When we joined here, we were looking for people with like minds and wanted to invited a couple of men into our lives and explore some sexual fantasies together. Sex between us had somewhat waned and had become staid over 30 years of being together. So we both agreed on injecting new life into it by trying something different and exciting together.
We felt this had just happened to us, but after talking to loads of couples over the years it seems we were not alone after being together so many years. I guess a lot of the time it becomes inevitable with some couples. But not something you would talk to your friends in the vanilla world about over dinner. The love stays the same but I guess for a better world the sex becomes a bit predictable. Also what we have noticed together is we change our minds and bodies change and found we shared fantasies beyond just us two.
Being here has made us more open about our desires, fantasies and being open and honest about us as a couple together. Sadly since I decided to stop meeting sex between us hasn't improved although we have a different respect for each other and feel even closer that we have shared some very sexy experiences together. We haven't completely shut the door just our live has gone on a different journey together now.
People have said in the past about this site has become a networking site or just a sex site. I now use the site for both of those reasons to with hubbies consent. I like to come here sometimes during the day as I work from home and use it as a bit of company in the background either in the forums or chatrooms it feels like a bit of life around, someone to have a bit of banter with while working. I have spoken to others that use it for the same reasons. Some would say you sado's but we have lives. It can be pretty lonely working from home. Also I have used it on occasions to meet up with a few men I have got to know over the years to have a bit of private cam fun with, women have sexual urges and it is nice when you have someone to share those with.
I never thought when I first come here that 4 years on I would still be using this site.
But as I have evolved I have found the site has offered me what I have wanted.
I never expected SH to offer to cater for different needs and desires and long may it continue to do so, it is pretty unique, if you are honest with yourselves and others you can find what you want here.
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Sex God
To be honest, great friends.
I expected great sex and I've found it plenty of times over :rascal: but what I never expected was to make friends. I consider some of the people on here to be amongst my best pals now, so thank you SH!
I also never expected hilarious forays into the world of dogging, to be the only 'real' girl in the middle of a tranny bar on the Saturday night of Sparkle and loving it, to discover the delights of mmf threesomes, to find turn-ons I never thought I had and to totally broaden my definition of 'sexy'.
But the friends are still the bonus!
Great thread.
I expected great sex and I've found it plenty of times over :rascal: but what I never expected was to make friends. I consider some of the people on here to be amongst my best pals now, so thank you SH!
I also never expected hilarious forays into the world of dogging, to be the only 'real' girl in the middle of a tranny bar on the Saturday night of Sparkle and loving it, to discover the delights of mmf threesomes, to find turn-ons I never thought I had and to totally broaden my definition of 'sexy'.
But the friends are still the bonus!
Great thread.
Sex God
I've discovered that couples can be just like single guys... :sad: or even are just single (or cheating) guys.
Sex God
Quote by skinny
I've discovered that couples can be just like single guys... :sad: or even are just single (or cheating) guys.
:laughabove::laughabove::laughabove:
Sex God
Quote by anais
I discovered that they are some men who have better legs that I:?
Plus made some great friends:kiss:
we`d need proof of this of course :rascal::rascal:
Sex God
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I discovered myself
^^^^ This i agree with.
I also discovered a hell of a lot more people in this scene than i ever imagined!
And discovered great friends in the past 6 years.
Long may it continue :swingingchair:
Casanova
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I discovered myself
................and boy was that a shock
:thumbup: (though for me still work in progress).
What people have mentioned about friends - is something I also didn't expect to find here. From the outside it all looked like a meat market for amoralistic hedonists looking for a mindless fuck... so the wealth and depth of interraction and relationships formed within the swinging community still leaves me in awe. I can see now that the these things are not mutually exclusive! :-o
I have learnt not to judge people by what they appear to be doing - the most forward profiles may hide behind people that have had next to no experience, and vice versa. Keeping my assumptions in check, it is a hard thing to do and I see others are struggling with it too (from the comments strangers make about me).
But the most precious thing I have learnt here... is that sexuality is down to hormones, everybody has their own drive whether high or low, there is not much you can do to regulate it and concenquently it is rather pointless to beat yourself over having a big appetite. For anybody that hasn't dealt with sexual guilt this will make absolutely no sense - but being surrounded by people that schedule their days and nights around their next wank or fuck... has been comforting and liberating to me.
Quote by pebble
I discovered myself
................and boy was that a shock
:thumbup: (though for me still work in progress).
What people have mentioned about friends - is something I also didn't expect to find here. From the outside it all looked like a meat market for amoralistic hedonists looking for a mindless fuck... so the wealth and depth of interraction and relationships formed within the swinging community still leaves me in awe. I can see now that the these things are not mutually exclusive! :-o
I have learnt not to judge people by what they appear to be doing - the most forward profiles may hide behind people that have had next to no experience, and vice versa. Keeping my assumptions in check, it is a hard thing to do and I see others are struggling with it too (from the comments strangers make about me).
But the most precious thing I have learnt here... is that sexuality is down to hormones, everybody has their own drive whether high or low, there is not much you can do to regulate it and concenquently it is rather pointless to beat yourself over having a big appetite. For anybody that hasn't dealt with sexual guilt this will make absolutely no sense - but being surrounded by people that schedule their days and nights around their next wank or fuck... has been comforting and liberating to me.
It's good to chat with people and not hide our wild bit. Then discover we are not wild at all.
Sex God
I discovered that, when it comes to cock sizes, inches vary!
it's not fair, I want one of those rulers! not in the bossy sense; oh I don't know tho'.
it's not fair, I want one of those rulers! not in the bossy sense; oh I don't know tho'.
Sexpert
Nola has it for me there. Had to widen my definitions and met some good friends.
Here's to finding some more :cheers:
Here's to finding some more :cheers:
Sex God
Quote by motorcyclerob
Nola has it for me there. Had to widen my definitions and met some good friends.
Here's to finding some more :cheers:
:cheers: to you too Rob!
Sex God
A very large amount of men take photos of there willys!
Forum Virgin
I'm the bloke part of the couple ... what I've found is that having sex with new people can be exciting and erotic. But it's nothing like making love / having sex with Mrs which is on a completely different level emotionally and spiritually. Everything else is just, well, sex for the thrill of it. I never realised this until now.
Sex God
What have I discovered?
W.E. means "what do you think" ... VWE means "try this and give me your opinion" ...
and VVWE means "for fuck sake somebody try this and who cares about yer opinion!"
Oh and the rare VVVWE means "it's so big it's up my own arse, so I never need a second opinion"
W.E. means "what do you think" ... VWE means "try this and give me your opinion" ...
and VVWE means "for fuck sake somebody try this and who cares about yer opinion!"
Oh and the rare VVVWE means "it's so big it's up my own arse, so I never need a second opinion"
Casanova
Quote by S-mid-couple
I'm the bloke part of the couple ... what I've found is that having sex with new people can be exciting and erotic. But it's nothing like making love / having sex with Mrs which is on a completely different level emotionally and spiritually. Everything else is just, well, sex for the thrill of it. I never realised this until now.
The opposite for me - found out it is possible to have meaningful, soul-enhancing sex with near strangers.
skinny I'm the bloke part of the couple ... what I've found is that having sex with new people can be exciting and erotic. But it's nothing like making love / having sex with Mrs which is on a completely different level emotionally and spiritually. Everything else is just, well, sex for the thrill of it. I never realised this until now.
:thumbup::thumbup::thumbup:
could not have put it better!
:thumbup::thumbup::thumbup:
could not have put it better!
Quote by pebble
I'm the bloke part of the couple ... what I've found is that having sex with new people can be exciting and erotic. But it's nothing like making love / having sex with Mrs which is on a completely different level emotionally and spiritually. Everything else is just, well, sex for the thrill of it. I never realised this until now.
The opposite for me - found out it is possible to have meaningful, soul-enhancing sex with near strangers.
skinnyBefore I started on SH I would find a lady in a bar, sometimes we would get back to a room and have sex. When I started on SH I thought I would use it as a virtual bar. Chat on here to find a lady close to where I was going to be staying and thus increase the chances of finding someone I click with.
What I found was that all that chatting changes the sex. I continue chatting on SH with many I have met. Some have become more than a number in my phone. Yes, it is NSA sex, it’s not the same as making love to my wife. It can be the same as sex in a club, and that has it’s own value. True it is not the same as making love, but it is enhancing in it’s own way.
I have found SH one odd place. I have friends on here. Ladies I have met and played with and never met again. A few I have met at socials, been to their homes and never got around to playing with. Found a couple of long term fb.
What I am saying is that making love to my wife is not just sex, it is an interaction of sex and love. Having sex in a club can be animalistic intense and still rewarding. Meets from SH have been a full rainbow from making love to fucking. From less that a few hours to chatting and repeated meets.
All sex has value.
Travis
I met someone on here who turned out to be an amazing friend. She knows who she is. I think we both helped each other a lot - and not in a predictably swinging kind of way. Her friendship will be with me for the rest of my life - and mine with hers - never mind our respective domestic set-ups. I was able to open up with her in a way I find difficult with those in the vanilla mainstream. She understood my sexual desires, didn't necessarily satisfy them but listened and made me feel comfortable with myself. So for me I came here looking for sex, found it, but also found someone who loved me and put me in a good place. I didn't expect that and the whole SH experience was worth it as a result. Thanks xxx.
Sex God
We've discovered "The Blame Deancannock" thread
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/147031.html
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/147031.html
Sex God
Amongst all the positives, all the friends , the thing I was most surprised to find was narrow minded bigotry .... I must be very naive
Sex God
I never expected to find that I , the male half, am so ugly.
I haven't had a single whiff of a genuine meet since I joined n Oct 2004!
That's not likely to change in the future with me getting older, fatter and greyer.
I haven't had a single whiff of a genuine meet since I joined n Oct 2004!
That's not likely to change in the future with me getting older, fatter and greyer.
Casanova
Quote by bIoke
Lay-dee foofs :shock:
You have done a lot better than quite a few single-profile men I know
Quote by TrevaunanceIt toook me a long time. Now I the ladies are passing notes on me around.
I never expected to find that I , the male half, am so ugly.
I haven't had a single whiff of a genuine meet since I joined n Oct 2004!
That's not likely to change in the future with me getting older, fatter and greyer.
Quote by pebble
Lay-dee foofs :shock:
You have done a lot better than quite a few single-profile men I know
LMAO - I realised that about 2 years ago when Nola made me have sex with her and a straight bloke... seriously Pebble - she forced me onto him. I felt used and cheap.... it was wonderful.
I do have to laugh at some of the inane comments you see from some single blokes in the chat room though - e.g. "You are the best looking woman on here" which makes me want to yawn and vomit at the insincerity of it all at the same time.
I was thinking of starting 'single male to biokey' lessons at one point (think ladette to lay-dee') ;) where I tooka group of single straight guys to some old house for 6 weeks and showed them how to treat women. That's all I'd do, honest!
On a more serious note though, the whole bioke-ladystuff-curious guy threesome (foursome?) thing came as a big surprise to me. 1:1 sex with most blokes just doesn't have the same buzz to it now and I rarely shag other gay blokes. Does that make me a traitor/lesbian?
