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Very sad news about BARTDUTCH
Thanks to all you of you for these wonderful, loving messages. Bart would be totally overwhelmed, he really didnt think anyone liked him or "got" him. I got him, and he will always be in my heart. The house seems empty without him, i miss him making my coffees which he did all day plus a cracker with cheese. I didnt sleep at all last night, just kept going over and over what happened and wondering how the hell am i going to cope? He really was my rock. My friend is here at the moment, cleaning up blood for all over the front door, there were lunatics out fighting last night and i had to call the police ... felt so vulnerable and scared. Bart, i need u here babe!!
Its really helping to talk to you and altho we havent been around on the site for ages, i knew i could count on you. Thanks
Suze xxx
Its really helping to talk to you and altho we havent been around on the site for ages, i knew i could count on you. Thanks
Suze xxx
Sex God
Sad time for you Suze :sad: and our thoughts are with you
Sex God
My thoughts are with you
Suze even though we dint speak to you or Bart,we often saw you about the site,our condolences go out to you and your family,always remember the good times you had together xxxxxx Trev & Julie xxxxx
No One Can Know
No one can know just what you've lost;
No one can understand the cost;
But when you feel your energy drain,
Please count on us to help ease your pain.
Let us help you cope with grief;
We hope with time you'll feel relief.
We can't replace the one who's gone,
But let our concern help you carry on.
No One Can Know
No one can know just what you've lost;
No one can understand the cost;
But when you feel your energy drain,
Please count on us to help ease your pain.
Let us help you cope with grief;
We hope with time you'll feel relief.
We can't replace the one who's gone,
But let our concern help you carry on.
Sex God
Suze, I really cannot find the words to express how shocked and sorry we are to hear this very sad news. Its only a couple of weeks ago we was having a right good old natter with Bart in the chatrooms.
I honestly cannot imagine what you are going through right now, but please, please do take the advise given by many of the others and don't be alone.
Our thoughts and condolences are with you
I honestly cannot imagine what you are going through right now, but please, please do take the advise given by many of the others and don't be alone.
Our thoughts and condolences are with you
Sex God
Quote by Suze43
I had to type this, its a message from me to say PLEASE dont take life for granted, i did. Tell your loved ones u love them every day. Life is just too short.
Suze xx
This is so true.
Suze I really feel for you - you must be totally bewildered and shocked.
Allow yourself to rely on friends offers of help. It allows you the opportunity to say a real thank you to them later.
Don't question whether what you are doing is right or wrong. There is no formula for what you are going through and everybody reacts in their own way.
One other piece of good advice given to me is that it is alright to wallow - allow your grief to express itself fully whatever you are doing - it doesn't matter and it really does help.
My thoughts are with you.
.
Sex God
My thoughts are with you
Sex God
Our best wishes and thoughts are with you and your family at this very difficult time
Sex God
Suze
I was completely shocked when the tragic news reached me this morning, but this has been my first chance to get online and pass on my deepest condolences to you.
I cannot remember where or even when it was, but I have a very distinct memory of having a lovely chinwag with Bart at a social, his warm kind personality, genuine interest and smile just shining through as he did.
Thank you for sharing your last day with him with us all, I was most touched by it.
:Very big hug:
Regards
Harry Jones
I was completely shocked when the tragic news reached me this morning, but this has been my first chance to get online and pass on my deepest condolences to you.
I cannot remember where or even when it was, but I have a very distinct memory of having a lovely chinwag with Bart at a social, his warm kind personality, genuine interest and smile just shining through as he did.
Thank you for sharing your last day with him with us all, I was most touched by it.
:Very big hug:
Regards
Harry Jones
Sex God
Another totally gobsmacked one here :shock:
I've met you guys at loads of munches and socials (the last one being Kits 50th a few months ago i think) and it was always nice to see you both.
I do remember loads of us squeezing into the Beemer (Betty, i think you called her) after one munch and zipping round the multi story on the way back to the hotel.
I'm totally lost for anything useful to say, if there is such a thing at times like this, but just wanted to send you a big hug :therethere:
I've met you guys at loads of munches and socials (the last one being Kits 50th a few months ago i think) and it was always nice to see you both.
I do remember loads of us squeezing into the Beemer (Betty, i think you called her) after one munch and zipping round the multi story on the way back to the hotel.
I'm totally lost for anything useful to say, if there is such a thing at times like this, but just wanted to send you a big hug :therethere:
Suze,
I saw this last night and I've spent most of today trying to think of something useful or comforting to write, but obviously there isn't anything that will make things better for you right now. Others have suggested avenues for you to explore so I'll just let you know our thoughts are with you.
:therethere:
I saw this last night and I've spent most of today trying to think of something useful or comforting to write, but obviously there isn't anything that will make things better for you right now. Others have suggested avenues for you to explore so I'll just let you know our thoughts are with you.
:therethere:
Sex God
There is really nothing that anyone can say, except to let you know that we are all thinking of you. Although we never met I do remember bart's postings on the forums.
I hope that the posts that have been made here today and the very obvious affection that they show are some comfort for you. Grief is hard to bear and, in the coming months (and even years) will creep up on you when you least expect it. Talking to people WILL help and, as Choon so wisely says, wallowing is perfectly allowable - and even necessary.
Talk to friends (or, indeed, anyone) and please consider my inbox open if I can help at all.
Take very good care and our thoughts are with you.
Will
I hope that the posts that have been made here today and the very obvious affection that they show are some comfort for you. Grief is hard to bear and, in the coming months (and even years) will creep up on you when you least expect it. Talking to people WILL help and, as Choon so wisely says, wallowing is perfectly allowable - and even necessary.
Talk to friends (or, indeed, anyone) and please consider my inbox open if I can help at all.
Take very good care and our thoughts are with you.
Will
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Another totally gobsmacked one here :shock:
I've met you guys at loads of munches and socials (the last one being Kits 50th a few months ago i think) and it was always nice to see you both.
I do remember loads of us squeezing into the Beemer (Betty, i think you called her) after one munch and zipping round the multi story on the way back to the hotel.
I'm totally lost for anything useful to say, if there is such a thing at times like this, but just wanted to send you a big hug :therethere:
This message has just made me smile Meaty, that was years ago and yes she was called Betty, the best car he ever had, she got us to so many munches safely. He loved that car, unfortunately she went for scrap last year.
Suze x
Sexlightened
Sending hugs and kisses.
I am so sorry and shocked to here this news.
It is always sad when someone you know passes away and so young.
There is never any reasoning behind it....
I too agree about living your lives to the full.
Hugs
Teresa
xx
I am so sorry and shocked to here this news.
It is always sad when someone you know passes away and so young.
There is never any reasoning behind it....
I too agree about living your lives to the full.
Hugs
Teresa
xx
Hi Suze
I am shocked to hear the sad news about Bart he really was one of the good guys and don't worry yourself over what is the right thing to do, you deal with your grief as you see fit and if that means coming on here often then so be it. I know right now its farthest from your thoughts but don't be afraid to smile when you remember the good times.
Markz xxx
I am shocked to hear the sad news about Bart he really was one of the good guys and don't worry yourself over what is the right thing to do, you deal with your grief as you see fit and if that means coming on here often then so be it. I know right now its farthest from your thoughts but don't be afraid to smile when you remember the good times.
Markz xxx
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Hi Suze
I am shocked to hear the sad news about Bart he really was one of the good guys and don't worry yourself over what is the right thing to do, you deal with your grief as you see fit and if that means coming on here often then so be it. I know right now its farthest from your thoughts but don't be afraid to smile when you remember the good times.
Markz xxx
I can only echo the words of Markz Suze.... I read the news this morning and have spent the day wondering what I can say that would convey my thoughts andit isn't easy to even try to comprehend what you are feeling right now....
Talk to anyone that will listen about how you are feeling, talk about him and all the good times you had together, smile and laugh about things you did together but most of all keep him alive in your memories and say thank you for the good times you had together...
As many have said already, my inbox is always open
Suze, I'm so incredibly sorry to hear this awful news... I can't even begin to imagine how you're feeling. We're both thinking of you and your family and feeling so terribly sad for you. Anyone who ever saw you two together knows how in love you were and how happy you made each other. I've been around the same forums and munches as you for years , since before you met, I think, and I've seen how much happiness, security and confidence your relationship has given you. It's the cruellest thing imaginable for him to be taken from you after such a short time... But I am so glad for you both that you met, and loved each other, and had the years that you did.
I will remember Bart most clearly whirling me around the dance floor at one munch or another - he was an excellent dancer :-) - and we'll be thinking of him and of you in the next days and weeks. Wishing you strength and love.
Nicki and Chris x
I will remember Bart most clearly whirling me around the dance floor at one munch or another - he was an excellent dancer :-) - and we'll be thinking of him and of you in the next days and weeks. Wishing you strength and love.
Nicki and Chris x
Dear Suze
I'm beyond shocked to be reading this, I'm so sorry to hear that Bart has passed. The last time I saw you both, we were at a house party and I clearly remember lounging on Jas' sofa, chatting to both of you and being totally chilled out in your company - I don't recall what we were talking about but I do remember that we were laughing. I have quite a few munch and social memories like that of both of you.
My thoughts are with you
Dippy
x
I'm beyond shocked to be reading this, I'm so sorry to hear that Bart has passed. The last time I saw you both, we were at a house party and I clearly remember lounging on Jas' sofa, chatting to both of you and being totally chilled out in your company - I don't recall what we were talking about but I do remember that we were laughing. I have quite a few munch and social memories like that of both of you.
My thoughts are with you
Dippy
x
Oh Suze, this is shocking. The loss, as someone put up there, one of the good guys - and to think he thought people didn't 'get' him, lovely chap, always had a smile and a hug going spare, always felt settled at a munch once I saw you two.
Tune put it well up there - you're now going through the most awful times of your life, don't hold anything back, don't pent anything up - don't wonder about what you 'should' be doing or how you 'should' be reacting and when. Everyone is unique, do, say and react how and when you feel will give you release - as a firm believer in the fact that he's still very much around you, take comfort in it, tell him off, tell him how you love him, feel his love for you surround you, enclose you, he's still very much beside you
We'll join others in this thread, and toast to him this evening.
Thoughts and condolences are with you Suze - all the people around you, use them :kiss:
Tune put it well up there - you're now going through the most awful times of your life, don't hold anything back, don't pent anything up - don't wonder about what you 'should' be doing or how you 'should' be reacting and when. Everyone is unique, do, say and react how and when you feel will give you release - as a firm believer in the fact that he's still very much around you, take comfort in it, tell him off, tell him how you love him, feel his love for you surround you, enclose you, he's still very much beside you
We'll join others in this thread, and toast to him this evening.
Thoughts and condolences are with you Suze - all the people around you, use them :kiss:
Sex God
Suze I'm so sorry to hear this news. I've met both of you many times and always had at least a short chat with you, I'm sure you know that Bart gave the very best foot rubs around - and I don't even like having my feet touched! 
I know you'll miss him dearly, but as others have said, you have lots of people you can talk to and if being here helps then that's what you need to do. Don't feel guilty for wanting comfort, it's perfectly natural.
Massive hugs, I hope you can take at least some comfort from the kind words in this thread
I know you'll miss him dearly, but as others have said, you have lots of people you can talk to and if being here helps then that's what you need to do. Don't feel guilty for wanting comfort, it's perfectly natural.
Massive hugs, I hope you can take at least some comfort from the kind words in this thread
Sex God
I'm so sorry this has happened to you Suze. I know how much grief hurts and I can only echo other's sentiments that if you let it out and talk as much as you need to it will help with the healing process.
Please know that my thoughts are with you at this sad time.
Love
Fire xxxx
Please know that my thoughts are with you at this sad time.
Love
Fire xxxx
