How do people view single men attending a swingers club? What if they are married men?
From what I've read, such single men are some sort of 'necessary evil' that just have to be put up with. 'Some' people/couples don't mind them, especially if they want a threesome/moresome, but from what I see the majority are mainly interested in other couples (perhaps safer).
I'm keen to visit a club, not necessarily with the intention of joining in (this first time) but just to look around. See what goes on. See if I'm at ease in that sort of establishment.
I appreciate that most people feel nervous going in for the first time (I've read many stories on this web-site), but being very shy, I'll find it even harder.
Perhaps it would be better to go in with someone (female)? Is it OK to go in (ostensibly as a couple), but with no intention of 'doing' anything other than having a drink, having a chat, and maybe having a look around?
Has anyone done that? I'm not sure it's the best place to meet someone for a first date though....'fancy meeting up at so-and-so swinger's club for a drink'..... Unless perhaps, I come across a woman who is similarly interested in sampling a club. Probably she would likewise feel more comfortable going in with a bloke, with no intention or expectation of doing anything other than having a drink and a chat.
Anyway....would be interested to hear others' views, and perhaps hear of peoples' (especially single males/females) experiences of their first visit to a club.
Don
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Hi Don, I did my share of answering this one yesterday:
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewpost/100675.html#100675
I might add that some single guys are pushy and inconsiderate at swingers' clubs, but if you are considerate, polite, and patient, nobody can possibly complain, and that could help to improve the reputation of us single guys in clubs.
Mike.
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewpost/100675.html#100675
I might add that some single guys are pushy and inconsiderate at swingers' clubs, but if you are considerate, polite, and patient, nobody can possibly complain, and that could help to improve the reputation of us single guys in clubs.
Mike.
Sex God
Plenty of couples go with the intention of hooking uo with single guys. If you want a 121 with a couple in a club, that happens but perhaps not as often as a group situation with several guys. If you're into group sex, especially if you have a strong voyeuristic streak, you'll love it. Provided you're polite, etc etc. you will be treated nicely. It is only the rude guys who give singles a bad name 
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Some people do go as a couple by hooking up together, if only so the guy doesn't have to pay the full membership that most clubs want off single guys. There's nowt wrong with this in my opinion. Have you tried putting an ad in the photo ads or the meet up section of the forum, asking for someone to go with you? If you don't get any offers, going a club for the first time makes everyone nervous, but bite the bullet and go along and watch. It really isn't that scary
Also read the advice about clubs in the advice section on the left of your screen.
.Some people do go as a couple by hooking up together, if only so the guy doesn't have to pay the full membership that most clubs want off single guys. There's nowt wrong with this in my opinion. Have you tried putting an ad in the photo ads or the meet up section of the forum, asking for someone to go with you? If you don't get any offers, going a club for the first time makes everyone nervous, but bite the bullet and go along and watch. It really isn't that scary
Also read the advice about clubs in the advice section on the left of your screen.
