Having sex with your woman after she has been with another man is really intense, both physically and emotionally and I usually produce a lot more cum.
My advice is never give up. If at first you don't succeed, try and try again. We recently fulfilled my fantasy of our black boyfriend cumming in Mrs N and I cleaned them both up after. Literally 23 years in the making as the guy was one of the first black guys we ever met.
At the time mrs N said it was one of the best fucks she'd ever had. We lost contact for many years but I saw him crop up again when he returned to the site and I asked if he'd like to meet us and Give Mrs N a Massage. He was kind and patient and after 5 more meets we moved to the ultimate pleasure for all 3 of us. You can read the stories of the build up to it on our profile. Communication is the key in my opinion.
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Not sure what its like from the male perspective but i've always loved "performing" while he sits there all pathetic viewing it....lolx
Sounds like you have it all sussed out. He's a lucky man to have found who is willing to exploit his obvious weakness. All power to you.