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what hinders your peformance?

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Quote by berksbex
My lack of self confidence hinders my performance.....
to be honest i don't look at my best naked :lol2: and because i am so self concious about what i look like it really does stop be from letting go and enjoying myself, i just spend the whole time thinking about how bad i must look to the other person confused

I sometimes feel like that too....but after a few minutes of play all that goes out of the window and I forget (until i see the photos the next day!) That person has chosen to be with you, so you can't look that bad to them smile
i do understand where you are coming from in a way but i think a lot of guys see women (more so in clubs) as any holes a goal and i do sometimes wonder if they are with me cause they do like me or if its cause i'm a woman whos 'up for it' if that makes any sence at all :?
Quote by naughtynymphos1
My lack of self confidence hinders my performance.....
to be honest i don't look at my best naked :lol2: and because i am so self concious about what i look like it really does stop be from letting go and enjoying myself, i just spend the whole time thinking about how bad i must look to the other person confused

I have that problem too NN.
It got to the stage once where I wouldn't even let my boyfriend see me naked - ever!
Nowadays I'm still pretty much the same but I'm coming to terms with things and I'm slowly getting a little better but still wish I could just let the issue go and enjoy myself properly. Easier said than done though!
smile
Quote by onlyme1981
My lack of self confidence hinders my performance.....
to be honest i don't look at my best naked :lol2: and because i am so self concious about what i look like it really does stop be from letting go and enjoying myself, i just spend the whole time thinking about how bad i must look to the other person confused

I have that problem too NN.
It got to the stage once where I wouldn't even let my boyfriend see me naked - ever!
Nowadays I'm still pretty much the same but I'm coming to terms with things and I'm slowly getting a little better but still wish I could just let the issue go and enjoy myself properly. Easier said than done though!
smile
yes it is
theres a lot to be said for dark rooms ion clubs :lol2:
i still am quite shy and insecure about my body, but it is only a problem in the very short term, as most people i have met up with have been fantastic.
they have always made me feel at ease, so then i can relax.
i also have a common as muck accent, which i think also puts people off, although nobody has ever mentioned it, but then again, i thinks it's just me with the problem.
apart from that, nothing else really effects my performance.