What are we doing wrong?

26 Jul 2006

So we've sent out loads of really nice messages - not just winks - but don't seem to be any closer to a meet. Do we need to be more explicit on our ads/profile? Less explicit?
We also went to our first party a couple of weeks ago and got talking to a couple we didn't click with at all. Think it was probably down to initial weird-out/shyness, but we were commenting to each other on good-looking men/women, but couldn't quite pluck up the courage to walk on over and start talking. Maybe it'll come with time... Definitely gonna go back.
Do first experiences tend to happen more at parties or as a result of individually arranged meets?
Does all this sound familiar for the first month or so? smile

Are we just being impatient?

26 Jul 2006

It all depends on what you want and how you want it to come-about.
Looking at your profile I see you are looking for same room sex. May I suggest you try a couples night at a good club - it is not for everyone but it suits plenty and offers the chance to progress at your own pace.

26 Jul 2006

I wouldn't worry to much biggrin

A month isn't long, and its worth taking your time.
Some people are nervous, and so hold back.
Some are timewasters
Some might not fancy you
Other might think you wouldn't fancy them etc etc.
If you didn't click with the couple at the party, then its a good thing nothing hapened i would have thought lol

I've found the laid back approach works best :D
If it happens, it happens :D
If you look desperate, or pushy, then maybe thats not so appealing :lol:
Have Fun :D

26 Jul 2006

Sounds familiar, so don't be put off. Like Polo says a club would be a good place to start. I could suggest Club Liberty (Brighton Sun Club) in East Sussex on a Saturday night.
Confidence is the answer and knwing what each of you wants and will accept. If you like the couple and get on well then maybe ask them to join you inthe jcuzzi there or pool and see what happens biggrin

26 Jul 2006

Quote by Kittenbear
So we've sent out loads of really nice messages - not just winks - but don't seem to be any closer to a meet. Do we need to be more explicit on our ads/profile? Less explicit?

You could try adding a pic of both of you on your profile rather than just one of you dunno

26 Jul 2006

Quote by Dawn_Mids
So we've sent out loads of really nice messages - not just winks - but don't seem to be any closer to a meet. Do we need to be more explicit on our ads/profile? Less explicit?

You could try adding a pic of both of you on your profile rather than just one of you dunno

Good point. We'll do that...

26 Jul 2006

Why would you think you are doing something wrong? Maybe you just need to ajust your expectations a little as there is a possibilitythat they might be unrealistic? dunno

Like others have mentioned just relax and enjoy!
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