If anyone read the Orgasm thread posted by Bistokid you can see how much difference in opinion there is towards Orgasms and peoples experiences. I, like everyone else have my own view on the male/female orgasm which will not be the same as the next person. My own experience is that the rough and ready approach does very little for me, however I have done it in the right mood with the right person and enjoyed it. My preference is a more slow and easy chat, meal, bath, massage, plenty of talking and learning to be comfortable with that person then sex how ever it may be. That is just my personal view and experience. Maybe by sharing our experiences and preferences we can all learn from each other.