we are what we are

28 Jan 2006

hi all
dont know if im in the right section for this but here goes,,,,,,,
when looking through ads I only look for single males if they are straight, but alot of men put they are straight but then in the seeking section they put they are seeking bi males or couples with bi males,
so why dont they put they are bi curious males?
I am bi myself and dont judge anyone by their sexuality but for gods sake be honest!!!
I sometimes get the feeling they then deniy it just to have fun with couples who have asked for only straight males
like I said this maybe in the wrong section or maybe not allowed on the forum so i'l say sorry in advance smile

29 Jan 2006

And you never took him up on his offer Judy

:rotflmao: :rotflmao:

29 Jan 2006

no i feel thats a bit hurtful actually! i only put in a single straight male cos thats what i want. am straight and as it seems now an unusual fact.

29 Jan 2006

I had a reply to my ad a couple of days ago that said
"I am a straight single male and I live with my girlfriend. I don't usually do sex with men except when she is holding out and is pissed off with me for no reason. I don't want her to know that I have an inclination to fuck a TV as she isn't into anything kinky so discretion is important. I have always had a liking for guys who dress up as women so if you can accommodate then I finish early on Fridays so we could get it on as long as I am back for my tea at By the way I don't take anal as I am not bi but I am willing to have a go at giving it"

:banghead: :banghead: :banghead:
Purely out of interest Judy, but what was your reply?

29 Jan 2006

Quote by todj
no i feel thats a bit hurtful actually! i only put in a single straight male cos thats what i want. am straight and as it seems now an unusual fact.

Being straight is on the whole normal. However in group sex some men do allow a certain amount of sexual contact with other men. This will not in the most part include intercourse. Perhaps that's why ? These guys are posting latent desires ? Probably though, as said above, they are desperate for anything and would click sheep if it were an option.

29 Jan 2006

Quote by tina1
hi all
dont know if im in the right section for this but here goes,,,,,,,
when looking through ads I only look for single males if they are straight, but alot of men put they are straight but then in the seeking section they put they are seeking bi males or couples with bi males,
so why dont they put they are bi curious males?
I am bi myself and dont judge anyone by their sexuality but for gods sake be honest!!!
I sometimes get the feeling they then deniy it just to have fun with couples who have asked for only straight males
like I said this maybe in the wrong section or maybe not allowed on the forum so i'l say sorry in advance

Iwould have thought that this was obvious Tina - most of the newcomers on here type their messages with their d*ck, and as their d*ick has no brain they tend to type whatever is going to get them a shag at that time.....

29 Jan 2006

do you mind me asking what you got against bisexual men? i think yours is a very sad attitude from someone who claims to be bi to.

29 Jan 2006

Quote by byron
I had a reply to my ad a couple of days ago that said
"I am a straight single male and I live with my girlfriend. I don't usually do sex with men except when she is holding out and is pissed off with me for no reason. I don't want her to know that I have an inclination to fuck a TV as she isn't into anything kinky so discretion is important. I have always had a liking for guys who dress up as women so if you can accommodate then I finish early on Fridays so we could get it on as long as I am back for my tea at By the way I don't take anal as I am not bi but I am willing to have a go at giving it"

:banghead: :banghead: :banghead:
Purely out of interest Judy, but what was your reply?
Or the more obvious question...did you actually reply?? biggrin

29 Jan 2006

Some people don't know/understand what their sexuality is.
Some people are not comfortable with what they think their sexuality might be.
Some people confuse a fantasy with sexuality.
Some people are confused as to where their sexuality sits and struggle with defining themselves between 3 boxes.
Some people are in denial.
Some peope have their own definition of bi.
Some people are just open minded but not commited to attaching a label.
Some people become more open to exploring the boundaries of their sexuality and over time the boundaries may move.
Some people do not define their sexuality by who they will have physical contact with.
Some people will just tick any box if they think it increases their chances.
Some people are just too fucking lazy to check what they have said already.

29 Jan 2006

HI there,
OK - I condider myself straight, with a few bi-leanings, but usually in a group or threesome situation. If I say I'm bi or bi-curious, then straight woman get a bit put off, If I say I al straight, then the bi men in couples get put off. Its a "no-win" situation, really.
So whats the category, for straignt bloke that enjoys the bi side when in a group?

29 Jan 2006

I consider myself straight, but that wouldn't put me of meeting a couple with a bi male/female. as they are bi I take that as they like striaght sex aswell confused

29 Jan 2006

Quote by petersted
HI there,
OK - I condider myself straight, with a few bi-leanings, but usually in a group or threesome situation. If I say I'm bi or bi-curious, then straight woman get a bit put off, If I say I al straight, then the bi men in couples get put off. Its a "no-win" situation, really.
So whats the category, for straignt bloke that enjoys the bi side when in a group?

There's someone for everyone on here - just be honest. You win some, you lose some. I don't think that liars would get very far though - they get found out sooner or later. In your situation, I think I'd put straight then expand on that further into your profile.

29 Jan 2006

We always check any ads a guy has if he replies to us as we dont play with bi men....Nothing personal its just our preferance......And we often find that guys have ads in men seeking men and men seeking cpls with bi men..
They hedge their bets I think and by saying they are bi the believe they may get to play with a cpl ....... dunno

29 Jan 2006

Quote by easyease
do you mind me asking what you got against bisexual men? i think yours is a very sad attitude from someone who claims to be bi to.

Oh no! don't go into this again hun, its all about choice isn't it? I don't think she has a sad attitude if she has a preference to straight males, surely its her choice, if she said her preference was for bi males i bet you wouldn't have straight males moaning whats wrong with straight males... having said that lol they'd probably just lie.. after all thats what this post is about.. maybe your just to honest, but i do think its up to individuals to choose who or what they are looking for regardless of their sexuality, be honest if they said they were looking for a bi male would you have asked what was wrong with straight males?

29 Jan 2006

I dont have anything against anyone and i think people have the right to be what they choose, but why do bi males reply to my advert when it clearly states we are not into bi males, now if people take offence at this then I would just say its my preference which type of people we like to meet with

Quote by easyease
do you mind me asking what you got against bisexual men? i think yours is a very sad attitude from someone who claims to be bi to.

29 Jan 2006

Quote by easyease
do you mind me asking what you got against bisexual men? i think yours is a very sad attitude from someone who claims to be bi to.

How can you clam there attitude to be sad just because there not in to meeting bi guys? That is just wrong, one of the points of swinging is not to judge and to respect other peoples likes and dislikes isn't it ?
We ourself have have a fairly good circle of friends, some straight, some gay and some bi, it don't matter what sexuality they are, there still as good a friend to us as the next person and we respect them and there sexuality like they do us..
But when it comes to sexual fun then you only do what and with who you feel comfortable with don't you, its nothing personal, just that if you are going to do something with anyone it has to be what all parties involved are happy with smile

Shaz x

29 Jan 2006

Quote by tina1
I dont have anything against anyone and i think people have the right to be what they choose, but why do bi males reply to my advert when it clearly states we are not into bi males, now if people take offence at this then I would just say its my preference which type of people we like to meet with

I'm not going to get into the whole Bi / Straight / Gay thing but......
Can a "Bi" woman spend the night being "straight"
Can a "straight" woman spend the night being "Bi"
Can the same be said for a bloke? (Not thee Bloke obviously!!)
I have no experience of the "Bi / Not Bi bloke thing" but I'm sure that a woman doesn't have to be "Bi" at every meet..................
Why can't we all just be SEXUAL
Labels, labels, labels confused

29 Jan 2006

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Agreed ....
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

29 Jan 2006

Quote by the_Laird
I'm not going to get into the whole Bi / Straight / Gay thing but......
Can a "Bi" woman spend the night being "straight"
Can a "straight" woman spend the night being "Bi"
Can the same be said for a bloke? (Not thee Bloke obviously!!)
I have no experience of the "Bi / Not Bi bloke thing" but I'm sure that a woman doesn't have to be "Bi" at every meet..................
Why can't we all just be SEXUAL
Labels, labels, labels

because we wouldn't know who's coat is who's :smug:

29 Jan 2006

Quote by davej
I'm not going to get into the whole Bi / Straight / Gay thing but......
Can a "Bi" woman spend the night being "straight"
Can a "straight" woman spend the night being "Bi"
Can the same be said for a bloke? (Not thee Bloke obviously!!)
I have no experience of the "Bi / Not Bi bloke thing" but I'm sure that a woman doesn't have to be "Bi" at every meet..................
Why can't we all just be SEXUAL
Labels, labels, labels

because we wouldn't know who's coat is who's :smug:
Davej
You still have the string between your mittens dont you!!!
Does Mrs Davej feed them between each sleeve and across your shoulders before you leave for work each morning???
wink

29 Jan 2006

Quote by the_Laird
I'm not going to get into the whole Bi / Straight / Gay thing but......
Can a "Bi" woman spend the night being "straight"
Can a "straight" woman spend the night being "Bi"
Can the same be said for a bloke? (Not thee Bloke obviously!!)
I have no experience of the "Bi / Not Bi bloke thing" but I'm sure that a woman doesn't have to be "Bi" at every meet..................
Why can't we all just be SEXUAL
Labels, labels, labels

because we wouldn't know who's coat is who's :smug:
Davej
You still have the string between your mittens dont you!!!
Does Mrs Davej feed them between each sleeve and across your shoulders before you leave for work each morning???
wink

Nope Laird, I've learned how to do that myself now, last time I let her do that she made me late by threading them through the wrong way deliberately, I still managed to get em on the correct hands but driving the car was a nightmare.

29 Jan 2006

Quote by Shaz_n_Tony
do you mind me asking what you got against bisexual men? i think yours is a very sad attitude from someone who claims to be bi to.

How can you clam there attitude to be sad just because there not in to meeting bi guys? That is just wrong, one of the points of swinging is not to judge and to respect other peoples likes and dislikes isn't it ?
We ourself have have a fairly good circle of friends, some straight, some gay and some bi, it don't matter what sexuality they are, there still as good a friend to us as the next person and we respect them and there sexuality like they do us..
But when it comes to sexual fun then you only do what and with who you feel comfortable with don't you, its nothing personal, just that if you are going to do something with anyone it has to be what all parties involved are happy with smile

Shaz x
Shaz, I think I know what EasyEase was trying to say by this, and in a way i do agree with him (if you read your post, you have also agreed with him).
What he is trying to say is if the lady of the couple is Bi surely she understands that just cause a guy says he is also Bi, it does not mean he will want to jump on the male of the couple. Just because someone enjoys being Bi on a certain night, with a certain person/s does not mean that they will necessarily want to be Bi with everyone they meet, especially when the couple they are meeting are straight. EasyEase was saying that it is sad that she does not understand this!
I think the post by The_Laird explans the labels issue a lot better than I can wink

29 Jan 2006

Quote by davej
Nope Laird, I've learned how to do that myself now

And once again, you prove that you are a vastly superior being to me............ wink

(I've just given up wearing the mittens!! Thats 'cause I'm a hard BASTARD!!)

29 Jan 2006

Quote by the_Laird
Nope Laird, I've learned how to do that myself now

And once again, you prove that you are a vastly superior being to me............ wink

(I've just given up wearing the mittens!! Thats 'cause I'm a hard BASTARD!!)
I'm more or less the same, but for me its nothing to do with being hard and more to do with making it easier to roll a cigerette.

29 Jan 2006

Quote by davej
I'm more or less the same, but for me its nothing to do with being hard and more to do with making it easier to roll a cigerette.

You really need to stop smoking in the shower tho'
lol

29 Jan 2006

yeah i didnt mean that tina is sad in an offensive name calling way, just that its sad that someone who is bi has that attitude. its a bit like saying that bi men dont know how to respect others limits, but bi women do.
any way each to their own........good luck in your search. i can understand why you are complaining if guys dont actually read your advert carefully or just ignore what it says.
your very observent nwc. smile

29 Jan 2006

Quote by the_Laird
I'm more or less the same, but for me its nothing to do with being hard and more to do with making it easier to roll a cigerette.

You really need to stop smoking in the shower tho'
lol

Ah happy days Laird, when ya could share a fag in a shower with a whole bunch of idiots.
dya think weve nearly managed a full blown hi-jack here Laird?.....fuck, I think I will pop over the border and have a squint round your local wink

29 Jan 2006

Quote by davej
Ah happy days Laird, when ya could share a fag in a shower with a whole bunch of idiots.
dya think weve nearly managed a full blown hi-jack here Laird?

Cuba here we come!!

.....fuck, I think I will pop over the border and have a squint round your local

Davej, you know there will always be a pint and a half of Whisky awaiting you here
the_Laird