Hi just a brief question but what are you couples looking for when you view a male profile?when your looking for someone to meet and play with,I admit I'm no David Beckham or a muscle bound Adonis but I just carnt seem to get any meets.I no as couples you have a lot of singles to choose from but one thing puzzles me is I get turned down by the automated (sorry your not what were looking for)message so I look at there pictures again and see them playing with overweight old men anyway sorry folks I'm just getting frustrated,so please no sarcastic answers just honest ones and some idea of how I can get a few more meets otherwise it's back to the drawing board again for this single divorced male xxx cheers
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what are you actually looking for?
Hopefully you will get a lot of varied replies to this question, because there are so many different factors to the answer.
Lot's of couples see things different, as it should be, something for everything.
First and foremost your profile belongs to you and you should put what you want in it not what people tell you to put.
But for us, the more informative a profile the more chance of getting our interest, we don't want to guess and we don't want to send endless e-mails finding out the answers but that is us and some people quite rightly think the opposite.
On our own profile which some consider too long we have tried to be upfront and honest, we have tried to inject a little of our personality whilst answering the main questions, ie saying you will travel is one thing but how far ? you can accommodate but how long for ..... overnight, a couple of hours of fun ? (these are general observations not aimed soley at the OP).
Single males, some cannot accommodate, there are many reasons why this might be the case but for many couples it is a warning that accommodating might upset the wife
so why not say "cannot accommodate as I share accommodation", live in Company housing (police house/college dorm/barracks/with parents/am a single parent) after all that is what your profile is for, to let people know what they need to know and what you are happy for them to know.
We are only interested in part as to what a single male wants, we are here for what we want and in finding compatible people to play with we know that we will all have fun, so those profiles that are all about what you want do nothing for us, I want to know that my partner will be respected, that people will make an effort to accommodate what we want and not just think it is all about them, paramount for us is respect and a profile that shows us the person understands the need for respect goes a long way.
Pictures, yea it's ok to have a dick pic but if you put it as your avatar or leading pic the chances are I will not open the profile or quickly exit from it, I am straight I dont want a dick in my face thanks. The same goes for close up pussies, spunk firing dicks, spunk covered pussies, close up tits, they tell us nothing and do nothing for us, fine to have them in the collection but a full body pic showing shape and size works well with us, you can omit faces, you can be fully dressed, and save face pics for when you have found someone you want to talk to about meeting but we do like to have some idea initially because we dont do blind dates and we do have preferences.
Other things that switch us off, single males with pics of them having bareback sex, pics where you dont know who is who in group situations and stealth pics, taken in such a way as to hide beer bellies on men and women for example.
Lot's of couples see things different, as it should be, something for everything.
First and foremost your profile belongs to you and you should put what you want in it not what people tell you to put.
But for us, the more informative a profile the more chance of getting our interest, we don't want to guess and we don't want to send endless e-mails finding out the answers but that is us and some people quite rightly think the opposite.
On our own profile which some consider too long we have tried to be upfront and honest, we have tried to inject a little of our personality whilst answering the main questions, ie saying you will travel is one thing but how far ? you can accommodate but how long for ..... overnight, a couple of hours of fun ? (these are general observations not aimed soley at the OP).
Single males, some cannot accommodate, there are many reasons why this might be the case but for many couples it is a warning that accommodating might upset the wife
so why not say "cannot accommodate as I share accommodation", live in Company housing (police house/college dorm/barracks/with parents/am a single parent) after all that is what your profile is for, to let people know what they need to know and what you are happy for them to know.We are only interested in part as to what a single male wants, we are here for what we want and in finding compatible people to play with we know that we will all have fun, so those profiles that are all about what you want do nothing for us, I want to know that my partner will be respected, that people will make an effort to accommodate what we want and not just think it is all about them, paramount for us is respect and a profile that shows us the person understands the need for respect goes a long way.
Pictures, yea it's ok to have a dick pic but if you put it as your avatar or leading pic the chances are I will not open the profile or quickly exit from it, I am straight I dont want a dick in my face thanks. The same goes for close up pussies, spunk firing dicks, spunk covered pussies, close up tits, they tell us nothing and do nothing for us, fine to have them in the collection but a full body pic showing shape and size works well with us, you can omit faces, you can be fully dressed, and save face pics for when you have found someone you want to talk to about meeting but we do like to have some idea initially because we dont do blind dates and we do have preferences.
Other things that switch us off, single males with pics of them having bareback sex, pics where you dont know who is who in group situations and stealth pics, taken in such a way as to hide beer bellies on men and women for example.
Sex God
We select single guys from time to time and although you fit our age range we probably would not get past your profile because it is very serious and even your face pics are formal and serious. We can't speak for anyone else but to us this is about fun and not seriousness.
We would say lighten up and sound sexy and fun. BTW heavy cummer is a bit of a turn off for some women and exists mainly in the fantasies of men brought up watching facial bukkake and the like.
Just our opinion.
We would say lighten up and sound sexy and fun. BTW heavy cummer is a bit of a turn off for some women and exists mainly in the fantasies of men brought up watching facial bukkake and the like.
Just our opinion.
Sexpert
Hi
Have to agree with what everyone else has said! All good advice x
We are drawn more to a single guy that realises that there are two people he needs to get along with not just the fem which unfortunately doesn't always happen. Although the other day i was impressed by a single guy who when i said our decision to play with a single guy must be a mutual one and that Lusty would have to like him too... responded with and i would have to like him too otherwise would be just a kiss, chat and goodbye! Fair play that man... and god i hope they like each other pmsl!!!
As for the photo thing... you def need some less serious ones. But try not to be too posed! Not asking much huh! lol!!
Good luck and hope some of the comments people have made help you out xxx
Have to agree with what everyone else has said! All good advice x
We are drawn more to a single guy that realises that there are two people he needs to get along with not just the fem which unfortunately doesn't always happen. Although the other day i was impressed by a single guy who when i said our decision to play with a single guy must be a mutual one and that Lusty would have to like him too... responded with and i would have to like him too otherwise would be just a kiss, chat and goodbye! Fair play that man... and god i hope they like each other pmsl!!!
As for the photo thing... you def need some less serious ones. But try not to be too posed! Not asking much huh! lol!!
Good luck and hope some of the comments people have made help you out xxx
Sex God
You have been offered some excellent advice from previous posters, I hope you act on it and therefore have more success in the future.
From our perspective I'd like to point out that you appear to have selected all the options in the looking for section that include women, but without thinking about it. Amongst others you are currently looking for a gay female couple. Under what circumstances do you think that a gay female couple are likely to be looking for a single straight male?
From our perspective I'd like to point out that you appear to have selected all the options in the looking for section that include women, but without thinking about it. Amongst others you are currently looking for a gay female couple. Under what circumstances do you think that a gay female couple are likely to be looking for a single straight male?
In fairness to the OP I think that the options in the 'Looking for' section can be a little restrictive.
I think maybe some people select more options so as not to appear homophobic or put people off. The trouble is selecting everything hints at desperation.
It would help maybe if there were 2 options such as 'Actively Seeking' and an 'OK With' option.
I think maybe some people select more options so as not to appear homophobic or put people off. The trouble is selecting everything hints at desperation.
It would help maybe if there were 2 options such as 'Actively Seeking' and an 'OK With' option.
