what happened to common courtesy?

24 Apr 2011

what has happened?
dont people respond to mail here(or on other sites even)?how are you supposed to find out if others are interested,when they cant even respond to mails you have is hard enough asking people if they would like to meet,.
how do you know if you have worded your mail right,what you wrote might come over a different way.
so please,it cant be that hard to string a few sentences together,even if it is in the negative

24 Apr 2011

Quote by getiton03a
what has happened?
dont people respond to mail here(or on other sites even)?how are you supposed to find out if others are interested,when they cant even respond to mails you have is hard enough asking people if they would like to meet,.
how do you know if you have worded your mail right,what you wrote might come over a different way.
so please,it cant be that hard to string a few sentences together,even if it is in the negative

I'd guess you find out that people aren't interested by their lack of response. If they were interested then they probably would have responded.
There are a number of reasons for no response:
1. You aren't what they're looking for.
2. They're not interested.
3. If it's a couple then maybe only one half has read it and the other half is yet to read.
4. You didn't read their profile.
5. You sent a one liner fancy a shag message.
6. They haven't had time to respond.
7. They're not interested.
8. You are one of 15 messages and yours doesn't stand out.
That's just off the top of my head. I generally try and respond to everyone but if its fairly clear that the person hasn't bothered to read my profile then I wouldn't bother to respond to them either. I delete one line 'hi, how r u?' messages along with the 'fancy a shag' messages (yes, they do arrive!) and I also don't hold much interested in people who haven't bothered to complete their profile or add any photos. If someone doesn't put the effort into the 'selling themselves' part (in a non-monetary fashion) then what sort of effort are they going to put into a meet?
Whilst I understand the feeling that it's rude/bad mannered/ignorant not to reply, I've always felt a bit guilty about no responding but after being here for a while it becomes tedious responding to the same messages from different people.
You just have to delete, ignore and move on. :mrgreen:

24 Apr 2011

Quote by Dirtygirly
what has happened?
dont people respond to mail here(or on other sites even)?how are you supposed to find out if others are interested,when they cant even respond to mails you have is hard enough asking people if they would like to meet,.
how do you know if you have worded your mail right,what you wrote might come over a different way.
so please,it cant be that hard to string a few sentences together,even if it is in the negative

I'd guess you find out that people aren't interested by their lack of response. If they were interested then they probably would have responded.
There are a number of reasons for no response:
1. You aren't what they're looking for.
2. They're not interested.
3. If it's a couple then maybe only one half has read it and the other half is yet to read.
4. You didn't read their profile.
5. You sent a one liner fancy a shag message.
6. They haven't had time to respond.
7. They're not interested.
8. You are one of 15 messages and yours doesn't stand out.
That's just off the top of my head. I generally try and respond to everyone but if its fairly clear that the person hasn't bothered to read my profile then I wouldn't bother to respond to them either. I delete one line 'hi, how r u?' messages along with the 'fancy a shag' messages (yes, they do arrive!) and I also don't hold much interested in people who haven't bothered to complete their profile or add any photos. If someone doesn't put the effort into the 'selling themselves' part (in a non-monetary fashion) then what sort of effort are they going to put into a meet?
Whilst I understand the feeling that it's rude/bad mannered/ignorant not to reply, I've always felt a bit guilty about no responding but after being here for a while it becomes tedious responding to the same messages from different people.
You just have to delete, ignore and move on. :mrgreen:
:thumbup:

25 Apr 2011

Quote by Jewlnmart
what has happened?
dont people respond to mail here(or on other sites even)?how are you supposed to find out if others are interested,when they cant even respond to mails you have is hard enough asking people if they would like to meet,.
how do you know if you have worded your mail right,what you wrote might come over a different way.
so please,it cant be that hard to string a few sentences together,even if it is in the negative

I'd guess you find out that people aren't interested by their lack of response. If they were interested then they probably would have responded.
There are a number of reasons for no response:
1. You aren't what they're looking for.
2. They're not interested.
3. If it's a couple then maybe only one half has read it and the other half is yet to read.
4. You didn't read their profile.
5. You sent a one liner fancy a shag message.
6. They haven't had time to respond.
7. They're not interested.
8. You are one of 15 messages and yours doesn't stand out.
That's just off the top of my head. I generally try and respond to everyone but if its fairly clear that the person hasn't bothered to read my profile then I wouldn't bother to respond to them either. I delete one line 'hi, how r u?' messages along with the 'fancy a shag' messages (yes, they do arrive!) and I also don't hold much interested in people who haven't bothered to complete their profile or add any photos. If someone doesn't put the effort into the 'selling themselves' part (in a non-monetary fashion) then what sort of effort are they going to put into a meet?
Whilst I understand the feeling that it's rude/bad mannered/ignorant not to reply, I've always felt a bit guilty about no responding but after being here for a while it becomes tedious responding to the same messages from different people.
You just have to delete, ignore and move on. :mrgreen:
:thumbup:
Wish we had that problem nobody ever contacts us :sad: LOL
But u r right it doesn't cost much to send a wee message back and say ur not interested wink

25 Apr 2011

Quote by Jewlnmart
what has happened?
dont people respond to mail here(or on other sites even)?how are you supposed to find out if others are interested,when they cant even respond to mails you have is hard enough asking people if they would like to meet,.
how do you know if you have worded your mail right,what you wrote might come over a different way.
so please,it cant be that hard to string a few sentences together,even if it is in the negative

I'd guess you find out that people aren't interested by their lack of response. If they were interested then they probably would have responded.
There are a number of reasons for no response:
1. You aren't what they're looking for.
2. They're not interested.
3. If it's a couple then maybe only one half has read it and the other half is yet to read.
4. You didn't read their profile.
5. You sent a one liner fancy a shag message.
6. They haven't had time to respond.
7. They're not interested.
8. You are one of 15 messages and yours doesn't stand out.
That's just off the top of my head. I generally try and respond to everyone but if its fairly clear that the person hasn't bothered to read my profile then I wouldn't bother to respond to them either. I delete one line 'hi, how r u?' messages along with the 'fancy a shag' messages (yes, they do arrive!) and I also don't hold much interested in people who haven't bothered to complete their profile or add any photos. If someone doesn't put the effort into the 'selling themselves' part (in a non-monetary fashion) then what sort of effort are they going to put into a meet?
Whilst I understand the feeling that it's rude/bad mannered/ignorant not to reply, I've always felt a bit guilty about no responding but after being here for a while it becomes tedious responding to the same messages from different people.
You just have to delete, ignore and move on. :mrgreen:
:thumbup:
Wish we had that problem nobody ever contacts us :sad: LOL
But ur right it doesn't cost much to send a wee message back and say ur not interested wink

25 Apr 2011

You get email?
I must have a crap profile, any hints/tips.
Paddy

25 Apr 2011

Quote by amatuerman
You get email?
I must have a crap profile, any hints/tips.
Paddy

Paddy I did read you profile and I will make comments as you've asked.
Now its only my personal opinion, you come across as harsh and I can't read into your comments any personality which to me, is something I look for.
"If your a Bi/Gay male that's redheaded let's chat." Does this mean you are not looking for anyone brown blonde or grey?
"I'm very much into Mature - If your less than 35yrs of age don't bother."
Harsh confused

Maybe there are some people that are 33 that look or act older and ypou are limiting your chances dunno

"I've done a clear out of my Friends list, If you don't appear in my "Online Friends" well in essence that explains it."
So you delete friends easily, again in my book thats harsh
"Me:
Intelligent,professional Bi Bloke, financially sound."
Itelligent compaired to what? Financaially sound, so what?
"Looking for chat and cam possible meets when I am in the UK."
Surely most people on here are looking for meets when it suits them and don't always want to wait to meet when you are in the country?
Sorry but you did ask for comments :?

25 Apr 2011

Quote by Dawnie
Itelligent compaired to what? Financaially sound, so what?

Have you been on the wine gums again Dawnie? :P:P:P
Other than that I think 'up yourself' would be a better description than 'harsh':-)

28 Apr 2011

The site let's you keep track of all mail sent, and lets you see whether or not it's been read by the recipient. I presume that if anyone is interested in a mail they receive then they will respond in some way, otherwise it's not necessary. I know from experience that a even a polite rejection can cause an irrate response from some guys, and it's just not worth the effort when all you really want is for the communication to cease.