What do you do?

26 Jan 2007

Quote by LadyFeeBee
Tidy the house :shock: If I'm upset I go on a tidying frenzy and I throw out anything that sits still long enough!
Fee
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Hence the reason I tend to run about a lot :shock:
If I need to relax or lose my thoughts I do something very active. Mountaineering, downhill biking, climbing, anything I need to be 100 % focused on.
Works for me

26 Jan 2007

I can switch off comepletely when I'm reading, especially in the bath with a bottle of something alcoholic. If it's bedtime and I can't switch off I find radio 4 does the trick... especially during the shipping forecast lol

Basically i think finding something that you enjoy and can really concentrate on will push some worries from your mind. Sometimes if you just want to cry then you have to let yourself. Get a good tear jerker on and just let all the emotions out. Make sure you have a box or two of tissues to hand though wink

i know you don't want sympathy... but you didn't say no to virtual hugs :wink: :therethere:

26 Jan 2007

Quote by earthchild
i cook
loud music, glass of wine and cook, i can lose myself completely and it totaly de-stresses me and never fails.
i am of course lying i meant bottle not glass
Earthy xx
in edit of course there are always just those times when nothing will get rid of it other than crying, i sob my heart out look like shit but feel much better and i always find i sleep after this.

hehe thanks im currently listening to Forever Faithless rather loud doing my washing up and cooking dinner biggrin

probable annoying my neighbour but hey im de-stressing :twisted:

26 Jan 2007

I find the best way to unwind is a couple of hours of strenuious exercise at the gym then come home and have a few drinks then a good book read in the bath filled with very hot water and lots of radox , to finish a very intimate liason with a mutually consenting partner . but I am still looking.

26 Jan 2007

Theme Hospital - you can lose great chunks of time playing it.
Have a passionkiss

Jas
XXX

26 Jan 2007

Quote by keeno
When the black dog bites :cry: I can't read. I haven't got the concentration for it. I can't watch films :x ditto. It's so depressing :cry: . Which of course why it happens.

I know exactly what you're talking about hunni. Just spent the past 4 months helping my best mate out of the lowest of lows :therethere: I've started to drag him out on walks with me in the guise of helping me train for my trek in October and that seems to help a little.
Try reading Taming The Black Dog, it really is an excellent read kiss

26 Jan 2007

I clean

:roll: ...usually the bathroom or kitchen if something is bothering me or I'm is something about the idea of killing germs that really calms me down :roll: :roll:
Only thing is once I start I have real trouble stopping .....
but at least it kn***kers me out so I can sleep...........................

26 Jan 2007

Read, read, read its the only thing that really switches me off and then when I sleep I go into my world of fantasies which I love.
Next best thing for me is walking - being outside walking is brilliant.
Next to that is going to a quiz with my mates on a Sunday night - works for me.

26 Jan 2007

well at the moment, im totally stuck playing football manager on the pc!! its been a tough season!! lol

although managed to get promoted to the premiership with norwich city..why norwich? i really dont know :lol:
very addictive tho!! mad

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Apart from that i like downloading music, and right now..planning how to save cash before pay day...anyone wana buy a liver ??!! :lol: although after the massive amount of booze drunk over xmas, probably wouldnt get much for it!! :cry:
and of course another thing is chatting to you all as well...oh yeah, and also love going to the gym/ playing football or squash .... :taz:

26 Jan 2007

I masturbate, often, and its ace, case of having to around here lol

27 Jan 2007

Quote by Freckledbird
What do you do, that you can totally lose yourself in and not think about anything else?

Take control.
Of the mind.
Should this be an attempt at an helpful PM ?
Not sure. but here it is anyway.
As a very young adult, I was in need of what today would be called anything from psychiatric help to therapy to counselling; to help me "deal" with something I'd been a part of and "gone through"
The official line was to be told "Shit happens. Pull yourself together."
I was in a bed next to "colleague" that had been through, and been a part of much more than I at the time and pretty much anyone I've known or come to know about since.
He "taught" me a technique to deal with the shitty and take control of the mind.
"Put it in a box and close the lid"
It could be a box, a cupboard, a suitcase; or any other container that works for you.
Put it in and close the lid/door/whatever.
If you can control the box and it's lid, you'll be in control of the container and it's contents.
It's an actual, and "real" visualisation. In the mind. It's imagination - but you have to "see" it happening.
What neither of us realised at the time is that if you do manage to put something in a box - it's still "there" and hasn't really been "dealt with" That's a realisation one comes to. a few years later.
It is though "under control" to a certain extent; and if you can master it - totally.
The demons remain to this day.
I've developed a new technique to handle them when they come knocking on the lid. As they do from time to time. Sometimes with notice, sometimes without. Mostly it works. I'm lucky these days that I can even spot when it's not going to work. When that's the case, I have to remove myself from whatever/wherever I am so that I can give 100% focus and concentration to regaining "control"
I think if you can control the mind, to varying degrees; you should be able to "lose yourself" and not think about anything else, or perhaps wander off to a better place in your mind.

27 Jan 2007

Quote by dambuster
I think if you can control the mind, to varying degrees; you should be able to "lose yourself" and not think about anything else, or perhaps wander off to a better place in your mind.

I have to do that all the time :shock:
Can you tell? lol

27 Jan 2007

Quote by Kiss
were you in the YOC kiss????

No, but Mrs Kiss was.
I grew up with parents that ran a sanctuary for sick and injured birds of prey. I also used to be really into falconry.
What can I say? I'm a closet tree hugging nature lover and I even got a new pair of binoculars from my mum last Christmas. lol

oOOOOOOO Kiss no we have to get to gether for a chat i use to love falconry i have a kestral and yes he was called kes use to go out and fly him on a lure for hour and just loved to watch him fly he was beautyfull

27 Jan 2007

Quote by dambuster
The demons remain to this day.

The experiences that create these are part of who one is.. so what is the purpose of disposing of them..... dealing with them in their current and past form is a more empowering process than "leaving them in the past and just getting on with it" Then, when one faces a situation where those demons may be created again. One can learn from the previous experience and reach a resolution more quickly and succintly than before. Until it becomes such a quick process it is an unconscious act that is seconds in the execution.

Quote by dambuster
I've developed a new technique to handle them when they come knocking on the lid. As they do from time to time. Sometimes with notice, sometimes without. Mostly it works. I'm lucky these days that I can even spot when it's not going to work. When that's the case, I have to remove myself from whatever/wherever I am so that I can give 100% focus and concentration to regaining "control"

Fantastic. brilliant. Boxes, suitcases, black bags, wardrobes. all marvellous storage solutions for aspects of ones' past/learning experiences. And, as you have rightly said, one can learn to recognise the "signs" prior to a "situation" being magnified.

Quote by dambuster
I think if you can control the mind, to varying degrees; you should be able to "lose yourself" and not think about anything else, or perhaps wander off to a better place in your mind.

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