What do you look for in a first message

I’ve been jumping between here and another site and been sending messages of varying lengths and content but being respectful and not trying to sound like a complete tool or a saddo at the same time and not giving the ‘wanna fuck’ shite that some do.

I struck up a conversation with a lass last night but I got the ‘not the type I’d normally go for but you seem like a nice guy’ , that line seems to be the story of my life at times.

Cmon I need tips lol

The only advice we could give is to show that you have read and understood a profile and that you do fit in with what we are looking for.  We try to respond to messages politely but sometimes end up ignoring them as the sender obviously hasn't looked at your profile or has looked but decided that they'll message anyway as the are 'special' so don't care that they are not what we are looking for.

Thanks any feedback is appreciated 

Great advice from the ChattyPair ..always fully read  a profile to check you are what they are looking for or in fact,  if they are looking at all..never do a copy and paste messages, the type you may send to everyone, as this could show you have not read a profile, because something in your copy and paste message does not match them or what they are looking for.. I would always say, keep your first massage simple not a war and peace type ..in a way, you were lucky you got a "not my type" back reply , has most tend to not reply back if they are not interested in you.. we always reply back  especially if we can see they have clearly read our profile..  

Personally I like to see a message from someone who doesn't meet our "looking for" criteria, who's obviously not read our profile text, and attaches 16 cock shot photos! 

Disclaimer:  the above is satire.

my main problem is I can’t sell myself on paper, was never that great at it without sounding like I have an ego my attitude is that people can make opinions about me in person it’s the way I’ve always been

Looks like the OP has left the site..we have put a note on our profile regarding pic galley invites..but we get sent one or two a week still..that also shows they have not read our profile

if he's left the site so soon after posting a question here, it looks like he was expecting immediate success - that could have been the problem. 

Yes the unsolicted pic invites are a pain - you wouldn't start any normal conversation with 'do you want to see my cock'!. Doubt it works on here, just like it didn't work for a lad I was at High School with years ago - Kenneth, you're not on here are you? Lol

Perhaps a short summary of how your personality, likes and dislikes relate to the single/couple you are contacting .