Inspired by the thread about swigning becoming the norm - what are your experiences with friends and family with swining.
When we first started we didn't tell anyone for obvious resons - problem is, I'm an open and honest guy and I seriously hate fibbing to good friends.
The first people we told were my best friend and his girlfriend. We'd done some wild stuff together. We used to go 'dogger hunting' as two couples, and what started off as a bit of a curious laugh suddenly found both couples (seperately, though) having sex on a carpark. I never had any intention of taking it further, but we did eventually let it slip. The experience was mostly neutral from them - with it rarely being discussed and I'm happy to say that the friendship hasnt' suffered at all.
The second person was my brother, another friend and that friends girlfriend. This one was pretty unplanned - I shocked myself and I can't even remember how the conversation got there but I do remember saying something like "Meh, I've watched with another man. Quite a good point of view from underneath another woman" to which the entire place went silent.
My bro: Neutral, rarely mentions it
My friend: I'm sad to say that he went for the total laddish attitude and is, I think, pretty jealous
My friends gf: Total state of shock, and I'm pretty certain she thought I was a monster for some time
The only other experience we've had was on a (EXTREMELY 5:00am style) drunken camping trip. We were with our VW club and the conversation just went in that direction. The guy (Who I barely knew at the time) mentioned something jokingly about me and sex and I simply retorted with "Yeah, but I've fucked a pornstar" (Did a couple/couple thing with a girl who'd done a few porn flicks. Tacky, I know, but a laugh!) to which he replied "Cool. Same here".
Turns out they were swingers - so as you can imagine, the outcome was positive. Alas, no - despite many attempts we've never swung together. We've now concluded, that his wife is very much not into other men (which is fine), but that doesn't stop him from dropping hints at my girlfriend quite often.
I still consider him a mate, and I trust my girlfriend plenty so I'm not jealous but I do believe that the attitude is a touch out of order, so despite the initial promising outlook of that conversation - nothing has ever come of it.
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So, tell me about your experiences with what your friends think of you. Currently, they are the only people who know about our lifestyle and I plan on keeping it that way. So many people just don't, and won't even try to understand it that I really don't think it's worth the hassle.
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What do your friends think?
Master of Sex
The kind of friends that I have are all pretty liberal and already know what I'm into.
To them it's not an issue.
I'm careful in making friends as I have met people who will quite happily stab you in the back, thus my friends are always pretty liberal types.
To them it's not an issue.
I'm careful in making friends as I have met people who will quite happily stab you in the back, thus my friends are always pretty liberal types.
The only people who know what Pete and I get up to are his Dad, and young Rich18uk who is a fellow member of our bike club 
No-one else has a clue, and to be honest, I don't think there is anyone else we could tell without it being a BIG issue! We'd love to have people we could chat to about it, and at the last place I worked I did have, but at the moment there isn't anyone we could trust to take it well.
No-one else has a clue, and to be honest, I don't think there is anyone else we could tell without it being a BIG issue! We'd love to have people we could chat to about it, and at the last place I worked I did have, but at the moment there isn't anyone we could trust to take it well.
