Having been married now for nearly 22 years whats the consensus on cards on valentines day? I mean i still love my woman very much i show her in many ways, we are a very devoted couple(yuk).
I just feel valentines day is now too commercialised, mrs p knows how i feel about cards.
you'd think after 22 years i would have the annswers but i hate doing things for the sake of i'd rather be sincere.
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I have to say - we feel the same about Xmas cards to each other as well.
It is very easy to buy a super card with a super gooey message in it. Some years ago we set a challeng to one another - buy the best card you can get for under a quid. This made us work at finding something nice. We had to look around and read lots of naff cards to find a good one. We sometimes even made mistakes - well - Wilma did and bought me a card which said "To a very special" and "Husband" in large print - and in between a line of small print saying "daughter and her"....... So now we sometimes buy inappropriate cards just for the laugh.
It is always the thought that counts. Buying a £10 card in a big box is easy - set yourself a real challenge - try and buy a really nice one for less than a quid - winner gets a sexual pleasure of their choice. (We never have a draw - there is always one card better than the other!) Anything over a quid and it is disqualified.
It puts the thought back into it and takes the commercialism out of it!
Oh - and never buy her flowers - it is the wrong message.....
"I am giving you something which is dying to remind you of our relationship!"
:roll: What sort of a message is that FFS!
WHAT? :shock:
I have used that excuse for 14 years - works for me!!!
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Fred*Hoping Wilma does not read the thread!*
It is very easy to buy a super card with a super gooey message in it. Some years ago we set a challeng to one another - buy the best card you can get for under a quid. This made us work at finding something nice. We had to look around and read lots of naff cards to find a good one. We sometimes even made mistakes - well - Wilma did and bought me a card which said "To a very special" and "Husband" in large print - and in between a line of small print saying "daughter and her"....... So now we sometimes buy inappropriate cards just for the laugh.
It is always the thought that counts. Buying a £10 card in a big box is easy - set yourself a real challenge - try and buy a really nice one for less than a quid - winner gets a sexual pleasure of their choice. (We never have a draw - there is always one card better than the other!) Anything over a quid and it is disqualified.
It puts the thought back into it and takes the commercialism out of it!
Oh - and never buy her flowers - it is the wrong message.....
"I am giving you something which is dying to remind you of our relationship!"
:roll: What sort of a message is that FFS!WHAT? :shock:
I have used that excuse for 14 years - works for me!!!
ops: :oops: Fred*Hoping Wilma does not read the thread!*
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"I am giving you something which is dying to remind you of our relationship!"
Funnily enough thats the same poor excuse Ian has been using for years
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*Hoping Wilma does not read the thread!*
Oh Wilma, over here hun
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Dawn :silly:
The only Valentine's cards I ever received were when I was a kid and my Grandad used to send them. The I lived with a man for several years who didn't believe in romance or cards or gestures. I gave him a card on our first Valentine's Day. He wet himself he thought it was so ridiculous. I didn't bother after that.
Only do something if you really mean it - and it doesn't have to be a card. Personally I do appreciate flowers (that isn't a hint!), but it's enough to know that someone somewhere is thinking about you with passion.
What more could a girl ask?
Sappho xxx
Only do something if you really mean it - and it doesn't have to be a card. Personally I do appreciate flowers (that isn't a hint!), but it's enough to know that someone somewhere is thinking about you with passion.
What more could a girl ask?
Sappho xxx
I LOVE getting flowers but do cringe at the commercialisation of Valentines Day. I don't send any Christmas cards at all, well one to my mother, and friends all respond really well and still send theirs.
My mother's birthday is really close to Mother's Day and we long ago agreed that she will get flowers after MD - double the flowers for the same cost.
My dad didn't want flowers for after he died and he was quite correct, flowers decorating a coffin are not the best way of saying 'I'll miss you'.
So.. go for double flowers after the event. If she needs it then do it... no need to impose your own values on the one you love.
x xx x
My mother's birthday is really close to Mother's Day and we long ago agreed that she will get flowers after MD - double the flowers for the same cost.
My dad didn't want flowers for after he died and he was quite correct, flowers decorating a coffin are not the best way of saying 'I'll miss you'.
So.. go for double flowers after the event. If she needs it then do it... no need to impose your own values on the one you love.
x xx x
Would much prefer a romantic gesture for no reason rather than hyped up Valentines Day.
But saying that you can't suddenly decide to do it for no reason after Valentines Day if you've always done that day! Will just look like you've forgotten and are making up for it!
Blimey, like I would know, have never met a romantic for no reason man. Only flowers I've ever got were to say sorry for something or other lol
But saying that you can't suddenly decide to do it for no reason after Valentines Day if you've always done that day! Will just look like you've forgotten and are making up for it!
Blimey, like I would know, have never met a romantic for no reason man. Only flowers I've ever got were to say sorry for something or other lol
Sex God
I think cards can be fun - but that should be the key to it. Harmless fun. I remember working in one office where lots of us sent Valentine's cards to each other (many sending four or five cards). All unsigned, but with clues to the sender's identity. The fun was trying to work out who was who and it could get quite hilarious - and gave us an excellent excuse to go to the pub after work. It was all very tongue in cheek and totally inoffensive.
As for the real origins.....(Ok, I can hear everyone groaning "Here we go!") it stems from the Roman Festival of (I think) Lupercalia - someone correct me or I will look it up when I get home! This was held in mid February and included a huge party where all the girls names were put into a pot. Each young man drew out a name and was then paired with that girl for the duration of the Festival! :twisted: :twisted:
It is said that some of the 'pairings' lasted a lot longer than the Festival itself, some even continuing until Lupercalia the following year when the girl's name went back into the pot and she got a new bloke!! (Sappho, Kit, Wilma, Jags and the rest of you, will you sit down - we don't do that any more!!!
).
There may even have been a rule that you weren't allowed to leave the party with the same person you had arrived with (I won't tell you again! ) - but that is probably speculation. Mind you, if it is true, it sounds like the original swinging party!
As usual, when everyone was converting to Christianity and the Church couldn't make the people abandon their old Festivals they simply adopted them (the dates for Christmas and Easter came about in the same way). So the mid-February festival came to represent love (instead of bonking) and was associated with Valentine a priest (or possibly a bishop) who is said to have been martyred on 14 Feb and supposedly had a crush on the jailer's daughter!
If he thought that fraternising with the authourities would help him get out then he had clearly never been in the GFZ :shock:
Oh, and I don't think he died of VD. I think he was beaten to death and then beheaded (which seems unnecessary) - but I will check.
ops: I have gone on again, haven't I? I'd best log out then. :doh:
As for the real origins.....(Ok, I can hear everyone groaning "Here we go!") it stems from the Roman Festival of (I think) Lupercalia - someone correct me or I will look it up when I get home! This was held in mid February and included a huge party where all the girls names were put into a pot. Each young man drew out a name and was then paired with that girl for the duration of the Festival! :twisted: :twisted:
It is said that some of the 'pairings' lasted a lot longer than the Festival itself, some even continuing until Lupercalia the following year when the girl's name went back into the pot and she got a new bloke!! (Sappho, Kit, Wilma, Jags and the rest of you, will you sit down - we don't do that any more!!!
).There may even have been a rule that you weren't allowed to leave the party with the same person you had arrived with (I won't tell you again!
) - but that is probably speculation. Mind you, if it is true, it sounds like the original swinging party!As usual, when everyone was converting to Christianity and the Church couldn't make the people abandon their old Festivals they simply adopted them (the dates for Christmas and Easter came about in the same way). So the mid-February festival came to represent love (instead of bonking) and was associated with Valentine a priest (or possibly a bishop) who is said to have been martyred on 14 Feb and supposedly had a crush on the jailer's daughter!
If he thought that fraternising with the authourities would help him get out then he had clearly never been in the GFZ :shock:
Oh, and I don't think he died of VD. I think he was beaten to death and then beheaded (which seems unnecessary) - but I will check.
ops: I have gone on again, haven't I? I'd best log out then. :doh: The desire to make a gesture or give a gift because you want to = Sublime
Grabbing a card or equiv because it's Valentines day = Mechanical
I guess every year I think "Why one day of the year?"
I'm a soft thing, an old romantic - whatever you want to call it. I see people with flowers under one arm, a 4ft tall card in the other and wonder if they do that on the 3rd of June or 9th of December ? Some might but I think it's unlikely.
Make a gesture by all means but make it something very you - from the smallest thing to the grandest gesture.
I sent individual post cards one year, each with nothing but a letter from "Be my Valentine" in big bold style on it. They arrived a few the day before and a few Valentines morning - must have taken about 40mins before she realised what they spelt........
Try buying that moment in Clinton's Cards and I think you'll find they sold out a long time ago.........
Carpathian, ahem, "rambling" again.....
Grabbing a card or equiv because it's Valentines day = Mechanical
I guess every year I think "Why one day of the year?"
I'm a soft thing, an old romantic - whatever you want to call it. I see people with flowers under one arm, a 4ft tall card in the other and wonder if they do that on the 3rd of June or 9th of December ? Some might but I think it's unlikely.
Make a gesture by all means but make it something very you - from the smallest thing to the grandest gesture.
I sent individual post cards one year, each with nothing but a letter from "Be my Valentine" in big bold style on it. They arrived a few the day before and a few Valentines morning - must have taken about 40mins before she realised what they spelt........
Try buying that moment in Clinton's Cards and I think you'll find they sold out a long time ago.........
Carpathian, ahem, "rambling" again.....
Sex God
Will would like to register his intense gratitude to Carpathian for coming to the rescue after I had all but killed another promising thread stone dead!
Yes, it's alright. I'll come quietly!
is led away into solitary confinement by the authorities
Yes, it's alright. I'll come quietly! is led away into solitary confinement by the authorities
Sex God
Quote by FredFlintstoneI hope I am not illiterate, but I will happily admit to being alliterate. After all, it's got me where I am today (stuck in the Forum on a Tuesday night!).
I HEARD THAT!
Whoever it was said "Will is an Alliterate bast*^d" can go stand outside for the next three postings..............
I know it's right - but there is no need to say it out loud...
Quote by JagsOn my way Jags!!!!
Somebody call me?????
Waiting for attention now....this is just the time for a naked man at my feet.
Sex God
Ah ha!!! Someone else's honour to defend now is there? 
:duel: Have at ye, Flintstone!!!
What do you mean, she doesn't have any honour worth defending? You SCOUNDREL !!!
I will have you know that she is the most wonderful, erudite and honourable lady in the Forum - saving only my own dearest, darling damsel and marvellous, moving Muse (that will teach you to call me alliterate! ).
Bows reverentially in direction of Shropshire, before returning to the swine who is now cowering in front of him
Yes you, Flintstone!! :evil:
:duel:
What do you mean you are not cowering, but rolling on the floor with laughter. Right, well we shall see about that.
Kit, Wilma, Jags!!! He's all yours.
Not you, Sappho darling. I have other plans for you.
Leads her away somewhere private
:duel: Have at ye, Flintstone!!!
What do you mean, she doesn't have any honour worth defending? You SCOUNDREL !!!
I will have you know that she is the most wonderful, erudite and honourable lady in the Forum - saving only my own dearest, darling damsel and marvellous, moving Muse (that will teach you to call me alliterate! ).
Bows reverentially in direction of Shropshire, before returning to the swine who is now cowering in front of him
Yes you, Flintstone!!
:evil: :duel:
What do you mean you are not cowering, but rolling on the floor with laughter. Right, well we shall see about that.
Kit, Wilma, Jags!!! He's all yours.
Not you, Sappho darling. I have other plans for you.
Leads her away somewhere private
I will just tie up Fred with his own pink fluffy handcuffs, he seems to like them too much to part him from them for long.
Hard to get - have you seen the effort going into all the piss-ups I can't get too??? Damnit, a girl has to allow others a peek under the hem of her frock sometime...
Ain't the word 'frock' fantastic? I love using it.. a friend of mine works as a production designer on a long running and well known scottish drama series and he always calls Wardrobe 'frocks' I love using the word 'pudding' too - and will use any number of words to avoid using 'armpits'. Oxters is my word of choice for that area of the human body.
Hard to get - have you seen the effort going into all the piss-ups I can't get too??? Damnit, a girl has to allow others a peek under the hem of her frock sometime...
Ain't the word 'frock' fantastic? I love using it.. a friend of mine works as a production designer on a long running and well known scottish drama series and he always calls Wardrobe 'frocks' I love using the word 'pudding' too - and will use any number of words to avoid using 'armpits'. Oxters is my word of choice for that area of the human body.
Sex God
Quote by JagsHave another glass, sweetheart!
Ain't the word 'frock' fantastic? I love using it.. a friend of mine works as a production designer on a long running and well known scottish drama series and he always calls Wardrobe 'frocks' I love using the word 'pudding' too - and will use any number of words to avoid using 'armpits'. Oxters is my word of choice for that area of the human body.
It has obviously been a bad day. Here, let me top you up!!
Goodness, you have some tension running right across your shoulders, just........
there. rubs and massages expertly
Now, isn't that better? Oh do stop laughing Flintstone.
(Actually everyone, Fred's a really nice guy. An absolute pussycat in fact, but don't let him know I have told you. It will ruin his image!)
Quote by PlayerKeep them very firmly in your wallet!
Having been married now for nearly 22 years whats the consensus on cards on valentines day?
Quote by FredWorked for my first 14 years as well Fred, then Kit caught on, and for the last 7 it has been flowers every week
I have used that excuse for 14 years - works for me!!!
The only time I get a break is mothers day, because the kids buy them then.lhk
Kat
P.S. And give your wallet to a trusted friend to look after.
Kat
P.P.S. And no, that handing your wallet to anyone on this forum would NOT constitute "Best Practice" :roll:
Quote by Carpathian
I'm a soft thing, an old romantic - whatever you want to call it. I see people with flowers under one arm, a 4ft tall card in the other and wonder if they do that on the 3rd of June or 9th of December ?
OH B*LL*CKS!!! Don't tell my mrs that there are now three Valentines Days in a year!!!!!
Quote by Sgt Bilko
I'm a soft thing, an old romantic - whatever you want to call it. I see people with flowers under one arm, a 4ft tall card in the other and wonder if they do that on the 3rd of June or 9th of December ?
OH B*LL*CKS!!! Don't tell my mrs that there are now three Valentines Days in a year!!!!!
{Carpathian smiles...he sees the Sarge has misunderstood his use of random dates to illustrate a point but decides to say nothing - there will be much comedy value as he runs around near the start of June trying to find a shop selling cards......}
I got this little tit-bit of information emailed to me today...has anyone seen Mr BlueEyes??
It has been billed as the ultimate in romantic indulgence. A champagne-filled bath in a five-star hotel room covered by the petals of 120 roses, with one of Scotland’s top chefs awaiting your orders; But with just four days to go before February 14 the bubbly bath with a difference is in danger of going flat at the XX Hotel.
So far no-one has been willing to fork out the £17,000 price of the hotel’s penthouse suite package for Valentine’s Day. Several people, including unnamed celebrities, are said to have inquired about the possibility of taking up the XX Hotel’s ultra-luxurious package. But, there is a risk the luxurious penthouse suite will sit empty this weekend.
For the £17,000 cost of the two-night stay, guests are being offered the run of the two-floor penthouse suite. After being greeted with champagne and chocolates, they will be able to take in some of the most spectacular views of the city from their room, which will be filled with the petals of 120 red roses. Dinner will be prepared by their own personal chef, who will cook them whatever they desire. Throughout their stay, the couple will also have a private masseuse on call.
A private limo tour of the city at night and a helicopter ride over the Lothians during the day are also part of the package.
The pièce de résistance, however, is the bath of pink champagne, for the lovers to luxuriate in. Hotel staff will use 240 bottles of Laurent-Perrier pink champagne, priced at £39 per bottle, to fill the large roll-top bath. Guests can have rose petals sprinkled in the champagne, or over the bed if they prefer. Bathing in champagne would mean following in the footsteps of Hollywood stars Marilyn Monroe and Jayne Mansfield, who was said to take a dip in bubbly every week, as well as King Louis XIV of France.
XX, the hotel’s general manager, said several people had made inquiries, but all had so far stopped short of taking the plunge. "We have had a great response to this in term of inquiries, and it is the ultimate romantic Valentine’s break in the UK," he said. "Among the people inquiring have been a number of celebrities and media people, as well as young City workers, who obviously could afford a gift such as this. We are sure the offer will be taken up, though it could be at the very last minute. It is a fantastic package though."
At least one of the prospective guests was considering passing on the champagne bath, however, asking if they could drink it instead.
The penthouse has previously been home to music and showbiz stars from around the world, as they rolled in for Capital concerts, parties and last year’s MTV awards. Rapper Sean Paul, singers Justin Timberlake, Pink and Beyoncé and Charlie’s Angels star Cameron Diaz all stayed at the hotel when they visited the city for the ceremony.
Rival hoteliers said they would not be surprised if someone stepped in at the last minute to take advantage of the XX Hotel’s offer.
XX, director of sales and marketing for the XX Hotel in Edinburgh said: "It won’t appeal to everyone, but this sort of luxurious pampering is certainly becoming more important to people. It is all to do with lifestyles. People have less and less time nowadays and so more often the gift of a lifestyle experience, a bit of relaxing luxury, is preferred to a product."
And before anyone asks, no it wasn't me who asked if they could drink the champagne instead of bathing in it!!! Seriously though, who spends that sort of money???? :shock:
It has been billed as the ultimate in romantic indulgence. A champagne-filled bath in a five-star hotel room covered by the petals of 120 roses, with one of Scotland’s top chefs awaiting your orders; But with just four days to go before February 14 the bubbly bath with a difference is in danger of going flat at the XX Hotel.
So far no-one has been willing to fork out the £17,000 price of the hotel’s penthouse suite package for Valentine’s Day. Several people, including unnamed celebrities, are said to have inquired about the possibility of taking up the XX Hotel’s ultra-luxurious package. But, there is a risk the luxurious penthouse suite will sit empty this weekend.
For the £17,000 cost of the two-night stay, guests are being offered the run of the two-floor penthouse suite. After being greeted with champagne and chocolates, they will be able to take in some of the most spectacular views of the city from their room, which will be filled with the petals of 120 red roses. Dinner will be prepared by their own personal chef, who will cook them whatever they desire. Throughout their stay, the couple will also have a private masseuse on call.
A private limo tour of the city at night and a helicopter ride over the Lothians during the day are also part of the package.
The pièce de résistance, however, is the bath of pink champagne, for the lovers to luxuriate in. Hotel staff will use 240 bottles of Laurent-Perrier pink champagne, priced at £39 per bottle, to fill the large roll-top bath. Guests can have rose petals sprinkled in the champagne, or over the bed if they prefer. Bathing in champagne would mean following in the footsteps of Hollywood stars Marilyn Monroe and Jayne Mansfield, who was said to take a dip in bubbly every week, as well as King Louis XIV of France.
XX, the hotel’s general manager, said several people had made inquiries, but all had so far stopped short of taking the plunge. "We have had a great response to this in term of inquiries, and it is the ultimate romantic Valentine’s break in the UK," he said. "Among the people inquiring have been a number of celebrities and media people, as well as young City workers, who obviously could afford a gift such as this. We are sure the offer will be taken up, though it could be at the very last minute. It is a fantastic package though."
At least one of the prospective guests was considering passing on the champagne bath, however, asking if they could drink it instead.
The penthouse has previously been home to music and showbiz stars from around the world, as they rolled in for Capital concerts, parties and last year’s MTV awards. Rapper Sean Paul, singers Justin Timberlake, Pink and Beyoncé and Charlie’s Angels star Cameron Diaz all stayed at the hotel when they visited the city for the ceremony.
Rival hoteliers said they would not be surprised if someone stepped in at the last minute to take advantage of the XX Hotel’s offer.
XX, director of sales and marketing for the XX Hotel in Edinburgh said: "It won’t appeal to everyone, but this sort of luxurious pampering is certainly becoming more important to people. It is all to do with lifestyles. People have less and less time nowadays and so more often the gift of a lifestyle experience, a bit of relaxing luxury, is preferred to a product."
And before anyone asks, no it wasn't me who asked if they could drink the champagne instead of bathing in it!!! Seriously though, who spends that sort of money???? :shock:
