I use this place to get away from my vanillia life.....
but at the moment it dont seem to have the release that it use to have to...
so my question is what do you use/have to escape from vanillia life ??
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Sex God
We're feeling the same as you gurl and to be honest we're not escaping vanilla life so we're living day to day with a small knot in our stomachs. In saying that we had a great unvanilla weekend but the relief seemed very short lived
Sex God
Sometimes, this place is more normal than my vanilla world.
I don't do a 9-5 or even monday to friday conventional job (got back from work at 3am yerterday/today), i have several seperate groups of friends who are all quite different, i like very little 'mainstream' film/music/art/tv and pretty much do live in a little world of my own...so coming here and being sociable and having a laugh is sort of 'normal world' for me
I don't do a 9-5 or even monday to friday conventional job (got back from work at 3am yerterday/today), i have several seperate groups of friends who are all quite different, i like very little 'mainstream' film/music/art/tv and pretty much do live in a little world of my own...so coming here and being sociable and having a laugh is sort of 'normal world' for me
I'm the same in both........I am out there haveing fun..and living life.
Take each day as it comes.....had my ups and downs over the years....and have learnt that no good looking back...thinking what could have been...
Some one once told me..live for the present.....and you know why it called the present.
Because thats what it is...a present!!
if you haveing fun doing something..be it vanilla or otherwise.....enjoy it....once you stop enjoying it..stop doing it. Simple really.
xxxx
Take each day as it comes.....had my ups and downs over the years....and have learnt that no good looking back...thinking what could have been...
Some one once told me..live for the present.....and you know why it called the present.
Because thats what it is...a present!!
if you haveing fun doing something..be it vanilla or otherwise.....enjoy it....once you stop enjoying it..stop doing it. Simple really.
xxxx
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Sometimes, this place is more normal than my vanilla world.
I don't do a 9-5 or even monday to friday conventional job (got back from work at 3am yerterday/today), i have several seperate groups of friends who are all quite different, i like very little 'mainstream' film/music/art/tv and pretty much do live in a little world of my own...so coming here and being sociable and having a laugh is sort of 'normal world' for me
Agreed - my life isn't very "normal" either and I like to come here to exchange views.
Plim :thumbup:
There must be a point at which using SH becomes 'normal', ie no other life makes sense. or that one is logged in so much that time spent here outweighs time spent there and with life going at such a pace one could get left behind in cyberland.
'if its already on the net its old' might become the expression soon...............
'if its already on the net its old' might become the expression soon...............
Sex God
Living a very vanilla life right now, but by coming in here it gives me a little escape, the threads are funny, informative and sometimes just bizarre! It keeps me in touch with some old friends and maybe even re-ignite some of the meets and fun times again. 
Orgasminator
SH is a bit like a 'relationship' - you join and have that first 'flush' of love and lust, then you settle down to a more in-depth period of 'getting to know', followed by the 'family and friends period (less meets but of a better quailty). Some get divorced (leave), those that stay have 'spats' (love/hate) times, but in the end its the glue that holds us altogether in the Swinging Community.
Some are 'distant realtives' (those at the opposite end of the country), the 'extended family' (the locals),'friends' (help and advice on just about everything in the forums/chatrooms).
So, for us, it's just an 'extension' of our vanilla life - both valid, both enjoyable and a bloody good de-stress from 'work'.
Some are 'distant realtives' (those at the opposite end of the country), the 'extended family' (the locals),'friends' (help and advice on just about everything
in the forums/chatrooms).So, for us, it's just an 'extension' of our vanilla life - both valid, both enjoyable and a bloody good de-stress from 'work'.
My release is films, books, the gym and dancing in any order and the odd pint of wine. I dont know what is vanilla and what is swinging and I dont think it matters. what matters is a realism in life of what makes it for you. Yes the adrenalin rush of whatever or whoever turns you on is brilliant but the bits in between have to be good to in their own way.
Gurl you have everything in life to look forward to and maybe you are a bit bored at the moment and need to find some new things to try out and I dont mean sexual positions - I take that as a given - think outside the box - an archeoligical dig, volenteer work in the third world, volunteering........... okay then bake a cake
its good to share though .... you are never alone in here xxxxx
Gurl you have everything in life to look forward to and maybe you are a bit bored at the moment and need to find some new things to try out and I dont mean sexual positions - I take that as a given - think outside the box - an archeoligical dig, volenteer work in the third world, volunteering........... okay then bake a cake
its good to share though .... you are never alone in here xxxxx
im much like corrie, turning to books, films etc to escape and really enjoy life
my vanilla world has very much blurred with SH in that the friends i have made here have also become part of my vanilla world and met my vanilla friends, its almost like i now just have the one existance not two, i see friends as and when and sometimes thats for coffee, film, monster truck show! company and sometimes its for sex
i dont think in terms of 'vanilla life' now just life and its over quickly enough so i am just gonna darn well enjoy myself as much as i can,
when ive had a bad day i either pick up the phone or my lap top and theres always someone there, i even have a giggle just reading posts on the forum
my vanilla world has very much blurred with SH in that the friends i have made here have also become part of my vanilla world and met my vanilla friends, its almost like i now just have the one existance not two, i see friends as and when and sometimes thats for coffee, film, monster truck show! company and sometimes its for sex
i dont think in terms of 'vanilla life' now just life and its over quickly enough so i am just gonna darn well enjoy myself as much as i can,
when ive had a bad day i either pick up the phone or my lap top and theres always someone there, i even have a giggle just reading posts on the forum
Sex God
Quote by Gurlonloan
...so my question is what do you use/have to escape from vanillia life ??
I have no reason to escape my vanilla life. It's pretty good actually, indeed I have people that I have met on here who are now part of my everyday life. Guess I'm just lucky.
I dont see my swinging as escapism from a humdrum life. I've not been on the forum scene for a long time and am considering dipping my toe a bit again when I get a minute or two, basically because very few forumites actually know or have met me and, whilst there are obviously still some people so far up their own arses in their belief of their own importance complete with their posts and rants which appear to me to be pathetic attempts for grabbing attention, there seems to be a decent enough bunch of people posting at times.
Sex God
We see this as an extension to, Rather than an escape from
I spend far more time in the Vanilla World than the Swinging, I could say I have more fun in the Swinging World, but it is what I do in the Vanillia World that brings me the longest lasting satisfaction.
In fact, over most of the last year I hardly missed swinging. Not that I ever left, after all, I was still posting here.
In fact, over most of the last year I hardly missed swinging. Not that I ever left, after all, I was still posting here.
Orgasminator
Like many others have said, we don't use this place to "escape" vanilla life, more to make it more exciting.
Having said that tho, most of our vanilla life overlaps with our life on here as so many people have become "real" friends.
*Her*
Having said that tho, most of our vanilla life overlaps with our life on here as so many people have become "real" friends.
*Her*
Sex God
This is part of my life. I don't really split simply into Vanilla and Nonilla. I don't discuss this part of my life with many people not involved with it, but then I don't discuss work with many people outside of it, nor do I discuss my financial dealings with people not involved. There are different reasons for non-discussion obviously. But still, many sections of my life aren't discussed with people from other sections.
I suppose what I'm saying is that my life falls into sections, some of which overlap to a greater or lesser extent, but this isn't one I 'escape' into any more than, say, the garden is.
I suppose what I'm saying is that my life falls into sections, some of which overlap to a greater or lesser extent, but this isn't one I 'escape' into any more than, say, the garden is.
Any real 'escape' for me is what Ben_welshminx said... MUSIC. It depends on my mood at the time but usually to escape its soft, loving, sensual/erotic, emotional music that lets out my soul... I feel like I really escape my body with the right music.. free to soar!!
I like the banter on here & have met some wonderful peeps to befriend or live out some fantasys and unfortunately some bad apples too but they play out their part by reminding you not to get too close
Minxie :rascal: xx
I like the banter on here & have met some wonderful peeps to befriend or live out some fantasys and unfortunately some bad apples too but they play out their part by reminding you not to get too close
Minxie :rascal: xx
Im starting to believe that the internet actually restricts your escape, there was a time i could spend hours chatting etc on various sites but after a while i catch myself just repeatedly looking at different sites but not really interacting, yet if i dont visit im worried on what i may miss out on.
So now i take time to reflect on myself, being a wiccan i take time to chill and enjoy the real world which makes visiting my non vanilla life that little bit more special
So now i take time to reflect on myself, being a wiccan i take time to chill and enjoy the real world which makes visiting my non vanilla life that little bit more special
