A question has arisen in another thread, and I think it might be a good idea to discuss it here.
When someone who is fairly new or not well known in here wants to come to a munch or social meet, and the person is asked whether someone can vouch for them, it has to my knowledge never been established what we mean by that. Is it assumed that the person or couple has actually met the person concerned face to face? Or if they have had a number of chats in the chat room, or via messenger or PMs, is that regarded as good enough? You could make a case that long chats in the chat room can actually give you a better impression of someone than a brief face to face meet, so perhaps we need to establish some criteria for vouching for someone.
Mike.
Would that be a ........
Muncheon Voucher
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I think if someone is asked to be vouched for it is expected from someone who has actually met them, sometimes a munch organiser will let someone they don't personally know go cause they are well known in the chat room or have posted a lot but in them cases they are not asked to be vouched for, personally i would never vouch for anyone i have not met cause u can never really know a person by chatting on here.
I am a Newby and I do not fully understand the problem. By reading the Terminology a Munch is purely social (no play). It is all legal and strickly above board. So why does
anybody need to be vouched for? Is there not a greater risk (especially for the newbies)
to meet up blue eyed with some hardened swingers not knowing what will be happening?
What is the worst case scenario. A reporter could infiltrate may be as I have read in one
of the threads. But what can he do? A write up of what? If a Munch is only a social
event. And even if he writes something it will only drive more people to the SH sites. The Pop Stars do it all the time. A breast poping out oooh so unintentionally and they are back in business.
Or do it get the whole idea wrong? One solution would of course be to have Munches
for Newbies with may be a couple of experienced genuine swingers as watch dogs.
Mike North mate:-
I see a certain danger ahead. :-
"Vouch"
To state that someone is who they claim to be or that they are of good character.
"Verify"
Make sure or show that something orsomeone is true or accurate.
I think you know the thread I am on about. We have been down this road before and we do not want to raise it's ugly head again, do we ?.
Just my thoughts on the subject.
Fred
Thank you Judy, makes sence
Sorry Mike
It was not meant to infer that you had started it.
Just poining out where it could lead to .
Once again sorry mate
Fred
If you do vouch for someone ...it is in good faith of course so if he/she turns out to be a complete tosser, as Bluexxx said don't blame the person who did the vouching because in any other case no one would want to take the chance and vouch for anyone!
Am feeling kinda responsible for this as I postedthe thread about dumb idea. My point was whether anyone in my local area was willing to meet just to chat....no play to check out that I was who I said I was and see face to face how I behaved. Why did I wonder about this? Because I also know how many people out there are answering ads just for kicks without any real thought that they are mailing real people.
Reading the thread it seems to me that it has stirred up a lot of negativity and remembered bad feeling. For that I am sorry.
My frustration is that I truly am an open guy, true to his word but trying to get noticed in a medium that is deep in deception and half-truths.
Shame that we live in an age when trusting someone is a risk.
J
yep another newbie throwing his ore in :P
personally i wouldnt want to know if someoned had vouched for me and i wouldnt ask anyone too coz if theirs drink involved my behaviour can change from nite out to nite out , sometimes i can be quiet sometimes so flirty crystal ends up telling me off , and sometimes i just start singing and cant stop ((in a kareoke way not football yob way ) , and i couldnt vouch for anyone as even crystal surprises me sometimes with her behaviour on nites out and ive lived with her for 5-6 years , not in a bad way mind you but she has a habit when sober to spk without thinking first , not a bad thing except when she says something about anything that isnt someone business ect
hmm having just possibly lost my invite for the glasgow much ill leave now hehe
matt
You owe me a keyboard! Or at least a warning not to drink coffee while reading that...
) And I will be eternally grateful to him for taking that risk.
), or a NOTW reporter. "Vouching" for someone does not mean that you have shagged them necessarily, it is a simple "yeah, I've met Mr. XYZ and he seems OK to me". Obviously, if Mr. XYZ does turn out to be a right plonker the voucher should not be held responsible for the cock up, as they just gave a brief opinion in good faith - to me, that is all that vouching is really - an opinion of someone's character, in good faith. 
I do it myself, and I am much more careful now when inviting newbies to social functions as I have had my fingers burned!
, nearly fell of the chair 
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