What safeguards should one insist on when arranging a meeting with a couple? If one is a single voyuer and haven't met the people concerned. Is it enough to take the word of another party, that they are who they say they are?
Would one be vulnerable to mugging, knifing, or even blackmail? if the others have an ulterior motive, no proof of identity, no address, the telephone number is never answered, there has been no contact, not even by phone all I have are photos of a beautifull woman in various stages of undress with her face obscured.
Now, I am being asked to meet them in a lonely place, also, to take part in photo sessions, there is no sex on offer, just to look and be photographed, it seems to me that I am being set up for something and I don't know what!
This couple are not members of swinging heaven, but they answered my advert in swinging heaven photo ads. also, they are a lot younger than me so what could they possibly want me for?
I would meet them in a public place and talk to them over a coffee or a pint then decide whether you want to go with them. Also tell someone where you are going and tell them you are going to text them at a certain time and if you don't tell them to ring.
Insist on enough conditions to enable yourself to feel safe - the conditions suggested by Tkano above as an absolute minimum - and if you are not 100% happy when you meet them in this neutral venue, excuse yourself and have nothing to do with them. Follow what your brain is telling you, not your hormones!
Mike.
I'd back up everything said so far. Have meets in public places until you are satisfied everyone is genuine.
As the others have said, trust your instincts! Why not tell them that if they won't speak to you on the phone, that you won't meet them? If they are genuine they surely will oblige? Even if they do speak to you on the phone it isn't proof positive that they're not going to set you up, but it's a start, and if you are still unsure, say you've chanaged your mind.
You safety is not worth compromising in any way!
I've met guys in the past, on my own, with no phone calls beforehand, but that was my choice. If I arranage a meet now and a guy wants to speak to me on the phone I will happily oblige to prove I'm genuine. It's the least anyone can do.
There's a lot of nutters out there - it pays to be wary!
My first instinct was also "don't even go there".
My personal rule was not to do anything unless I was absolutely 100% certain. If in doubt, don't!
I definately go with the above views,meet somewhere very open for a few drinks and see what theyre like.
Steve,xxx
Being new to this myself, is it always the person/s who make the first contact, the one who calls the shots. Because a lot of the ads seems to be very demanding as to what they want, time place etc.
Thanks to all of you who replied and for your excellent advice which I have taken on board, although there is a possibility that they are genuine, there is also the possibility that they are not.
My requests to send me a photograph of them together and to phone me have been ignored, I phoned them twice and had to leave a message on voice mail, the email I got following, said that they tried to phone me but that I had blocked their call, which was untrue.
They have asked me to meet them this weekend, but I smell a rat, the photos they sent me of this Lady are so tempting as she is just like a beauty Queen, showing her in all her glory, ie vagina, using dildo, breasts showing, bottom, legs wide open, wearing red underwear that I requested, I thought it was too good to be true and it probably is.
When we started getting involved with other people we drew up a list of criteria that we thought were the minimum requirements.
We have always rigidly stuck to that and have not yet had a bad experience.
One example was a young guy who wanted to join us, and he had fairy tale looks. Sent a couple of photos, and Mrs Fac thought he was stunning. I thought he was too good to be true as the photos looked TOO professional and looked as if they were from a catalogue. When he was asked to go on cam, he always had an excuse and said that if we couldn't accept his excuse then not to bother. So we didn't.
It was just too good to be true. But my gut instinct said wrong, right from the beginning, although Mrs Fac was swayed by his good looks, she eventualy saw that it wasn't right
You are on your own and don't have anybody elses help in deciding, and I would think being a single male, you must be very tempted, as we all know that single males have difficulty making contact on here.
You have GOT to go with your first instinct. You KNOW it isn't right!!
Rich