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To kiss or not to kiss:that is the question
Hello Clarensteve
This has been discussed twice before but it is worth doing again. Personally I don't even like snogging the wife unless I have to!!!
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http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/1633.html
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/5901.html
This has been discussed twice before but it is worth doing again. Personally I don't even like snogging the wife unless I have to!!!
ops: :oops:http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/1633.html
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/5901.html
Sex God
Clare'n'Steve thanks for this post, the timings perfect! and Sarge thanks for the links you posted in reply. what a mine of valuable info you are! ;-)
i've got my first party this weekend ( woo hoo! ) and was wondering about etiquette in general, including kissing. for me kissing is the single BIGGEST turn on there is, but only with someone i want to feel that sense of real intimacy with. i don't think a swinging situation is intimate in that sense? to date only had one MMF with a couple i met here, and certainly NONE of us tried anything other than a polite peck hello/goodbye, so i took my cues from them! don't think i personally would be comfortable with it! but i can see how if you ARE comfortable with it, and expecting it, you might feel something's lacking in the foreplay?
if it isn't hijacking the thread to expand into a general discussion of swinging etiquette, i'd be interested to read of any other big do's and don'ts. obviously agreeing as much as possible (agreeing everything in detail???) beforehand and taking cues from the other participants is the general way forward, but are there any kind of general rules i should be aware of?
neil x x x
i've got my first party this weekend ( woo hoo! ) and was wondering about etiquette in general, including kissing. for me kissing is the single BIGGEST turn on there is, but only with someone i want to feel that sense of real intimacy with. i don't think a swinging situation is intimate in that sense? to date only had one MMF with a couple i met here, and certainly NONE of us tried anything other than a polite peck hello/goodbye, so i took my cues from them! don't think i personally would be comfortable with it! but i can see how if you ARE comfortable with it, and expecting it, you might feel something's lacking in the foreplay?
if it isn't hijacking the thread to expand into a general discussion of swinging etiquette, i'd be interested to read of any other big do's and don'ts. obviously agreeing as much as possible (agreeing everything in detail???) beforehand and taking cues from the other participants is the general way forward, but are there any kind of general rules i should be aware of?
neil x x x
Personally I love a good snog! If I`m going to let someone shag me, then I want to at least know how they kiss. Mars however says that he would feel `weird` kissing another guy, even though he is bi-curious. When it comes to another woman, to be honest I haven`t given it much thought, I`ll cross that bridge when I come to it. I have been with another woman before, and we did kiss, but it wasn`t the best of experiances. That was more to do with not being compatable with the woman more than my preferences though.
Venusxxx
Venusxxx
I had a conversation about this subject only recently... for me, it depends.
I peck, a soft lips tango is fine... but when they try to stuff their tongue in your voice box, that's going too far!
Especially when they've got bad breath... :shock:
That's another thing... what do you say when you're quite happy to suck a bloke's cock, but his halitosis would knock out a bull elephant? Is it polite to offer him a box of tic-tacs?
:shock:
Hxx
I peck, a soft lips tango is fine... but when they try to stuff their tongue in your voice box, that's going too far!
Especially when they've got bad breath... :shock:
That's another thing... what do you say when you're quite happy to suck a bloke's cock, but his halitosis would knock out a bull elephant? Is it polite to offer him a box of tic-tacs?
:shock: Hxx
A kiss is a wonderful way to preview the delights that await. Not only does it give you a taste of things to come but it fires up the connections between lips, loins,nipples and all the other erogenous receptors. However it is an intensley intimate experience and if for some its a bridge too far I understand that .
The importance of a kiss is reflected by a lady I met recently, who on our first meet said nothing but walked up to me and kissed me, and after a sensual and intense kiss, said to me; I had to kiss you to know if this was going to be right..
It was , for both of us ....and I now know what she meant.
So for me the kiss is in.
The importance of a kiss is reflected by a lady I met recently, who on our first meet said nothing but walked up to me and kissed me, and after a sensual and intense kiss, said to me; I had to kiss you to know if this was going to be right..
It was , for both of us ....and I now know what she meant.
So for me the kiss is in.
Forum Virgin
My first post this so Hi folks.
Kissing .... for me kissing can be as good as a blow job, and kissing can be as satisfactory as one. Might not be the best blow job I'm talking about but you get my drift, it's alll sensual
I guess my answer is each to their own.
S
Kissing .... for me kissing can be as good as a blow job, and kissing can be as satisfactory as one. Might not be the best blow job I'm talking about but you get my drift, it's alll sensual
I guess my answer is each to their own.
S
Sex God
I've only kissed certain guys. It's not that I pick and choose in any particular fashion, but of the many experiences Jon and I have had, I've actually only FELT like kissing two of the guys.
These guys we met on many occassions, one at our home and the other at his. I felt comfortable with them and kissing them, although it did give Jon a 'jolt' the first time I did it. He was surprised that I had kissed a guy.
We had never discussed kissing before we started swinging and on that instance I had just done it out of the blue because I felt like doing it. It had not previously entered my mind that I would want to kiss anyone else.
We talked about it later, and agreed that as part of the act itself, it was fine to do. It can be a turn on to kiss someone as part of the fun and makes for a better experience in the right circumstances.
I know some people like to keep kissing out of swinging and only between the couple themselves. It's all down to personal preferences.
We go dogging a fair bit and I have never kissed doggers, however much their involvement has been We've had some fantastic times dogging but just haven't felt the 'urge' to kiss 
Tracy-Jayne & Jon
These guys we met on many occassions, one at our home and the other at his. I felt comfortable with them and kissing them, although it did give Jon a 'jolt' the first time I did it. He was surprised that I had kissed a guy.
We had never discussed kissing before we started swinging and on that instance I had just done it out of the blue because I felt like doing it. It had not previously entered my mind that I would want to kiss anyone else.
We talked about it later, and agreed that as part of the act itself, it was fine to do. It can be a turn on to kiss someone as part of the fun and makes for a better experience in the right circumstances.
I know some people like to keep kissing out of swinging and only between the couple themselves. It's all down to personal preferences.
We go dogging a fair bit and I have never kissed doggers, however much their involvement has been
We've had some fantastic times dogging but just haven't felt the 'urge' to kiss Tracy-Jayne & Jon
Interesting topic although it has been discussed before.
My friend C (female) and I had a mmf threesome on Tuesday this week. The other male (A) is a friend of mine and has been in threesomes with another lady partner of mine previously.
The evening went really well and everyone, especially C, had a great time. The only thing that bugged me was C snogging A. I said nothing at the time but discussed with C when he had left.
I'm still not 100% sure why it bothered me as it had not done so previously. But after much thought I am leaning towards the fact that my relationship with C has developed beyond one based on swinging. So, now I see someone kissing C passionately as more of a threat to our relationship than one where just sex is involved. Maybe now I see kissing as more intimate than just a darn good shag. I must be becoming insecure.
Well, I've just typed that and wonder if I have made any sense at all
Paul
My friend C (female) and I had a mmf threesome on Tuesday this week. The other male (A) is a friend of mine and has been in threesomes with another lady partner of mine previously.
The evening went really well and everyone, especially C, had a great time. The only thing that bugged me was C snogging A. I said nothing at the time but discussed with C when he had left.
I'm still not 100% sure why it bothered me as it had not done so previously. But after much thought I am leaning towards the fact that my relationship with C has developed beyond one based on swinging. So, now I see someone kissing C passionately as more of a threat to our relationship than one where just sex is involved. Maybe now I see kissing as more intimate than just a darn good shag. I must be becoming insecure.
Well, I've just typed that and wonder if I have made any sense at all
Paul
Sex God
for me it depends on how i met the person and the situation we are in.
if it was a planned meet and i am spending a reasonable amount of time with the person, and it is not rushed at all, then kissing is usually one of the first steps and can be very erotic.
if it is in a club situation where i have only bumped into the person a few mins earlier... then it is not normally a major part, but i still tend to snog the person i went with!!!
btw.. i love kissing.... so come and snog me at the munch!!!!
if it was a planned meet and i am spending a reasonable amount of time with the person, and it is not rushed at all, then kissing is usually one of the first steps and can be very erotic.
if it is in a club situation where i have only bumped into the person a few mins earlier... then it is not normally a major part, but i still tend to snog the person i went with!!!
btw.. i love kissing.... so come and snog me at the munch!!!!
Sex God
Hello forum,
Kissing is cool, people should kiss more often, kissing should take over from handshakes in my opinion.
Kissing is cool, people should kiss more often, kissing should take over from handshakes in my opinion.
Sex God
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for me it depends on how i met the person and the situation we are in.
if it was a planned meet and i am spending a reasonable amount of time with the person, and it is not rushed at all, then kissing is usually one of the first steps and can be very erotic.
if it is in a club situation where i have only bumped into the person a few mins earlier... then it is not normally a major part, but i still tend to snog the person i went with!!!
btw.. i love kissing.... so come and snog me at the munch!!!!
Have to say I entirely agree with WBB on this one. One on one sex just wouldnt be the same without kisses, but in a group situation, I wouldn't kiss other participants as a general rule.
But I love kissing too, can I snog you WBB?? :twisted:
Sex God
From a blokes point of view, I was against Tracy-Jayne kissing when we started, and we agreed that would be the case. However, as things do, it kind of happened during one meeting.
This caused me some twisting of emotions at first, and we spoke about it at length afterwards.
I have come to realise though, that kissing IS part of the act, and depending upon the circumstances, is likely to happen. She has never kissed while we've been dogging, but has kissed most of our swinging partners.
It is entirely up to her if she kisses or not, and she only does it if the situation is 'right' and she feels inclined to do it. It has made a difference to our meets, for the better.
Not too informative a post I'm afraid, but just giving another view on kissing.
Jon
This caused me some twisting of emotions at first, and we spoke about it at length afterwards.
I have come to realise though, that kissing IS part of the act, and depending upon the circumstances, is likely to happen. She has never kissed while we've been dogging, but has kissed most of our swinging partners.
It is entirely up to her if she kisses or not, and she only does it if the situation is 'right' and she feels inclined to do it. It has made a difference to our meets, for the better.
Not too informative a post I'm afraid, but just giving another view on kissing.
Jon
Sex God
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But I love kissing too, can I snog you WBB?? :twisted:
anytime honey
xxxx
I'm a very tactile, demonstrative person so kissing and hugs just come naturally and kissing is one way of knowing whether there is any chemistry between you.
Well, today's history trivia is that it was the fashion that everybody kissed when meeting in the C15, even for the first time. Bring it back!
Sappho xxx
Quote by mollyandchris_54746
Kissing is cool, people should kiss more often, kissing should take over from handshakes in my opinion.
Well, today's history trivia is that it was the fashion that everybody kissed when meeting in the C15, even for the first time. Bring it back!
Sappho xxx
