Too Stunning to Swing?

29 Jul 2008

Inspired by t'other thread....
I have always believed that the more "glammed up" I get for a vanilla night out, the less attention I get. Jeans & a t-shirt tend to give out "approachable" signals, whilst a LBD tends to be quite intimidating.
After camp last month, a very lovely guy commented that he found me quite intimidating :shock: It surprised me a little, as I'm one of the most down to earth kinda gals I know.
Moving swiftly on to the point lol

Do you find some fellow swingers unapproachable? is it because you think there too hardened....out of your league......too intelligent....too attractive.....or from a different social group?
Is someone really beautiful/handsome actually disadvantaged in the swinging scene because people daren't approach dunno

Why can't I have that problem :dunno: :lol2:
Feel free to use this thread to tell your "unnaproachables" should you wish- it can only be a compliment! wink

29 Jul 2008

im going to class me not getting many replies to messages because im too handsome!
probably not true in the slightest but it makes me feel better!! biggrin

29 Jul 2008

Quote by winchwench
Do you find some fellow swingers unapproachable? is it because you think there too hardened....out of your league......too intelligent....too attractive.....or from a different social group?

Definately, 100% yes! No way would I approach someone with a suggestion of some naughty fun, no matter how much I fancied them, and I have to say that it is normally the 'regulars' who I may have some very naughty, secret yearnings for, but could never, ever make the first move.
However, if offers are available, then my pm box is that way <<<<<<<<<<
It is a bit of thinking they are in a different league and a bit of thinking I am worried by rejection (if you dont ask, they dont say no, but then again, if you dont ask, they dont say yes either) confused

29 Jul 2008

Quote by winchwench
After camp last month, a very lovely guy commented that he found me quite intimidating :shock: It surprised me a little, as I'm one of the most down to earth kinda gals I know.

i can see what he means wench, you do look like you scrub up well! biggrin

29 Jul 2008

Quote by winchwench
Inspired by t'other thread....
I have always believed that the more "glammed up" I get for a vanilla night out, the less attention I get. Jeans & a t-shirt tend to give out "approachable" signals, whilst a LBD tends to be quite intimidating.

Do you know, I used to live in a part of south Manchester that was a bit notorious for its *ahem* ladies of the night... Aaaaanyway, I never ever got kerb crawled when I was dressed up for work or a night out. If on the other hand, I was in my scruffs going to the shop for a paper or something, hair and make up distinctly needing attention, always got approached...
dunno

What?!

p.s. coming back to the rest of the original post when I have ruminated some....

29 Jul 2008

Quote by red_dragon2006

After camp last month, a very lovely guy commented that he found me quite intimidating :shock: It surprised me a little, as I'm one of the most down to earth kinda gals I know.

i can see what he means wench, you do look like you scrub up well! biggrin

Thanks, but it's just the bleach wink

29 Jul 2008

Quote by red_dragon2006

After camp last month, a very lovely guy commented that he found me quite intimidating :shock: It surprised me a little, as I'm one of the most down to earth kinda gals I know.

i can see what he means wench, you do look like you scrub up well! biggrin

So well put! (Seriously!)
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29 Jul 2008

Quote by winchwench

After camp last month, a very lovely guy commented that he found me quite intimidating :shock: It surprised me a little, as I'm one of the most down to earth kinda gals I know.

i can see what he means wench, you do look like you scrub up well! biggrin

Thanks, but it's just the bleach wink

ahh, i see youve been complimented before! smile

29 Jul 2008

Shall I just butt out then??
rotflmao

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29 Jul 2008

talk to me choony hun biggrin

29 Jul 2008

Quote by westerross
Shall I just butt out then??

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i had no idea what to reply to you with!!??
thanks?? lol

29 Jul 2008

Will you two please behave! It's started to look like "The Winchwench appreciation society" in here smackbottom

Thanks though redface

29 Jul 2008

Quote by winchwench
Will you two please behave! It's started to look like "The Winchwench appreciation society" in here
Thanks though

where do i go to join that then ? :P

29 Jul 2008

oh so szo many times rolleyes

29 Jul 2008

i, of course am way too gorgeous to get meets...thats my excuse and im sticking to it :giggle:

29 Jul 2008

Quote by winchwench
Is someone really beautiful/handsome actually disadvantaged in the swinging scene because people daren't approach

But what is classed as beautiful/ handsome/ stunning / gorgeous?
You only have to start asking a few people which actor they think is THE most beautiful/ handsome/ stunning / gorgeous one - and you will have a many varied list
Beauty is indeed in the eye of the beholder and someone that is considered a beauty to one person is seen as rather plain and nothing special by someone else
x H x

29 Jul 2008

I often think I won't be in someones 'league'.There are some real outstanding charecters on the forums who I'd imagine to be just as remarkable in 'real life' - the starter of this thread being one of those! redface

29 Jul 2008

Quote by niceandgentle
I often think I won't be in someones 'league'.There are some real outstanding charecters on the forums who I'd imagine to be just as remarkable in 'real life' - the starter of this thread being one of those!

another compliment hun...you are smokin tonight (and always) lol

oooohhh wow, can i have a spray of winchy pheremones please..... :giggle: :giggle: :giggle:

29 Jul 2008

I must admit that once I did meet a couple at a munch and I was completely stunned by how attractive they both were. Yes, I guess that put me off making any kind of suggestion to them. Now I have been around the place a bit longer, and am more confident in my own self and my sense of 'belonging' or 'right' to be part of the scene, maybe it would be different.... who knows!

29 Jul 2008

Quote by noladreams30
I must admit that once I did meet a couple at a munch and I was completely stunned by how attractive they both were. Yes, I guess that put me off making any kind of suggestion to them. Now I have been around the place a bit longer, and am more confident in my own self and my sense of 'belonging' or 'right' to be part of the scene, maybe it would be different.... who knows!

Does that mean yer dropping us plain ones?? sad

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29 Jul 2008

I don't know whether anyone is out of my league. I suppose that I am happy with rejection so wouldn't think twice if someone didn't fancy me as attraction is such a personal thing. It is not just about weight/height/looks/personality.
I suppose the most frightened I was about approaching someone was when I thought someone was straight but wanted to tell them that I thought they were gorgeous. I was pleasantly excited (o.k. o.k. I was damn feckin' thrilled) when they told me they were bi.
I would be gutted if someone thought that anyone else was better than them or too good for them. I would lose respect for anyone who thought that they were better than someone else.
We are all wonderful and amazing and unique, that is what makes us special. There shouldn't be any sort of hierarchy but especially not in swinging.

29 Jul 2008

Quote by westerross
I must admit that once I did meet a couple at a munch and I was completely stunned by how attractive they both were. Yes, I guess that put me off making any kind of suggestion to them. Now I have been around the place a bit longer, and am more confident in my own self and my sense of 'belonging' or 'right' to be part of the scene, maybe it would be different.... who knows!

Does that mean yer dropping us plain ones?? sad

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:therethere: Mr essence sir, whoever said you were plain? smackbottom

I'll show 'em!
Nah, seriously, I am just thinking on Winchy's original idea of whether good looks disadvantage you. I mean my being intimidated by their good looks means they may have missed out on a great shag....
bolt

I'm so joking btw.

29 Jul 2008

Quote by noladreams30
I must admit that once I did meet a couple at a munch and I was completely stunned by how attractive they both were. Yes, I guess that put me off making any kind of suggestion to them. Now I have been around the place a bit longer, and am more confident in my own self and my sense of 'belonging' or 'right' to be part of the scene, maybe it would be different.... who knows!

Does that mean yer dropping us plain ones?? sad

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:therethere: Mr essence sir, whoever said you were plain? smackbottom

I'll show 'em!
Nah, seriously, I am just thinking on Winchy's original idea of whether good looks disadvantage you. I mean my being intimidated by their good looks means they may have missed out on a great shag....
bolt

I'm so joking btw.
Aaah - now I get you! confused

I think.

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29 Jul 2008

S'okay... I'm full of waffly crap tonight Choon!
What splendid_ said up there ^^^^^ was waaaay more profound! :thumbup:

29 Jul 2008

Quote by Bonedigger
I often think I won't be in someones 'league'.There are some real outstanding charecters on the forums who I'd imagine to be just as remarkable in 'real life' - the starter of this thread being one of those!

another compliment hun...you are smokin tonight (and always) lol

oooohhh wow, can i have a spray of winchy pheremones please..... :giggle: :giggle: :giggle:
Thank you both kiss

However, Boney, I think you could do with less stuff to sniff, not more me dear! :lol2:
Mad, the bleedin lot of ya! Apart from Splendid, who has been very profound- and possibly Nola for spotting it. And being a Prince fan.

29 Jul 2008

Quote by winchwench
Do you find some fellow swingers unapproachable? is it because you think there too hardened....out of your league......too intelligent....too attractive.....or from a different social group?

Without coming across as really vain, when I've attended a number of events arranged on this site these being:
Munch
Social
Invite Only Parties (arranged via Photo Adverts & the 'Lets Meet Up' section).
I've had a number of people saying how lovely I look :shock: Some even saying that I must have Ladies flirt with me always confused

In the 'vanilla world, Females have mentioned that due to my good looks & what they see as my persona. They feel like a nervous Female in the 1960's fainting in the presence of
The Beatles... :shock:
So I hardly get chatted up as I guess they would become uncontrollable.... :!: Therefore a danger to themselves & others.
It's so very sad as I have so much to give the Ladies, but being close to me must be like looking at Zeus on Mount Olympus. Want to touch but cannot.

Quote by winchwench
Is someone really beautiful/handsome actually disadvantaged in the swinging scene because people daren't approach

You're telling me. It's very difficult being me as being so lovely is hard yet am an lovely person inside as well :twisted: (check the 'double meaning').
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29 Jul 2008

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29 Jul 2008

Quote by Freckledbird
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29 Jul 2008

Quote by Cherrytree
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That too!

29 Jul 2008

Quote by splendid_
I suppose that I am happy with rejection so wouldn't think twice if someone didn't fancy me as attraction is such a personal thing. It is not just about weight/height/looks/personality.
We are all wonderful and amazing and unique, that is what makes us special. There shouldn't be any sort of hierarchy but especially not in swinging.

Well said - my thoughts completely - it's what makes the world a good place, all our differences and that we all like different things