0
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Once upon a time, all our ancestors shagged in caves in the dark. If we were all blind and felt the warmth of each others conversation and got interested in people again the looks of someone would never be an issue. Many people follow fashion, the latest phone, the best clothes because they look cool, the best car, the best whatever. Shaggin' partners shoud never be regarded as such. I do not fit in much because I love all women, and wish they were the same to me sometimes. I just like the company, the touch and the rest....too long in the tooth but will never stop loving em...
Sex God
I think we can sum this thread up thus:
"Swinging is not for insecure people"
"Swinging is not for insecure people"
Bluexxx
Agreed
8) :)
Wondering if my post was long enough?
Punctuation, spelling and grammer up to scratch?
Did I offend anyone?
Did I say too much?
Did I say too little?
Not that I worry, you understand, just well, you know..........
Shuffles off muttering about how I'm not insecure. I changed the locks on the van
"Swinging is not for insecure people"
Agreed
8) :) Wondering if my post was long enough?
Punctuation, spelling and grammer up to scratch?
Did I offend anyone?
Did I say too much?
Did I say too little?
Not that I worry, you understand, just well, you know..........
Shuffles off muttering about how I'm not insecure. I changed the locks on the van
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Bluexxx"Swinging is not for insecure people"
Agreed
8) :) Wondering if my post was long enough?
Punctuation, spelling and grammer up to scratch?
Did I offend anyone?
Did I say too much?
Did I say too little?
Not that I worry, you understand, just well, you know..........
Write out a thousand times " I must learn how to spell grammar"
From The Spelling Police
(I thought I resigned from them?) Note to self - learn to let go :)
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