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Well Ok.. Being a "straight guy" has it's plusses!... Or does it? Never before have I been curious, nor have I been a "Homophobe/anti expressionist". In fact I'm very open minded about most things carnal and life, and usually just simply accept that people are different and have different needs.. end of story.... So... how comes I'm getting curious now? At 42 I wouldn't have thought it would be important to me to vocalise or indeed print my curiosity, however this site has got me thinking, and that's a dangerous area for me cos I always seem to have to find answers to my curiosities. How does one overcome the ignorances, the awkwardness, the fear, and most importantly the challenge of accepting that you are indeed more than just curious? Am I confused.......? Sure I am, but I'm not wanting to remain so. I'm becoming more curious as to why I am curious to explore this area of sexuality.. Any answers?
Paul...
i had the very same feelings when i reached 40 and wanted to see what it was all about.
All im going to say here is i have now sorted out my feeling and have had some fun along the way.
I hope you come to a decision that in the end gets you to where you are going.
be carefull and always be safe
Interesting post - regardless of my sexuality, I really do believe that you should try something rather than be left wondering, regardless of the outcome... at least then you'll know.... and what have you got to lose? confused
Good luck with whatever you decide to do mate :thumbup:
Quote by Robert1961
i had the very same feelings when i reached 40 and wanted to see what it was all about.
All im going to say here is i have now sorted out my feeling and have had some fun along the way.
I hope you come to a decision that in the end gets you to where you are going.
be carefull and always be safe

Thanks Robert.. I wonder... Is it common for the 40's age range to become curious?
Glad ya had fun along your journey... hopefully I'll enjoy mine too.
Paul.
Quote by Bloke2005
Interesting post - regardless of my sexuality, I really do believe that you should try something rather than be left wondering, regardless of the outcome... at least then you'll know.... and what have you got to lose? confused
Good luck with whatever you decide to do mate :thumbup:

Cheers Bloke... I agree with you that one should try something.. and I reckon there's more to lose by not exploring.. but I'm still at the curious stage, sorta like a born again virgin dunno which way to go??? how to approach it etc.. I'm confident I'll get the answers eventually .. I'm a bit like a terrier with a rag and I've got my teeth fimly into this one...lol..
Paul.
Good luck babe kiss
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Quote by Bloke2005
Interesting post - regardless of my sexuality, I really do believe that you should try something rather than be left wondering, regardless of the outcome... at least then you'll know.... and what have you got to lose? confused
Good luck with whatever you decide to do mate :thumbup:

Yes, I totally agree and most of us had to take the step into ‘trying something rather than be left wondering’ when we started swinging in the first place, so taking another step into discovering an attraction to an opposite gender is just the next step. And actually that would be a very good philosophy to carry through to the rest of your life too, you never know until you try.
I agree with all of the above. have recently becom bi cur myself at least want to give it a go, among other things hopefully SH will help me do that. good luck. berks bex wld luv to hr from you sometime as yr in berkshire area to.
i only became curious myself approx a year ago and im 38.
Since then became more and more attracted to idea and recently i overcame curiousity and did something about it lol
Im very glad did and am not looking back.
Like Bloke said i to you should try something new rather than be left wondering that way you know for sure. I wish i hadnt left it so long myself.
Good luck i hopeit all goes well for you smile
Carol
Its difficult to take the first step. But there's plenty of people out there who are willing to help you.
got to 43 before the urge really got to me ,tried hard to fight them back but after a few minutes thought well why not ,, Thats when I found this site, and believe me if you can choose right there are plenty to help..one way or the other
now I say good luck to all those facing this dilema and go on you know you want to! hump
Well thanks peeps for all your help and advice. Some really helpful PM's smile too.
Sorry I haven't answered individually but... sad this site keeps eating the damn postings. <<< has coppied this one... just in case...lol ... Gonna start a "luck" bag cos I reckon I'll be needing that.. So cheers for all the luck, hugs, smooches, kisses and good wishes y'all sent my way.. I guess it is just another step along the way as Bex said..Anyway it's a good perspective to look from.
again thanks all. xx
Paul.