hiya, slightly odd question!
I've been chatting with a girl who I'm not convinced is legit, though we've spoken on the phone already. I'm very interested if she is legit, it's just something seems a little odd, not sure what, and I want to be sure before I travel halfway up the country & make a mistake.
So, I thought, I'll post something here to find out if anyone here knows here and can vouch for her! But now I'm stumped - I can't do that without posting her name, phone number, etc!
Any suggestions about how I could get in touch with ppl who might be able to reassure me about her, without giving away private info about her?
Em
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Hiya
cant really help with the 'verification' thing - but your 'internal warning system' or gut instinct is the best verification in the world - if something just doesnt feel right , dont do it!
if she's genuine she wont mind giving you more time before you travel half way up the country.
You could always ask her (in private) if she knows anyone here - you could then talk to them (in private) - but this isnt reliable - go with gut instinct everytime, that why we have it!
cant really help with the 'verification' thing - but your 'internal warning system' or gut instinct is the best verification in the world - if something just doesnt feel right , dont do it!
if she's genuine she wont mind giving you more time before you travel half way up the country.
You could always ask her (in private) if she knows anyone here - you could then talk to them (in private) - but this isnt reliable - go with gut instinct everytime, that why we have it!
The "V word" is clearly a sensitive subject! lol 
thanks for the (very) quick responses.
re camming - I'm sure she's a she - we've chatted on the phone. Maybe camming's an idea though.
I may as suggested just play it safe & not go up there until I can, essentially, ask her for "references" :)
thanks for the (very) quick responses.
re camming - I'm sure she's a she - we've chatted on the phone. Maybe camming's an idea though.
I may as suggested just play it safe & not go up there until I can, essentially, ask her for "references" :)
Hiya Emily,
The first advice would be, it is essential that you make up your own mind, what is right (or legit) for other people may not be right for you. If you have any doubts at all, don't go. I'm not a huge fan of asking other people to vouch for other people as a swinging partner. In essence, you are asking someone who barely knows you, to tell you their opinion of someone they barely know. Too many variables there for anyone to make anything but a very bad guess.
After that, there are a number of things you could try:
Tell her you do not want to meet yet because you have your doubts about her, and see how she reacts. Sometimes the simplest solutions are the best ones.
or
Ask her to join the site and chat to her and others on here. You often learn more about someone watching them talk to other people than you do when they are talking to you.
lhk
Kat
The first advice would be, it is essential that you make up your own mind, what is right (or legit) for other people may not be right for you. If you have any doubts at all, don't go. I'm not a huge fan of asking other people to vouch for other people as a swinging partner. In essence, you are asking someone who barely knows you, to tell you their opinion of someone they barely know. Too many variables there for anyone to make anything but a very bad guess.
After that, there are a number of things you could try:
Tell her you do not want to meet yet because you have your doubts about her, and see how she reacts. Sometimes the simplest solutions are the best ones.
or
Ask her to join the site and chat to her and others on here. You often learn more about someone watching them talk to other people than you do when they are talking to you.
lhk
Kat
