The only true answer to that one hun is....you can't :cry: . There is no tried and tested method for making sure before you get to know them that they're worth the effort. The best thing you have is gut instinct so if that does'nt feel right run a mile and don't look back.
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Dont think you ever can.
You can trust as much as you like, theres always someone who will repay that trust by betraying it.
We all of us put faith, trust, belief or whatever into others, but i'm afraid as with everything else in life, we all dont think the same way. To be honest a lack of trust is a handy defence mechanism at times.
One of lifes sadder foibles but what can you do? Apart from take everyone at face value until proven either way?
It is IMHO, purely down to luck.
I trusted my best friend, who I would have trusted with my life, to secrets about a relationship I was having. Unbeknownst to me, she was passing all the information on to a third party.
It's just luck as to whether someone you trust deserves that trust or not.
Cynical, I know but that's how I feel.
Trust is like respect....it has to be earned....so try starting with the small things before moving onto the larger ones.
I think the only way I could address issues of mistrust is to ignore the person who'd let me down.
Other than that, it's just a case of giving a bit at a time.
i got close to a member i have to be honest and say i regret doing opened up to me on various occasions about a situation in her private along the way i said the things she wanted to hear and before she went on holiday we had a real close chat about everything.
After this chat it made me think a little, here i was interfering in her private life and maybe adding more problems by making her think was telling me everything and yet i didnt really know her.
I noticed how much i had got to her when i made her cry on cam in the chatroom.I dont feel proud of myself and i had to turn my cam off because of clicked, always laughed but i had to send her a email explaining everything and why i felt we could no longer communicate in the way we had before and hoping she'd did and i still feel for her but after seeing her cry i can see i got too close to her and damaged something we shared.
I know it takes two to tango but by being a good friend it soon developed into more than that.
It is possible to make good friends on here but sometimes harder to keep it that can have friends and close friends but feelings are something you just cannot turn on and off.
Dont make the mistake i your distance and dont get involved a road to ruin.
btw.
The one person in my life i can trust totally is my mum.
She's always right,knows best mum does.
I wish I knew the answer to that one - if I did I'd be doing it. I don't trust anyone easily and like others have said following your gut instinct is probably the best thing to do. I don't like being like this but it's sometimes easier not to trust than to risk getting hurt
not everyones the same to convince you right now but its true.
Everytime you let someone in you risk getting hurt but you'll do it again and again.
It is worrying finding it easier not to trust than to trust and I don't like feeling like this but I have found that although it's easier not to trust some people come into my life who I grow to trust slowly over time - they somehow beat my defences. I'm not sure whether that make sense or not but what I think I'm trying to say is some people you can't help but trust. I think as well that once one person breaks any trust you had in them it makes you think about yourself and start having doubts about yourself, but it's the hurt that makes you like feel like that.
For me the glass is always half full, I feel that if you just met someone then you are not going to trust them a great deal....by the same token if you have known someone for a long time and they have broken your trust then they may never re-earn it....but to treat everyone the same and mis-trust those who have not deserved could you to pushing those away who love you most.......just a thought
so whats the alternative?
Don't trust anybody, therefore having no friends, therefore having no life, therefore being lonely?
I have been down that road, and its not a good place to be, I have finally learned to trust people, and am trying my hardest not assume everyone is going to let me down, I have, in recent weeks, come to realise that I have friends I didnt realise that I had, its an awesome feeling, and one I wouldnt have had if I had carried on as I had
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