What does it take to find a good woman?

13 Apr 2008

I can't understand it. Maybe I'm just too different to be noticed. I put all the nice stuff on my profile (until I took it off) and wrote to a lot of ladies but got no replies. Don't people have the courtesy to reply, even if it's a "no"?
I am not a Brad Pitt lookalike, maybe that's the problem. Women these days can be so shallow, especially if they are only after looks or money. I have a good job, a house of my own (albeit rather empty) and a brain.
Oh well, maybe I'll try an introductions agency. lol.

13 Apr 2008

Hi sexy,
clarify what youre looking for- a good woman, or a good fuck?
W

13 Apr 2008

:welcome: to the forums....
Where to begin?! lol

Looking at your profile, it seems you have pretty much only just joined the site - so my first bit of advice would be to give it time! My second piece of advice is to put "all the nice stuff" that you said you had on your profile back on. Interesting profiles get responses.
Apart from that, who knows what makes people tick - persevere, there are some great people on this site.
Hope you find what you're looking for - either here or elsewhere.
Nola x

13 Apr 2008

Quote by Sexyguy1972
I can't understand it. Maybe I'm just too different to be noticed. I put all the nice stuff on my profile (until I took it off) and wrote to a lot of ladies but got no replies. Don't people have the courtesy to reply, even if it's a "no"?
I am not a Brad Pitt lookalike, maybe that's the problem. Women these days can be so shallow, especially if they are only after looks or money. I have a good job, a house of my own (albeit rather empty) and a brain.
Oh well, maybe I'll try an introductions agency. lol.

Maybe they didn't have the time to answer all their messages? Maybe you aren't what they are looking for? Not all women are shallow; not all are bothered whether you are brainy or have your own house. Try not to make sweeping statements, eh? confused

13 Apr 2008

Quote by Freckledbird
Try not to make sweeping statements, eh?

Do you know I typed and I deleted about five times... cos I wanted to say something like that but it always came out wrong!

13 Apr 2008

you have been here since the 24th of march... a whole 1,2 weeks and you come to this conclusion.....
a couple of things I will point out.....your ad is in single males for single females... no of ads in there 7832.... no of ads in single fems for single men.. 347
so what does that tell you... that single fems can be as choosy as they care to be..
for example.... your ad, a whole 1 line, 20 words ...honestly, contrary to belief sometimes Swinging Heaven doesn't actually charge by the word and I don't think writing just a little about yourself and the type of person you are after is going to give you writers cramp... so get out there and sell yourself!!!!
I know a single lady who had on an ad for 2 weeks... she got 700 replies....with the greatest of respect would you answer every single one????
so what makes you stand out for all the others replying to those ads???
what makes them think "wow, I have to meet this person"???
would you answer your ad??? seriously!!!!
If you ask the people who are successful as single guys on here, I am sure most will say that you get out what you put in...grumbling about it 2 weeks in is going to do you no favours, it makes you look rather impatient...
if you are expecting a "quick shag" site... then you may be in for some bitter disappointment...
what hand on heart have you put in so far?????

13 Apr 2008

To be honest sexyguy I think your profile sort of resembles a half arsed lonely hearts ad. You have only been here a couple of weeks so think about why your here a bit more. To Swing or to find true love?
How about reading up on some of the ideas given in the forum sticky threads. Then have a wander through the chatrooms to see how others go about flirting and chatting in there and see if any of it rings true to what you want? You could if you want try the dating site Heaven dating if your more into getting a girlfiend. Failing that happy shagging biggrin

Welcome to forum :wave

13 Apr 2008

Hhmmmm
You have a brain? Can I pet it, can I, can I?
H.x

13 Apr 2008

Trying to find all the good women... wave

we're in here that's where to find them! lol

13 Apr 2008

Good women??
I'd rather have the BAAAAADD women!!! :rascal:
Mal

13 Apr 2008

Quote by Mal
Good women??
I'd rather have the BAAAAADD women!!! :rascal:
Mal

:twisted:

13 Apr 2008

What do you mean by 'good woman'? Clarification needed please

14 Apr 2008

how to find a good woman.....vvvwe, 8 inch flexible tongue, being able to breathe through your ears, loves to cook, clean and iron, romantic, kind, sense of humour, considerate and rich, there may be a queue then.
Seriously tho, all the advice is good advice here, swinging is a waiting game, especially for single males, patience is a really good quality, as is a sense of humour and a damn good profile and ad.
good luck in your search and I hope it happens soon, when it does, I'm sure it will be worth it. xxx

14 Apr 2008

To the OP
Forget it mate.....
I'm keeping em all to myself :rascal:

14 Apr 2008

I'm a woman ... but not a good one lol

:idea: .. Maybe you should ask for a bad girl
M_N XxX

14 Apr 2008

For many people here, whining and whingeing posts and profile texts are one of the biggest turn-offs. Try to be positive and optimistic!
Many pushy people in here regard a "no thanks" response as an invitation to start a "why not" dialogue when it isn't, hence many people don't reply at all. It's just the way things are in this site, and there's no alternative but to accept this.
Going on about having a brain sounds as though you're implying that other people here DON'T have a brain - not very nice!

14 Apr 2008

As a single fem I wanted to write in support of things Fabio and MikeNOrth have written.
I dont have an add but i do go in the chatrooms and sometimes i cam in there. I'm not boasting, but i almost always have a number of emails to read when i logon to SH, and i logon most days. Its not cos i'm a stunner, it's just because i'm breathing and have a pussy which gives me a high "market value" on here. So, i dont reply to all emails because - quite frankly - i have better ways to spend my time; i dont want to waste that much of my life saying no thanks ! Also, entering into any dialogue can be taken as an invite to conversation - and not always a pleasant one. U think a scorned woman is bad, try upsetting a delicate would-be alpha male ego ;)
Keep going, get ur self noticed in a good way and the rest will take care of itself smile

Trix x

14 Apr 2008

Quote by winchwench
...clarify what youre looking for- a good woman, or a good fuck?

:shock: looks like you wont be getting a pm from him then! :giggle:
:welcome: to the forums Sexyguy1972 biggrin

take yer time mate & join in the fun
pretty soon you wont be looking for a 'good woman' :twisted:
...in fact you WILL be looking back on your post & having a giggle!

14 Apr 2008

Quote by Sexyguy1972
I can't understand it. Maybe I'm just too different to be noticed. I put all the nice stuff on my profile (until I took it off) and wrote to a lot of ladies but got no replies. Don't people have the courtesy to reply, even if it's a "no"?
I am not a Brad Pitt lookalike, maybe that's the problem. Women these days can be so shallow, especially if they are only after looks or money. I have a good job, a house of my own (albeit rather empty) and a brain.
Oh well, maybe I'll try an introductions agency. lol.

From your profile I'd think an introduction agency may be a better bet for what you seem to be looking for. This is a swingers site and most members aren't looking for a relationship, just fun and frolics:-)
You are very restrictive in what you are looking for, just listing straight single females. Single females are the least represented group on here and a high percentage are bi or bi-curious. I'd bet that at least some of the messages you've sent are to females who list themselves as bi and feel you didn't read their profiles properly so didn't reply for that reason.
Take a while to decide what it is you want, both in life and from this site, and if you feel SH is for you then accept that the single girls on here can afford to be very choosy and tailor your profile to make yourself interesting to give yourself the best chance. Join in the chatrooms, go to local socials and generally get yourself known as one of the good guys:-) Best of luck whatever it is you decide!

14 Apr 2008

Quote by Steve
To the OP
Forget it mate.....
I'm keeping em all to myself :rascal:

Greedy bugger!

14 Apr 2008

Quote by redpantherman
...clarify what youre looking for- a good woman, or a good fuck?

:shock: looks like you wont be getting a pm from him then! :giggle:
:welcome: to the forums Sexyguy1972 biggrin

take yer time mate & join in the fun
pretty soon you wont be looking for a 'good woman' :twisted:
...in fact you WILL be looking back on your post & having a giggle!
And why not? dunno

I'm both :smug:
TBH- Unc expressed my sentiments less bluntly than I did. Im a tad confused as to what the OP is looking for- it was a genuine question. wink

14 Apr 2008

Thanks for the tips.

14 Apr 2008

Quote by Sexyguy1972
Thanks for the tips.

Is that it?? rolleyes

14 Apr 2008

Quote by flower411
Thanks for the tips.

Is that it?? rolleyes

That`s exactly what I just said !!!! lol

Wonder if his bedroom technique is of the same ilk :lol:

16 Apr 2008

Quote by Sexyguy1972
I can't understand it. Maybe I'm just too different to be noticed. I put all the nice stuff on my profile (until I took it off) and wrote to a lot of ladies but got no replies. Don't people have the courtesy to reply, even if it's a "no"?
I am not a Brad Pitt lookalike, maybe that's the problem. Women these days can be so shallow, especially if they are only after looks or money. I have a good job, a house of my own (albeit rather empty) and a brain.
Oh well, maybe I'll try an introductions agency. lol.

I don't know what all the "nice stuff" on your profile was but it sounds like it was probably what you think women want to hear! Based on your current one, and even the title of this thread, you sound like you're looking for a companion/girlfriend rather than swinging fun.
If you think women here are shallow because they are only after looks or money, you've missed the point, what they're after is fun and sex i.e. swinging. The fact that you have a good job and your own home is irrelevant, neither make you a good or bad swinging prospect. An introductions agency or SH's dating site is a much better idea for you.
This will probably sound very harsh to you and I may be on my own here, but I find your comments about women being shallow and effectively labelling them "not a good woman" because they're NOT looking for a relationship on a swinging site incredible! It's all a bit Stepford Wives for my tastes!
Tip: next time you pull the trigger, remember to move your foot! wink

16 Apr 2008

Finding a good woman is a happy accident, not to say that a good woman is what you are after. Better to say the right woman for the now. So if you are looking for what you are not going to find here, go else where. If you have got the wrong idea about the site, think again. It is not as liberal as some think.
If you want chat, a bit of fun.... stick around the cafe. You never know what is going to happen.
Sort your own mind out and do not force yourself on others to much.
As for no replies, it has never happened to me. Even the first PM, no more said about that redface

.

16 Apr 2008

Well Well Well you sound like a very impatient man to me I have been on this site over 2 years and I have made some great friends, being on here is not a quick shag so if thats what you here for I would have say go and look at some other sites. My advice is get a profile that sells you ( bit like a interview )you wont get any replies if it looks like you have not took the time to think about what you are a lot of nice guys on this site and it is hard enough being a single man
especially with so many ladies you can approach. Good Luck and remember 'all good things come to those who wait' Life is for living. 'Be young be foolish but be happy smile

16 Apr 2008

Quote by Sexyguy1972
I can't understand it. Maybe I'm just too different to be noticed. I put all the nice stuff on my profile (until I took it off) and wrote to a lot of ladies but got no replies. Don't people have the courtesy to reply, even if it's a "no"?
I am not a Brad Pitt lookalike, maybe that's the problem. Women these days can be so shallow, especially if they are only after looks or money. I have a good job, a house of my own (albeit rather empty) and a brain.
Oh well, maybe I'll try an introductions agency. lol.

Pull yourself together ffs
Try being a woman on here and being told your to fat or to old time after time then you'll know what shallow is, we all get turned down, its a swingers site not rent a shag

18 Apr 2008

Quote by de_sade
I can't understand it. Maybe I'm just too different to be noticed. I put all the nice stuff on my profile (until I took it off) and wrote to a lot of ladies but got no replies. Don't people have the courtesy to reply, even if it's a "no"?
I am not a Brad Pitt lookalike, maybe that's the problem. Women these days can be so shallow, especially if they are only after looks or money. I have a good job, a house of my own (albeit rather empty) and a brain.
Oh well, maybe I'll try an introductions agency. lol.

Pull yourself together ffs
Try being a woman on here and being told your to fat or to old time after time then you'll know what shallow is, we all get turned down, its a swingers site not rent a shag
sad

Naughty you are NOT too old, or too fat. You are lovely and I think you will always be my Sicilian Princess...
And not all men on SH are shallow...
BTW are you available Sunday week at wink

No i'm washing my hair lol

and i was on about before i lost weight rolleyes

:roll: :roll:

18 Apr 2008

have you tried your local church...... rolleyes