Told A Vanilla.....

5 Dec 2005

Hi all.... last nite i done something and i have to share it with u....
i told a vanilla i was a swinger.
i was nervous as hell, wasnt sure of her reaction...i called her and told her i had something to tell her.
she said...ur not going to tell me ur gay are u...NO....bi...NO....(at this point i am wondering if she thinks i am attracted to blokes)
i said no i am a SWINGER.
Long pause.......ok.....so u have sex with other people...yes....what and swap...well yes.... then started a 1hr converstaion about swinging.. My vanilla mate was loverly she took it so well...she was very curious of what i did..where we met that kinda thing....
i would like to say i cant belive i told some1.
Mike

5 Dec 2005

Quote by MikeC
i would like to say i cant belive i told some1.
Mike

We all knew.... lol
But its good you have a "normal" mate who is cool with it.

5 Dec 2005

yeah and.....
is she a honey??? when are you signing her up for the site????
come on, share the wealth :rascal:

5 Dec 2005

she is a good mate,
she wont be signing up as she told me already it wudnt be her thing......
MikeC

5 Dec 2005

Thats so cool how she was OK with it.

5 Dec 2005

Quote by MikeC
she is a good mate,
she wont be signing up as she told me already it wudnt be her thing......
MikeC

That's what a lot say Mike.
Good for you Matey wink

5 Dec 2005

lol, that could have gone 1 of 2 ways, thankfully it went the better one :P
one question tho, please excuse me as im a newbie
whats a vanilla? confused

5 Dec 2005

Nice one Mike
My internet sister is the only one I have told and shes cool with it
binnie a Vanilla is someone who dosent swing

5 Dec 2005

So is she a vanilla you'll still be having sex with?
In which case it'll only be a matter of time before she's at a munch.
I bet you a pint.

5 Dec 2005

Quote by binnie
lol, that could have gone 1 of 2 ways, thankfully it went the better one :P
one question tho, please excuse me as im a newbie
whats a vanilla?

a non swinger.

5 Dec 2005

Does that mean you have a dogging partner now Mike wink

:shock:

5 Dec 2005

I did toy with telling a friend of mine the other week but then she mentioned she'd been messaged by a guy on a dating site who was into swinging. Her comments made me realise it would not be a good idea :shock:

5 Dec 2005

I told my mum and my dad i was a swinger they are cool with it.
Sits pondering if they are vanillas they accepted it so easy

5 Dec 2005

Good on ya. Spread the word. I remember going through something similar, talking about the D&S scene when I was vaguely into it. It's nice to be able to explain that a scene isn't necessarily the way that "outsiders" perceive it...that there's love and respect and trust...and that without those elements it just doesn't work.

5 Dec 2005

We have told a few "vanillas" of our swinging, and they are all very supportive and quite inquisitive of what we do .....
Most male vanilla friends are jealous of the relationship i have with Andy and the females are just bloody nosey although quite impressed that I am that open with my sexuality. We find it easier to tell most of our friends then we do not have to tell fibs when we are off on a meet. Although we do have a couple of friends who would not "get it" and therefore have chosen not to tell them our secret... YET !!
Well done tho Mike I know it is a big step the first time you tell a Vanilla !!
Hugs
Sarah x x x x

5 Dec 2005

Well done Mike!
Virtually everyone we know (apart from parents) knows what we're into, and they treat us no differently. That may be because we choose open-minded friends though.
I'm sure that most people are the 'live and let live' type these days, but sometimes you do have to be a bit careful.
I always say that if someone doesn't care enough about me to respect my views, then they don't deserve to be my friend anyway - so if I ever fell out with someone over my lifestyle, that's the way I'd see it!

5 Dec 2005

Well done mike
Wish i was as brave
Only ones that know about me are other swingers & my wife
Bi-Guy-Notts

5 Dec 2005

Good on ya Mike
i told my best mate and now he is one here as well and getting more action that me
thats how it goes i surpose

5 Dec 2005

i told my sister and she wanted me to take her to a club :shock:
wasn't expecting that one :lol:

5 Dec 2005

hwoar:
Bloody hell, we find it really hard to be able to tell anyone, go the brave ones :thumbup:
When we had our first meet with a couple it was" OH MY GOD " then we talked about it between ourselves for about a week.
Wish we could tell others.

5 Dec 2005

I think it was lucky it worked out so easily. Or you had good judegment this time. There will be other people who may not accept you and your lifestyle so readily, so you will need to exercise judgement the next time.

5 Dec 2005

i did excersise judgment thats why i told such friend.....
i wud not tell the captain of my fottbal team or a person at work.....
MikeC

6 Dec 2005

Sounds like the kind of questions I asked when my friend told me he was involved in the swinging scene....
I'd sign her up now while it's still free! ;)
kiss

Gem. x

6 Dec 2005

I thought I was a swinger but really I'm not. I'm just part of a threesome. However, we are open about it. I don't think my children know but probably they do. I haven't told them but probably somebody has.
My men friends are mostly of the "Why didn't you pick me?" sort of thing. My girl-friends want to know all the details of what we do.
Mollie

6 Dec 2005

Glad it went well with your friend Mike.
I thought about telling my best friend - she knows I used to play with a couple so I doubt it would come as a big shock, but somehow I don't feel quite ready yet.