Ive been here a while and had no interest, i know there are more single males on this site than any other category.
But what does it for you? Face pics, body shots, body parts in view, well written or simple and straight forward?
Just after a little advise aswell for new members to pick up on some thing too.
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Orgasminator
Hi John,
I don't think theres anything wrong with your profile tbh. You've written (a small bit) about you and there are a couple of pics. The sad fact is you are a very little fish in an absolutely enormous sea.
Have a look in the ad's and if you fit the criteria, then drop them a line. That's how the 2 single men we see "got to us" so to speak. That was 2 out of over 100 responses to several ad's tho - the odds are never going to be great.
Good luck
*Her*
I don't think theres anything wrong with your profile tbh. You've written (a small bit) about you and there are a couple of pics. The sad fact is you are a very little fish in an absolutely enormous sea.
Have a look in the ad's and if you fit the criteria, then drop them a line. That's how the 2 single men we see "got to us" so to speak. That was 2 out of over 100 responses to several ad's tho - the odds are never going to be great.
Good luck
*Her*
Sex God
Hi John,
Firstly, your pics. You only have 2, both of which are on display publicly and both have your face blurred. I wouldnt meet you if I couldnt see a face pic. I wouldnt want to be messing around with msn, emails or texts so maybe you could have a face pic in your private album ready for when you need it.
Yes you have written a bit on your profile, but it doesnt say much about what you want. You say you are looking mainly for a single girl for any type of fun ... what does this mean? It makes you sound a little desperate to me as if you would do anything. Would you do piss, poo and pain?? If someone wanted you to get out the paddles would you do it and do you know what you're doing? I hope you get what I'm trying to say here ... you need to be more specific instead of just saying you'll do anything.
You dont come across as being very confident which would also put me off. Dont get me wrong, I wouldnt go near someone who thinks hes a studly goodfuck as most who say they are, really arent but your lack of confidence puts me off. I wouldnt meet you for a drink in a pub, I would meet you at my house for a drink and if we got on then I'd invite you to play. I beleive that lots of couples work the same way.
Also, your profile doesnt stand out from the gazzilions of other single guys on here. In my opinion, a bit of humour goes a long way.
Sorry, just my opinion, hope it helps xx
Firstly, your pics. You only have 2, both of which are on display publicly and both have your face blurred. I wouldnt meet you if I couldnt see a face pic. I wouldnt want to be messing around with msn, emails or texts so maybe you could have a face pic in your private album ready for when you need it.
Yes you have written a bit on your profile, but it doesnt say much about what you want. You say you are looking mainly for a single girl for any type of fun ... what does this mean? It makes you sound a little desperate to me as if you would do anything. Would you do piss, poo and pain?? If someone wanted you to get out the paddles would you do it and do you know what you're doing? I hope you get what I'm trying to say here ... you need to be more specific instead of just saying you'll do anything.
You dont come across as being very confident which would also put me off. Dont get me wrong, I wouldnt go near someone who thinks hes a studly goodfuck as most who say they are, really arent but your lack of confidence puts me off. I wouldnt meet you for a drink in a pub, I would meet you at my house for a drink and if we got on then I'd invite you to play. I beleive that lots of couples work the same way.
Also, your profile doesnt stand out from the gazzilions of other single guys on here. In my opinion, a bit of humour goes a long way.
Sorry, just my opinion, hope it helps xx
Orgasminator
Think of your profile as your marketing pitch - the better the pitch the more response you will get. (Would I meet me if I read this profile?) Read others profiles and use what appeals to you in your profile.
As has been said in many of these types of forum post before. You will get out as much as you put in and it takes time.
Engage in the chatrooms, post in the forum, have well written ads, go to socials / munchies etc, etc, in other words put yourself about and get known.... It's the only way!
Search profiles on what you are looking for and within a distance you're prepared to travel. Drop her/them a well written personalised mail (not just a wink or a one-liner), cover the points they're looking for in their ad / profile and how you can meet them.
On a first meet, always take extra care and attention with appearance - well dressed, subtle after-shave, arrive on-time always does it for us.
<< Check out the 'Events' section for anything happening locally.
<< Check out the 'Advice' section.
Check out the let's meet forum as well.
As has been said in many of these types of forum post before. You will get out as much as you put in and it takes time.
Engage in the chatrooms, post in the forum, have well written ads, go to socials / munchies etc, etc, in other words put yourself about and get known.... It's the only way!
Search profiles on what you are looking for and within a distance you're prepared to travel. Drop her/them a well written personalised mail (not just a wink or a one-liner), cover the points they're looking for in their ad / profile and how you can meet them.
On a first meet, always take extra care and attention with appearance - well dressed, subtle after-shave, arrive on-time always does it for us.
<< Check out the 'Events' section for anything happening locally.
<< Check out the 'Advice' section.
Check out the let's meet forum as well.
Hello John and welcome to the party or to the hell,being as single male in any swingers site is trouble,hard work and sometimes really disappointment! The odds to us are 160 males to 1 couple,so that means we must work 160 times anymore to get attention of just 1 couple and we must do the best of best to stand out from the crowd,i did the same things as you in the begin here,put some forums and asking any member how to get a good profile and how to stand out from the crowd,so am still trying and then lets see,good luck John and never give up!
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Hello John and welcome to the party or to the hell,being as single male in any swingers site is trouble,hard work and sometimes really disappointment! The odds to us are 160 males to 1 couple,so that means we must work 160 times anymore to get attention of just 1 couple and we must do the best of best to stand out from the crowd,i did the same things as you in the begin here,put some forums and asking any member how to get a good profile and how to stand out from the crowd,so am still trying and then lets see,good luck John and never give up!
We don't envy the single guys on here. We have trouble meeting couples too, but we do our best to use our quota of single guys plus a few more. Good luck to the pair of you.
Sexpert
Quote by Fun_Laughs
Hello John and welcome to the party or to the hell,being as single male in any swingers site is trouble,hard work and sometimes really disappointment! The odds to us are 160 males to 1 couple,so that means we must work 160 times anymore to get attention of just 1 couple and we must do the best of best to stand out from the crowd,i did the same things as you in the begin here,put some forums and asking any member how to get a good profile and how to stand out from the crowd,so am still trying and then lets see,good luck John and never give up!
I'd agree with this. Be honest and open on your profile, Have some pics in reserve to show people who you are. And BE part of the scene, post in the forum, take part in chat and get yourself known. It takes a while to get taken seriously but if you make an effort then you should find it makes a difference....eventually.
Quote by twiceasmuchfun
Hello John and welcome to the party or to the hell,being as single male in any swingers site is trouble,hard work and sometimes really disappointment! The odds to us are 160 males to 1 couple,so that means we must work 160 times anymore to get attention of just 1 couple and we must do the best of best to stand out from the crowd,i did the same things as you in the begin here,put some forums and asking any member how to get a good profile and how to stand out from the crowd,so am still trying and then lets see,good luck John and never give up!
We don't envy the single guys on here. We have trouble meeting couples too, but we do our best to use our quota of single guys plus a few more. Good luck to the pair of nice to see real selflessness is not dead. :twisted:
Hi John...
As a single fem here, I only really look at profiles if Im chatting to someone who interests me in the chatroom.. Then.. First thing I look at is the pic.
As said by funlovers.. Your pics are blurred out (understandably, privacy n all that) but all thats on display is another average looking male clothed body, nothing to make me wanna delve further.
Now, you gotta make yourself stand out. Now me personally.. Im not much for genital shots, every males got one!!
For me.. a good upperbody/chest & arms shot makes all the difference to wether I look/read further.
If I do I like to read what kind of girl floats your boat.. Wether size matters.. Age range etc. Not 'Im up for anything' as some profiles do.
I write exactly what Im looking for because thats all Im after.
When you make contact make sure your mail is respectful. No women here are free prostitutes.. They just like sex too!
Im impressed by mails that have OBVIOUSLY read my profile. Not the ones that say they have then when u read their profile they are opposite etc to what you've actually written
I just then delete
If it has to be a wink. Make sure your profile pic that goes with it is a good one... Someone may just be tempted to peek the rest of the profile.
Good Luck!
Minxie :rascal: xx
As a single fem here, I only really look at profiles if Im chatting to someone who interests me in the chatroom.. Then.. First thing I look at is the pic.
As said by funlovers.. Your pics are blurred out (understandably, privacy n all that) but all thats on display is another average looking male clothed body, nothing to make me wanna delve further.
Now, you gotta make yourself stand out. Now me personally.. Im not much for genital shots, every males got one!!
For me.. a good upperbody/chest & arms shot makes all the difference to wether I look/read further.
If I do I like to read what kind of girl floats your boat.. Wether size matters.. Age range etc. Not 'Im up for anything' as some profiles do.
I write exactly what Im looking for because thats all Im after.
When you make contact make sure your mail is respectful. No women here are free prostitutes.. They just like sex too!
Im impressed by mails that have OBVIOUSLY read my profile. Not the ones that say they have then when u read their profile they are opposite etc to what you've actually written
I just then deleteIf it has to be a wink. Make sure your profile pic that goes with it is a good one... Someone may just be tempted to peek the rest of the profile.
Good Luck!
Minxie :rascal: xx
Mod
Use the chat rooms to make yourself known and stick your name doon for any socials or munches near you.
Don't take this place too seriously and above all have manners and a good sense of humour.
Im looking for manners and a sense of humour so gie me a shout if you find them will ye
Don't take this place too seriously and above all have manners and a good sense of humour.
Im looking for manners and a sense of humour so gie me a shout if you find them will ye
Warming the Bed
I would definately say have a few really good, clear face photos, preferbaly with you smiling. I've been told that loads of times. People want fun, and a laugh as well as the sexy stuff, but in particular for the ladies it seems a face photo is a good start.
Nothing wrong with the X rated ones in pvt, to send upon request. And it helps if they are REALLY naughty and not just a slack dick
I have on my profile page:
"If you send me a message or a profile with a photo of your knob and, consider this a
'photo of you' then I will assume you are correct."
Also, talk to a variety of people in chat rooms and not just the ones you want to shag.
Nothing wrong with the X rated ones in pvt, to send upon request. And it helps if they are REALLY naughty and not just a slack dick
I have on my profile page:
"If you send me a message or a profile with a photo of your knob and, consider this a
'photo of you' then I will assume you are correct."
Also, talk to a variety of people in chat rooms and not just the ones you want to shag.
Sex God
Quote by Pegasus2006
I would definately say have a few really good, clear face photos, preferbaly with you smiling. I've been told that loads of times. People want fun, and a laugh as well as the sexy stuff, but in particular for the ladies it seems a face photo is a good start.
Nothing wrong with the X rated ones in pvt, to send upon request. And it helps if they are REALLY naughty and not just a slack dick
I have on my profile page:
"If you send me a message or a profile with a photo of your knob and, consider this a
'photo of you' then I will assume you are correct."
Also, talk to a variety of people in chat rooms and not just the ones you want to shag.
:giggle: I love that!!
Sex God
Sometimes it's the pics which attract me, but more often than not it's a well-written profile. By well-written I mean interesting, funny and possibly quirky rather than the usual stuff.
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Mod
Quote by noladreams
quirky rather than the usual stuff.
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I wonder if I have a quirky profile good enough for Nola
