i`ve had an add rolling on here for a fair few weeks now. i`d love to say that, for a single guy looking for singles/couples, my poor old bell-end was red raw from the constant pummeling it was receiving after posting them... however, that would be a lie.
But what HAS alarmed me and made me quite numb with shock is the number of men (from a couple) who have contacted me and asked if i will do `bareback` fun. call me old fashioned. call me a prude. call me boring, but how can you possibly say you care about this woman if you would subject her to such sickening risks? what about yourself? do you really have such a flippant attitude to yours and your partners health you would honestly risk your health, peace of mind and happiness for a couple of minutes of squelching? maybe it`s me that`s wrong. i mean, i know i`m ok, so why should i feel conspicuously wrong ejaculating into a woman i met 45 minutes ago? after all, it`s fun we`re after...... isn`t it?
Am i wrong? am i being over cautious? is it just me? but surely some of you have `swung` with these people.... so how do you feel about it?
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to be honest.......... i`m sickend
Sex God
each to their own - nobody can make you play with them. Whilst I have to agree that doing bareback sex isn't part of my play technique it is for others.
I don't eat fish so when my friends and I go for some takeaway food they chose fish suppers and I have a chicken supper. No pressure to have the stuff which makes me sick.
Take it or leave it.
Irresponsible behaviour is the behaviour of choice for some - extreme sex and extreme sports, both can kill but they can't kill me!
:P
I don't eat fish so when my friends and I go for some takeaway food they chose fish suppers and I have a chicken supper. No pressure to have the stuff which makes me sick.
Take it or leave it.
Irresponsible behaviour is the behaviour of choice for some - extreme sex and extreme sports, both can kill but they can't kill me!
:P
Sex God
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wanna sniff me pants? :rascal:
You're a sick man Stormy!
By the way, that was a no!
Sex God
Quote by Hipsway
all true enough... but maybe we should have a man walking in front of them with a red flag?
Why? Aren't you able to find out for yourself and weigh up the risks?
Some people probably don't like how you do things, but they aren't all here warning everyone about it.
You'll be suggesting we all wear warning labels next.
I really wasn't going to reply.... I wasn't I swear!!
It's all been said and done.. People make there own choices here, thats the point! We all take a certain risk playing as we do.. but its a calculated risk. I think it odd your only getting asked for 'bareback sex' anyway..Or is this your way of saying Hi all I am Mr responsible Mail me?
Like its been said just say no and move on.
It's all been said and done.. People make there own choices here, thats the point! We all take a certain risk playing as we do.. but its a calculated risk. I think it odd your only getting asked for 'bareback sex' anyway..Or is this your way of saying Hi all I am Mr responsible Mail me?
Like its been said just say no and move on.
Sex God
I have to say Hipsway that i'm with you on this and i dont think your trying to come the Mr responsible at all (though what the hells wrong with being responsible, i dont know). I just think its sense. I dont believe that bareback is anything less than nuts. There is going to be innocent people somewhere down the line that dont know their partner has strayed and played and there is a chance that the innocent get hurt. Even worse that a child is born and affected through such secretive activity.
At least if as swingers we take the necessary precaution of using a condom then ok, we are not getting rid of all the health risks but are reducing some of the ones that we can do Practically without great hardship.
I got slapped for this before and probably will again but hey. Personally i think its a choice that i would like heard explained to an innocent victim. Lets chat to some people from the Terence Higgins Trust or London lighthouse.
It maybe great to have notions of 'its a persons right to chose' - but is it? If so then why do we seatbelt/child safety seat laws driving whilst under the influence laws. Even smoking in public is becoming unlawful in certain places. Theses things affect the unknowing and unwilling and innocent third parties.
A person was Jailed for seven years for infecting 2 women with HIV knowing he was himself infected with the virus. Both women thought he was monogamous and did not know of the others relationship with the man so did they have an infirmed choice?
One might say that it was their decision to have unprotected sex with this man (for years i might add). So was it their fault. But through trusting and thinking this man was being faithfully monogamous (and why would they have reason to doubt) there lives have been destroyed.
I'm not asking for another personalised slapping if you got an arguement then cool. Put the arguement about the topic not about the person/people raising it.
At least if as swingers we take the necessary precaution of using a condom then ok, we are not getting rid of all the health risks but are reducing some of the ones that we can do Practically without great hardship.
I got slapped for this before and probably will again but hey. Personally i think its a choice that i would like heard explained to an innocent victim. Lets chat to some people from the Terence Higgins Trust or London lighthouse.
It maybe great to have notions of 'its a persons right to chose' - but is it? If so then why do we seatbelt/child safety seat laws driving whilst under the influence laws. Even smoking in public is becoming unlawful in certain places. Theses things affect the unknowing and unwilling and innocent third parties.
A person was Jailed for seven years for infecting 2 women with HIV knowing he was himself infected with the virus. Both women thought he was monogamous and did not know of the others relationship with the man so did they have an infirmed choice?
One might say that it was their decision to have unprotected sex with this man (for years i might add). So was it their fault. But through trusting and thinking this man was being faithfully monogamous (and why would they have reason to doubt) there lives have been destroyed.
I'm not asking for another personalised slapping if you got an arguement then cool. Put the arguement about the topic not about the person/people raising it.
Yeah yeah freedom of choice, freedom to play or not play .. we know all that but what do we really think about bareback?
I've always practised safer sex and I would hope and pray that my sexual partners do too - and i mean, with others, not just me.
I see "bareback" in an ad or chatroom title and yes, it puts me right off. As does "D&D free" and "vasectomised".
Just recently I was chatting to someone that I've known of for quite a while and would certainly have wanted to play with. Until he mentioned that he does on occasion play bareback. Now, I would have used condoms with him anyway, but knowing that he doesn't always use them ... yeuck, no ta. I won't be going there.
I've always practised safer sex and I would hope and pray that my sexual partners do too - and i mean, with others, not just me.
I see "bareback" in an ad or chatroom title and yes, it puts me right off. As does "D&D free" and "vasectomised".
Just recently I was chatting to someone that I've known of for quite a while and would certainly have wanted to play with. Until he mentioned that he does on occasion play bareback. Now, I would have used condoms with him anyway, but knowing that he doesn't always use them ... yeuck, no ta. I won't be going there.
no, thats not the case and nor did i ever suggest that. i would even highlight the fact they wern`t all members of this site.
i certainly don`t disagree with peoples choices to do what they want. hey, go for it.... fill your boots...literally. i admit this whole scene can appear sordid and i`m part of it all, but rest assured i`m not trying to sit on my moral high ground and be all righteous and judgemental.
it may be boring now, but i`ve only ben a member since the middle of feb so give me a chance to catch up.
if you`re really lucky i may even tell you about the time i cured the sick, gave sight to the blind and fed 5000 people with a fish and some buns from greggs.
i certainly don`t disagree with peoples choices to do what they want. hey, go for it.... fill your boots...literally. i admit this whole scene can appear sordid and i`m part of it all, but rest assured i`m not trying to sit on my moral high ground and be all righteous and judgemental.
it may be boring now, but i`ve only ben a member since the middle of feb so give me a chance to catch up.
if you`re really lucky i may even tell you about the time i cured the sick, gave sight to the blind and fed 5000 people with a fish and some buns from greggs.
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i admit this whole scene can appear sordid and i`m part of it all, but rest assured i`m not trying to sit on my moral high ground and be all righteous and judgemental.
It isn't sordid.
Just 'put your jacket on' and enjoy the scene. Many others have and many others will. :grin:
Sex God
Quote by Hipsway
no, thats not the case and nor did i ever suggest that. i would even highlight the fact they wern`t all members of this site.
i certainly don`t disagree with peoples choices to do what they want. hey, go for it.... fill your boots...literally. i admit this whole scene can appear sordid and i`m part of it all, but rest assured i`m not trying to sit on my moral high ground and be all righteous and judgemental.
it may be boring now, but i`ve only ben a member since the middle of feb so give me a chance to catch up.
if you`re really lucky i may even tell you about the time i cured the sick, gave sight to the blind and fed 5000 people with a fish and some buns from greggs.
Now that I find funny :lol: Quote by Hipsway
i`ve had an add rolling on here for a fair few weeks now. But what HAS alarmed me and made me quite numb with shock is the number of men (from a couple) who have contacted me and asked if i will do `bareback` fun.
Quote by Hipsway
i would even highlight the fact they wern`t all members of this site.
so have you taken up your concerns on the other sites you use?
all you do is say "no thanks"...if people want to shag without condoms,let them shag without condoms its never going to affect you so why all the fuss?
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i`m not trying to sit on my moral high ground and be all righteous and judgemental.
yes you are...so why bring the subject up?
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This must be the atmosphere and bitching everyone's been whinging about, eh?
Bitching??...where??
is this whats going to be quoted every time someone has something to say...which doesn't sound fluffy?
Not at all. In fact I am very much of the anti-fluffy brigade but I don't condone picking apart people's posts, twisting their words and .. you know what, I can't be arsed. Fucks sake. It gets worse on here.
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This must be the atmosphere and bitching everyone's been whinging about, eh?
Bitching??...where??
is this whats going to be quoted every time someone has something to say...which doesn't sound fluffy?
Not at all. In fact I am very much of the anti-fluffy brigade but I don't condone picking apart people's posts, twisting their words and .. you know what, I can't be arsed. Fucks sake. It gets worse on here.
i am trying to understand why he is so sickened why some people choose to go bare back...there are rooms in Chat...which are always full because they are for people interested in bare back...i don't go into them because its not my thing....but i won't whinge about them either...or start a thread about it...just to get attention to my profile!
Quote by Kiss
I got called a sicko in the chat rooms because I happened to say that I liked watching guy-on-guy fun.
On my list of things to dooooo :grin:
At first I thought "maybe im weird"
now, i've found there are actually a lot of women that have it on their wish list 
Going back to the original topic of "bareback" - each to there own i think, personally we avoid, but i say :thumbup: for their honesty which allows people to make their own informed choices
Well... call me a sceptic but as I said before I think its all about 'look at my ad.. I'm a good guy who you can trust'
Sorry!!
Nothing personal in anyway as I don't know you but I think there are far sicker things in life worthy of mention though not on here obviously. Sometimes the fun can be removed from everything if you dig deep enough.
Sorry!!
Nothing personal in anyway as I don't know you but I think there are far sicker things in life worthy of mention though not on here obviously. Sometimes the fun can be removed from everything if you dig deep enough.
