Hi everyone and thanks for reading, I'd appreciate any advice you can give me.
I'm a 28 y/o single male looking for couples, but everytime I write to a couple I never get a reply!
I feel like I'm polite, tell them what I'm looking for (nothing weird!), I always offer a phone number to prove I'm genuine, I also offer a webcam so they can see me first, I'm always happy to meet for a drink first also.
If I receive an message then I always have the courtesy to reply, even if its a polite no.
So what am I doing wrong? Have been on this site for a couple of years but just dont feel like its worth the frustration anymore.
Does anyone else have the same problem or is it just me??!
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Sex God
Imagine your a cpl advertising for a single male....
Imagine how many replies your going to get :shock:
Can you imagine how long it would take to respond to them all
Imagine how many replies your going to get :shock:
Can you imagine how long it would take to respond to them all
is the only way you try to meet people by replying to adverts?
have you thought of trying maybe a chat room and getting to know people, there are normally chat room socials that go on.
or even putting your name down on a social in lets meet up
these events are good for networking and people getting to see you and chat to you in a none pressure environment
can lead to what you are looking for
Earthyx
have you thought of trying maybe a chat room and getting to know people, there are normally chat room socials that go on.
or even putting your name down on a social in lets meet up
these events are good for networking and people getting to see you and chat to you in a none pressure environment
can lead to what you are looking for
Earthyx
Master of Sex
Well I'm stumped. You're gorgeous, sexy, obviously articulate and have a banging profile with pics (phwoarr to the pics btw).
If I was younger & 'fitter' then you'd have a pm in your mail box by now. I can only say keep trying. Do you frequent the chat rooms? Attend socials? Maybe you just need to become more 'known' in a general sense.
Good luck - I hope you soon get the action you're looking for.
Sugar x
If I was younger & 'fitter' then you'd have a pm in your mail box by now. I can only say keep trying. Do you frequent the chat rooms? Attend socials? Maybe you just need to become more 'known' in a general sense.
Good luck - I hope you soon get the action you're looking for.
Sugar x
Thanks Earthy & Sugar,
I'm always in the chat rooms! and I do talk, the problem there is that the couple always seems to have so much attention that its trying to get time to talk to them!
As for munches, I've never been to one, so maybe that would work better for me.
and thanks for your comments Sugar
I'm always in the chat rooms! and I do talk, the problem there is that the couple always seems to have so much attention that its trying to get time to talk to them!
As for munches, I've never been to one, so maybe that would work better for me.
and thanks for your comments Sugar
Quote by Kenpau_uk2006
Hi everyone and thanks for reading, I'd appreciate any advice you can give me.
I'm a 28 y/o single male looking for couples, but everytime I write to a couple I never get a reply!
I feel like I'm polite, tell them what I'm looking for (nothing weird!), I always offer a phone number to prove I'm genuine, I also offer a webcam so they can see me first, I'm always happy to meet for a drink first also.
If I receive an message then I always have the courtesy to reply, even if its a polite no.
So what am I doing wrong? Have been on this site for a couple of years but just dont feel like its worth the frustration anymore.
Does anyone else have the same problem or is it just me??!
Just a minor point, and I'm sure it was just the way that was worded, on the very rare occasion I look through the ads, I look for ones that are looking for me, if that makes sense, rather than looking at the ones that take my fancy and then assuming I'm what they want.
I have a couples profile on here too, and when we put an ad up we get inundated with replies, most of whom, it would seem, have not actually read what we are looking for.
Make sure you're within the bounds of any stipulations in an ad, but most of all don't take it to heart.
H.x
I have just had a quick peek at your profile and i agree with sugar-n-pom, but as part of a couple what would put us off from your profile is that you say you are a straight male, but in the what you are looking for bit you say you are looking for a couple with a bi male, so kind of sending mixed messages....so we would disregard an message you might send on that alone...
sorry if that sounds picky but you did ask
but very nice profile other than that mmmmmmmmmmm
Sam xx
sorry if that sounds picky but you did ask
but very nice profile other than that mmmmmmmmmmm
Sam xx
Sex God
See if there are any socials in your area, and ask in that thread for an invite.
Sex God
You should look out for the couples who are advertising for single guys and make sure you read their ad and their profile to get an idea as to what they are looking for. If it is compatible exactly to what you are looking for then you have a much better chance of getting a response. As has been said many, many times on this forum - you nee to make an effort and a nice picture with obvious references in your reply to the couples ad/profile at least shows you have an imagination. We get so many replies from guys who simply do do not read our profile and go on to tell us what they are looking for!!
You might also try a Club so as to get a feel for the lifestyle this will come over in your writings I'm sure.
You might also try a Club so as to get a feel for the lifestyle this will come over in your writings I'm sure.
Sex God
You do have one of the better profiles I've seen, and if you weren't so far away from us, who knows...
But if we were to meet up with a guy, then it would most likely be someone we had got friendly with via the forums/chat, rather than seeking out, or if we had met already.
I suppose it is hard in chat if couples take over, but you're maybe visiting the wrong rooms? But definately keep chatting in the forums!
Maz xx
But if we were to meet up with a guy, then it would most likely be someone we had got friendly with via the forums/chat, rather than seeking out, or if we had met already.
I suppose it is hard in chat if couples take over, but you're maybe visiting the wrong rooms? But definately keep chatting in the forums!
Maz xx
hwoar: if I were 10 years younger! 
your just to fit/sexy/phowrr ? lol seriously, i would probally not message you cuse your all the above.
not selling my self short but i feel more comfy shagging those i feel comfy with, not good at having sex while trying to hold belly in etc etc lol
opps this by no means is any reflection of the guys i meet lol they are all lovely, ok maybe not all of you some of you were weird and mingers lol
if only i dug my garden as well as this hole lol
xx fem xx
Master of Sex
move to warrington lol
Sex God
Quote by Kenpau_uk2006
Hi everyone and thanks for reading, I'd appreciate any advice you can give me.
I'm a 28 y/o single male looking for couples, but everytime I write to a couple I never get a reply!
I feel like I'm polite, tell them what I'm looking for (nothing weird!), I always offer a phone number to prove I'm genuine, I also offer a webcam so they can see me first, I'm always happy to meet for a drink first also.
If I receive an message then I always have the courtesy to reply, even if its a polite no.
So what am I doing wrong? Have been on this site for a couple of years but just dont feel like its worth the frustration anymore.
Does anyone else have the same problem or is it just me??!
if i was in a cynical mood i would be so tempted to say this is the best "look at me" post i have seen in ages.....
:lol: :lol: but i'll give ya the benefit of the doubt..in all seroiusness.... the best piece of advice i could give ya is that "you get out of it what you put in"....
for example (not criticising) you have been here for 2 years and only posted just over 40 times before today.... 2 posts a month-ish, so if for a example a couple only really use the forums, what would they know about you? not a great deal......
like others have said.... be proactive.... how many socials and munches have there been in your part of the world and you have never been to one.....again some people like the non-pressure atmosphere of getting to know people first before even thinking of playing....
not everyone uses the ad's so you are only appealing to one part of the site....spread yourself about (in the nicest way) the more options you give yourself the more chance you have..... the more well known you get... and you'll find that a bigger world of swinging will open up to you.....
sean
damn... did i just give away all the secrets???? :lol: :lol: :lol:
Sex God
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Hang on! Hang on!
Where did you spring from my friend!!?? Good to see you!
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Hi Kenpau,
I'm a single fem rather than a couple, but if u wanna pm me i promise i'll reply ;)
trix xx
I'm a single fem rather than a couple, but if u wanna pm me i promise i'll reply ;)
trix xx
Orgasminator
Quote by Samndave
I have just had a quick peek at your profile and i agree with sugar-n-pom, but as part of a couple what would put us off from your profile is that you say you are a straight male, but in the what you are looking for bit you say you are looking for a couple with a bi male, so kind of sending mixed messages....so we would disregard an message you might send on that alone...
sorry if that sounds picky but you did ask
but very nice profile other than that mmmmmmmmmmm
Sam xx
Just because he is willing to meet couples with bi males doesn't necessarily mean hi is a closet bi guy.
Maybe he is comfortable enough in his own sexuality not to worry about the other male being bi?
Maybe he hasn't got that predjudice built in that the bi male of the couple will pounce on him?
Maybe he is a closet bi guy - but why should we hold that against him - so long as he respects the couples boundries.
i know that we'd meet couples who are both bi, one bi, or both staight as long as we discussed the boundries first, and as everyone on this site should know - no means no!
Phew.... well thanks to everyone for replying, it's taken a while but think I have replied to most of you!
Thanks for your message Fabio (and for the benefit of the doubt!), it definately wasn't meant as a 'look at me' thread!
In all honesty I have only ever used the chat room as it seemed more convenient to chat to people while they are there....however, I totally agree that you get out what you put in, and seeing as it's a marathon and not a sprint, I need to be more patient and post on the forum a lot more by the looks of it.
And two-4-more thankyou very much for your message, I couldn't have put it better myself (it was the first point of view that was right btw).
I am very comfortable with my sexuality, have no problem being naked with bi guys, gay guys, Tv's or anyone else, so come on all you couples and single females!!
Lastly, before you all get bored of reading my abnormally long reply, I just wanted to say thanks again, I really was losing heart with SH and the scene in general but you have all showed me that there are genuinely nice people out there to meet, so, group hug everyone....
Andy
Thanks for your message Fabio (and for the benefit of the doubt!), it definately wasn't meant as a 'look at me' thread!
In all honesty I have only ever used the chat room as it seemed more convenient to chat to people while they are there....however, I totally agree that you get out what you put in, and seeing as it's a marathon and not a sprint, I need to be more patient and post on the forum a lot more by the looks of it.
And two-4-more thankyou very much for your message, I couldn't have put it better myself (it was the first point of view that was right btw).
I am very comfortable with my sexuality, have no problem being naked with bi guys, gay guys, Tv's or anyone else, so come on all you couples and single females!!
Lastly, before you all get bored of reading my abnormally long reply, I just wanted to say thanks again, I really was losing heart with SH and the scene in general but you have all showed me that there are genuinely nice people out there to meet, so, group hug everyone....
Andy
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is the only way you try to meet people by replying to adverts?
have you thought of trying maybe a chat room and getting to know people, there are normally chat room socials that go on.
or even putting your name down on a social in lets meet up
these events are good for networking and people getting to see you and chat to you in a none pressure environment
can lead to what you are looking for
Earthyx
Great advice!! We concur.
Yeah maybe you're right de_sade, and don't worry I didn't take it the wrong way, I wouldn't have put the video on if I wasn't happy with everyone viewing it!
As for the anal thing, just not my cup of tea am afraid.
The trouble with dating sites markz is that as far as I'm aware the people on there are not interested in swinging so much as dating! But if I'm wrong let me know!!
As for the anal thing, just not my cup of tea am afraid.
The trouble with dating sites markz is that as far as I'm aware the people on there are not interested in swinging so much as dating! But if I'm wrong let me know!!
After reading what most people have siad I have to agree, that as a couple who has placed adverts on here where by males just copy and paste the same reply regardless as to what the advert maybe asking for.
As some have already advised read the advert respond to what any couple maybe looking for not what you'd like, make the responce personal to them.
As for your profile it seems good enough to get you meets and as for ticking u aren't phased by a couple with a bi male it means your just happy to meet surely any rules would have been talked about prior to meeting up and everyone would be on the same wave length.
Get into the rooms be polite and get to socials where faces can be out to names
Happy Hunting
As some have already advised read the advert respond to what any couple maybe looking for not what you'd like, make the responce personal to them.
As for your profile it seems good enough to get you meets and as for ticking u aren't phased by a couple with a bi male it means your just happy to meet surely any rules would have been talked about prior to meeting up and everyone would be on the same wave length.
Get into the rooms be polite and get to socials where faces can be out to names
Happy Hunting
Sex God
persevere, go to socials, post in the forum....
Failing that, you could always send me a PM!!!
Failing that, you could always send me a PM!!!
