What do you think?

31 Aug 2006

We are a fairly new couple and would love to attend the London Erotica social. The problem is we are really nervous about it. You see when we look around the forum, mainly the socials and gatherings everyone seems to know each other already. We know we should post some more so that everyone gets to know us but with Erotica coming up soon we just wanted to get your views on how your first social nights went. We are a freindly outgoing couple and regularly chat in the chatroom. So we know we wont just sit in the corner looking like a pair of fruitcakes. smile

Would love to have your tips on getting over the nerves and how do people generally view new couples who come to the socials.

31 Aug 2006

hellooooo and welcome!!!!
We're still getting to know everyone, i'm sure you don't need to know everyone before you go - that's what its for, and I'm sure anyone who is going will make you feel right at home!
Enjoy!
M&D xx

31 Aug 2006

Quote by louise_and_joe
Would love to have your tips on getting over the nerves and how do people generally view new couples who come to the socials.

i suppose that i never really suffered with nerves before i went to my first social........ anticipation more like.
id get more nervous going and sitting in a pub somewhere rough.
as for how people view new couples... im not sure that im qualified to say as ive never attented a purely social event as a couple... but as ive been to a few myself now, i think theres a few general pointers that i can give. However, im basing my opinions on the Munches ive been to.
firstly, not everyone is gonna know eachother anyway so in a way youre all "NEWBIES" to eachother.....
to be honest you dont get the equivalent of "air miles " for Swinging.... but nervousness and inexperience do show by your demeanour and youre actions ( swingers are sticklers for ettiquette)..............
some people have an issue with in-experiecnce ( rightly or wrongly).... it seems that is the reason for your trepidation............but to be honest ....... providing they accept you ( and people only do that on what they see or here) you should have a great time... as everyone else generally has at these times... and thats generally gonna happen when drink and likeminded people get together.........
the thing is... you can please some people some of the time ...but not all of the people all of the time......... at the end of the day, what does it matter? aslong as you two have a good time thats all that counts....
finally, im not sure that you can expect a social ( as opposed to an official munch ) to be as good as an official munch. Im led to believe that there are differences... which i think is a whole different debate...I can only say that the official munches ive been to have been excellent.

31 Aug 2006

Thanks for your replys. I guess you are right im sure most people are in the same boat when they go to a social. Its just when i go somewhere new im like an army general i like to have it all planned, even down to how i might feel when i get there. It might sound a bit crazy but i do like to be prepared. Then theres no again.

31 Aug 2006

i sure theres gonna be a few more replies...............

31 Aug 2006

Well the first munch/social i fancied attending i felt i woulnt be allowed as i was too new here and have just managed to put my name in at the last minuite and be invited.
I'm not nervous about the munch/social its self more getting there and the hotel being booked correctly ect.
All i can say is keep posting and become known round here and invites will become easier to gain.
TBH i cant wait for the munch/social now i just want to meet evryone and actually have face to face chats ect' with some of the folks i see here every day.

31 Aug 2006

It may seem as though we all know each other, but I've only actually met a couple of the people from the forum. I'm planning on ging to the Erotica thingy too, frankly I'm terrified.
Thats probably not what you wanted to hear, but be reassured you're not alone in being nervous about these things.
Hopefully I'll see you there (I'll be the one in the corner, quaking.
H.x

31 Aug 2006

Quote by goose35
Well the first munch/social i fancied attending i felt i woulnt be allowed as i was too new here and have just managed to put my name in at the last minuite and be invited.
I'm not nervous about the munch/social its self more getting there and the hotel being booked correctly ect.
All i can say is keep posting and become known round here and invites will become easier to gain.
TBH i cant wait for the munch/social now i just want to meet evryone and actually have face to face chats ect' with some of the folks i see here every day.

face to face chats?
bollocks, you will be looking at the shoes.......

31 Aug 2006

Quote by essex34m
Well the first munch/social i fancied attending i felt i woulnt be allowed as i was too new here and have just managed to put my name in at the last minuite and be invited.
I'm not nervous about the munch/social its self more getting there and the hotel being booked correctly ect.
All i can say is keep posting and become known round here and invites will become easier to gain.
TBH i cant wait for the munch/social now i just want to meet evryone and actually have face to face chats ect' with some of the folks i see here every day.

face to face chats?
bollocks, you will be looking at the shoes.......
rotflmao

31 Aug 2006

I've decided on the thigh length boots.........
sorry goose.
H.x

31 Aug 2006

Quote by H-x
I've decided on the thigh length boots.........
sorry goose.
H.x

:happy:
:rose:
kiss

:smitten:

31 Aug 2006

Quote by H-x
I've decided on the thigh length boots.........
sorry goose.
H.x

:shock:
:cry:
cool

31 Aug 2006

Thanks H-x. I suppose eveyone does get a little nervous sometimes even the ones you would least expect. We will just have to meet up at Erotica and quake in the corner together. smile

We will start the quakers club. Im sure now that we might have a few members.

31 Aug 2006

Quote by louise_and_joe
Thanks H-x. I suppose eveyone does get a little nervous sometimes even the ones you would least expect. We will just have to meet up at Erotica and quake in the corner together. We will start the quakers club. Im sure now that we might have a few members.

And i'll bring the porridge!

31 Aug 2006

feeling the nerves now as My first social gets nearer to
Just have these thought going through my head
Will people talk to me?
I certanly dont want to look out of place but am a shy person naturally and find it hard to strike up a conversation with new people
Yes easier here as you arnt looking into peoples faces and seeing them start to move away from you
Any tips would be appreciated

31 Aug 2006

hi
we wouldn`t reckognise anyone if we went down and bumped into em..... biggrin

put a bit of a profile up ,,a couple of pics....n get in the chatrooms and chat to people......
at least then u`ll know a few people in spirit,if not in person.....
we`ve only ever been to social socials,never been to 1 of the proper munches,but there r always people to chat to so long as u dont get into a mindset of..."oh they`re not what we`re looking for".Chat to anyone and everyone and who knows what might happen.
have fun
2`s

31 Aug 2006

Thanks twos-company for the advice. I will take it all into account. I am quite suprised at the amount of people who dont actually know people personally. You all seem to get on really well within the forum.

31 Aug 2006

Quote by louise_and_joe
Thanks twos-company for the advice. I will take it all into account. I am quite suprised at the amount of people who dont actually know people personally. You all seem to get on really well within the forum.

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lol

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31 Aug 2006

Quote by louise_and_joe
Thanks twos-company for the advice. I will take it all into account. I am quite suprised at the amount of people who dont actually know people personally. You all seem to get on really well within the forum.

We are new to this and have been to a social and another meetup and are about to go to our first munch. I can honestly say that the folks we met at the social/meetup were all absolutely great, very friendly and talkative. From what we can gather from the forums you can guarantee that a percentage of the attendees at most of the events are newbies and even if you end up just talking to the other newbies then you'll have a great night anyway!
At the end of the day, as is suggested in a lot of threads and in a variety of circumstances, if you can string a sentence together and don't think that everyone there is after shagging you then everthing will be just fine biggrin

Just be yourself and remember, if you are really finding it too much then you can always make your excuses and leave!
Good luck,
Lava x x

31 Aug 2006

We are new to this and have been to a social and another meetup and are about to go to our first munch. I can honestly say that the folks we met at the social/meetup were all absolutely great, very friendly and talkative. From what we can gather from the forums you can guarantee that a percentage of the attendees at most of the events are newbies and even if you end up just talking to the other newbies then you'll have a great night anyway!
At the end of the day, as is suggested in a lot of threads and in a variety of circumstances, if you can string a sentence together and don't think that everyone there is after shagging you then everthing will be just fine biggrin

Just be yourself and remember, if you are really finding it too much then you can always make your excuses and leave!
Hi luvabubble, very wise words. I honestly dont know what i was worrying about now. Everybody seems to enjoy the socials and as you said dont have too many expectations. Not that i do anyway. It is just nice to talk to like minded people here on the forum and will be even better when we meet up with some at the social. Im feeling alot better about it now and am really looking forward to it. Thanks everyone for your advice and first time stories.