Touching and stroking

2 Oct 2006

Well....here it is, my first post.
I want to "dip my toe" into the waters of swinging and am thinking of visiting a club.
At the moment, I'm only interested in snogging and touching.
Would this be looked on as being unacceptably tame and even insulting to any ladies, even though I am good with my fingers?
Shy guy

2 Oct 2006

"dip your toes"????
Why not just jump in both feet first and be done with it.. biggrin

Anyway, :welcome: to the forums - this is where all the fun happens, or so I have been told.
:bounce:

2 Oct 2006

just be clear youre only wanting soft swing with touching, stroking n kissing and you'll hopefully find someone who wants the same thing.
dont put pressure on yourself to perform acts youre not happy or comfy with at this stage.
good luck.
kiss

2 Oct 2006

welcome to the forums...
Much of swinging is down to personal choice and preferences.... so no-ones gonna knock you for
having boundaries as were all in the< same boat --------one way or another.
i could think of far worse things that could render you "socially unnacceptable" but wanting to go slowly, limit your involvement or not have full sex isnt really one of them........
what i would do however is truly look at the reason why you have theses boundaries and ask yourself whether Swinging ( which you obviously see as being more of a "no holds barred activity" is really for you................ i personally do not believe it suits the "shy"
good luck.....

2 Oct 2006

maybe your not ready to plunge in head first.
so if all you want to do is touch, stroke and kiss, im sure that would be fine
with a lot of people.
theres a lot of places you can touch, stroke and kiss wink

ive had loads of fun with just that. biggrin

:D :D

2 Oct 2006

Quote by ShyGuy1955
Well....here it is, my first post.
I want to "dip my toe" into the waters of swinging and am thinking of visiting a club.
At the moment, I'm only interested in snogging and touching.
Would this be looked on as being unacceptably tame and even insulting to any ladies, even though I am good with my fingers?
Shy guy

imo, not at all, in fact, this kind of respectful attention rather than going striaght in there like a bull in a china shop on viagra is an approach I for one would certainly welcome :thumbup: How fucking refreshing is that!
as long as you make your intentions and boundaries clear (see, it works all ways) I dont see how 'just wanting to touch and kiss' is insulting at all dunno

2 Oct 2006

Quote by ShyGuy1955
Well....here it is, my first post.
I want to "dip my toe" into the waters of swinging and am thinking of visiting a club.
At the moment, I'm only interested in snogging and touching.
Would this be looked on as being unacceptably tame and even insulting to any ladies, even though I am good with my fingers?
Shy guy

Quote by Darkfire
imo, not at all, in fact, this kind of respectful attention rather than going striaght in there like a bull in a china shop on viagra is an approach I for one would certainly welcome :thumbup: How fucking refreshing is that!

I'm glad you said this Dark 'cos ShyGuy has kind of expressed my trepidation about my first club night.
Nice to know that my inhibited nature might be appreciated by some.
Just gotta make sure I find the right one's to be inhibited with. rotflmao

3 Oct 2006

Thanks to all for your kind and sensitive replies.
A further question: should one adopt the Robin Hood approach and jump in feet first or the Cuddly Catlin approach and plunge in head first?
Take care
Shyguy

3 Oct 2006

Quote by Darkfire
Well....here it is, my first post.
I want to "dip my toe" into the waters of swinging and am thinking of visiting a club.
At the moment, I'm only interested in snogging and touching.
Would this be looked on as being unacceptably tame and even insulting to any ladies, even though I am good with my fingers?
Shy guy

imo, not at all, in fact, this kind of respectful attention rather than going striaght in there like a bull in a china shop on viagra is an approach I for one would certainly welcome :thumbup: How fucking refreshing is that!
as long as you make your intentions and boundaries clear (see, it works all ways) I dont see how 'just wanting to touch and kiss' is insulting at all dunno

OOO, I've never seen a china shop on Viagra before rolleyes

5 Oct 2006

Hey shyguy, they're your limits and you stick to them and keep in your comfort zone. Good for you for stating your boundaries and going for it. We've yet to go to a party/club but it seems there are a wide vriety of people looking for very different experiences. BTW I always find slightly shy and respectful men rather attractive. lol

pink x

5 Oct 2006

Quote by Darkfire
imo, not at all, in fact, this kind of respectful attention rather than going striaght in there like a bull in a china shop on viagra is an approach I for one would certainly welcome :thumbup: How fucking refreshing is that!
as long as you make your intentions and boundaries clear (see, it works all ways) I dont see how 'just wanting to touch and kiss' is insulting at all

I aggree 100% :thumbup:
Thanks for that Dark, saved me typing it!

6 Oct 2006

Happy to see that the majority of people on here aren't judging shy because of his boundaries - we've found that so many people want so many things when swinging that there isn't really a typical 'thing' - its very much down to the individuals involved.
Yay for boundaries, personal choice and everyone respecting that. Swinging (on all levels) rocks!!
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