what hinders your peformance?

22 Oct 2005

Quote by naughtynymphos1
My lack of self confidence hinders my performance.....
to be honest i don't look at my best naked :lol2: and because i am so self concious about what i look like it really does stop be from letting go and enjoying myself, i just spend the whole time thinking about how bad i must look to the other person

Least you dont have to worry about loosing an erection redface

and iam sure you look stunning naked, beauty is in the eye of the beholder wink

no i have to worry about them not loosing an erection :lol2:
rotflmao

i never thought of it that way.

22 Oct 2005

Quote by lancyuk
My lack of self confidence hinders my performance.....
to be honest i don't look at my best naked :lol2: and because i am so self concious about what i look like it really does stop be from letting go and enjoying myself, i just spend the whole time thinking about how bad i must look to the other person

Least you dont have to worry about loosing an erection redface

and iam sure you look stunning naked, beauty is in the eye of the beholder wink

no i have to worry about them not loosing an erection :lol2:
good come back! smile

why are women shocked when they find out blokes worry about stuff like that too? lol
well i have my views on why but i'm saying nowt b4 i cause a uproar lol

22 Oct 2005

oooo blue ocean has got all jittery on the keyboard
lol

22 Oct 2005

Oh I'm no good if I get the giggles
:lol2: :lol2: :lol2:

22 Oct 2005

Quote by EagerSlut
Definitely too much alcohol

Funny but I've found that I drink less when I'm..err...actively swinging redface

(Maybe for that very reason Eager :shock: )

Quote by Sexysteph
Look at it more positively Lancy - I would see it more as a chance to prolong the anticipation and with a little help with tongue/fingers/whole mouth it can stimulate more and for longer.
Try total sensory deprivation with someone you trust and then come tell me you have a problem.
For those not knowing - Total sensory Deprivation is just that
Lay partner on bed tie hands and feet into position - Blindfold and Place earphones on ears - choice of music to be something reasonably loud so it blocks out all room noise.
Start with Gag in place as well so the partner is completely helpless.
Just imagine your partner using a feather light touch skimming over your body. No indication where he/she may touch next. All you can do is feel the pleasure and anticipation. The touch of tongue caressing different parts of your body. The smoothing in of massage oils/creams. You don't know which part of the body is going to be caressed at any time. Ultimately, you just feel nothing but pure incandescent pleasure and you are only just beginning as they then remove the gag - tease and torment your senses. Letting you taste but not touch without them offering....
Just put yourself there and then maybe then the partner pleasuring may decide the time is right for full sex only removing the blindfold and shackles (ties) as you shag.
You reckon you would have a problem with that scenario hun :wink:
Steph
/Off for a quick drink - before a cold shower

GULP!! :shock:
Are you ever in Scotland SexySteph? :twisted:

22 Oct 2005

I know this is a bit strange for a dogging site, but being watched by another man is very off putting to me.
I keep wondering if he thinks he could do it better - and he probably could.

22 Oct 2005

erm.... this kind of put me off my stride many years ago before i was on SH.
Being the single fella in a MMF, where the other 2 were a married couple, they didn't use a condom between them selves, fair enough... and after he came, i felt his come dripping onto my leg after it dripped out of her.
didn't float my boat , for sure...

22 Oct 2005

Quote by postie

erm.... this kind of put me off my stride many years ago before i was on SH.
Being the single fella in a MMF, where the other 2 were a married couple, they didn't use a condom between them selves, fair enough... and after he came, i felt his come dripping onto my leg after it dripped out of her.
didn't float my boat , for sure...

What is it about SH that has changed your outlook.

22 Oct 2005

Quote by Baggy Boy

erm.... this kind of put me off my stride many years ago before i was on SH.
Being the single fella in a MMF, where the other 2 were a married couple, they didn't use a condom between them selves, fair enough... and after he came, i felt his come dripping onto my leg after it dripped out of her.
didn't float my boat , for sure...

What is it about SH that has changed your outlook.
Erm... nothing... still wouldn't float my boat....
If you mean the bit where i said " before I was on SH". That's just to say it hasn't been anyone i have met here... rolleyes

22 Oct 2005

If that happened to me I think i would be sick !!!!
I hope you went home and showered in Dettol soap lol

:lol: :lol: :lol:

22 Oct 2005

Quote by postie

erm.... this kind of put me off my stride many years ago before i was on SH.
Being the single fella in a MMF, where the other 2 were a married couple, they didn't use a condom between them selves, fair enough... and after he came, i felt his come dripping onto my leg after it dripped out of her.
didn't float my boat , for sure...

I gather you didn't go down on her then?

22 Oct 2005

Quote by da69ve

erm.... this kind of put me off my stride many years ago before i was on SH.
Being the single fella in a MMF, where the other 2 were a married couple, they didn't use a condom between them selves, fair enough... and after he came, i felt his come dripping onto my leg after it dripped out of her.
didn't float my boat , for sure...

I gather you didn't go down on her then?
.... you can safely assume ... i didn't ! lol

( don't think i would even if it was my own....)

22 Oct 2005

Quote by postie

erm.... this kind of put me off my stride many years ago before i was on SH.
Being the single fella in a MMF, where the other 2 were a married couple, they didn't use a condom between them selves, fair enough... and after he came, i felt his come dripping onto my leg after it dripped out of her.
didn't float my boat , for sure...

Lucky you weren't facing the other way.....could have dripped on your face :P though some love all that of course wink

22 Oct 2005

Quote by goodtimez
A gallon or more of John Smith's usually hinders me :lol:
Funny really cos I've still "got the urge but dont have the splurge" :P lol
Like whats been said before, using condoms whilst not using them in our relationship that can be a bit of a passion killer
Mr goodtimez

I can vouch for the "got the urge but not the splurge" LOL xx
Mine is sleep!! If I have sleep then fit for anything!!
Sxyblonde
Other half to my Mr Goodtimez xx

22 Oct 2005

Quote by naughtynymphos1
My lack of self confidence hinders my performance.....
to be honest i don't look at my best naked :lol2: and because i am so self concious about what i look like it really does stop be from letting go and enjoying myself, i just spend the whole time thinking about how bad i must look to the other person

I sometimes feel like that too....but after a few minutes of play all that goes out of the window and I forget (until i see the photos the next day!) That person has chosen to be with you, so you can't look that bad to them smile

I was put off my stride once when having a wonderful time with a guy who did great things with his tongue and fingers.....all of a sudden I could hear loud cheers and remarks such as 'whatever you are doing to her mate, I give you 8 out of 10!' and I remembered that it was august all the windows were wide open and my house backed onto a main road redface

The moment sort of died....but that was before I discovered the delights of having sex with more than one.....if it happened now I would invite them in :twisted:

22 Oct 2005

your showing your true colours ! and good for you 2.

22 Oct 2005

the worst thing is, having sex with a pissed up bloke who cant qite manage it,,its like trying to play snooker with a peice of rope,,y dont they just give up & go to sleep ??, we wont be offended ya kno,wer probably in the same state,lol

23 Oct 2005

What hinders my performance??
Usually it's the fact that the neighbours bang on the wall whe the headboard gets a bit too loud...
Socks... big turn off...
fanny farts... just crease us up and can't carry on... in that position at least,, not too much of a hinderance just a bloody funny....

23 Oct 2005

Without a shadow it's condoms. I'm not against their use but as soon as little nails see's one he just can't hack the pace. what a loser!
redface

23 Oct 2005

Im the opposite, if someone doesnt wear a condom then everything shuts for business!

23 Oct 2005

Kids running up the stairs (I used to shout at them for being noisy but now it works in our favour), garlic or bad breath kills the passion instantly for me.
Think my biggest problem is nerves ... I'm not generally a nervous person but with new partners I suffer (as mentioned above) from a confidence problem and start over thinking things by which time the mood has passed evil

Cx

23 Oct 2005

...and another thing.... dogs wandering around with a prolapsed womb! That'd put anyone off their stride.... especially when the hound was allowed up on the sofa dragging this pink balloon thing hanging under its tail ... :scared:
It was actually far worse than this... but it is far too 'orrible to even recall.... suffice to say I didn't finish my coffee and made an excuse to leave.

23 Oct 2005

you know how to put me off my haggis !!

24 Oct 2005

it's a deffo no go nowadays.
you can be as safe as hell, but you do not know what the person you'll be sharing fluids with has been up to over the past ten years..
i want to see my 50's with all my bits still working.

24 Oct 2005

Quote by postie
...and another thing.... dogs wandering around with a prolapsed womb! That'd put anyone off their stride.....

I once had a dog sneak into the bedroom (her dog and bedroom) and lick me on the arse as I was going hell for leather in doggy style. You the type. The fast, deep, squelchy a-whooping and a-hollerring sort of thing Yeeehhaaa one, trying to encourage a fanny fart.
I thought the feckin thing was going to try to daisy chain me :shock:

24 Oct 2005

ha ha - go on tell us you didn't enjoy it !!!

24 Oct 2005

Quote by lancyuk
just a general question really, and i dont mean turn ons and turn offs specifically.
recently i have noticed that after leaving a 2 year relationship where we didnt use condoms, to now using them regularly i find it slightly off putting and a little odd.....sometimes with the associated loss of performance.
also although i am not normally a nervous person, new scenarios tend to give me butterflies which also has a similar side effect.
at the moment im under the impression that drinking coffee also knocks my sex drive in half.....but this may just be in my head.
ok, that was a little more honest than i wanted it to be, but there ya go.......anyone else have similar things....or others?

not enough women who want to have sex with me

24 Oct 2005

Fanny farts!.............just cracks me up ........and i am no good for anything then

24 Oct 2005

booze and the playing more than twice in 2 hrs redface

:twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
MikeC

24 Oct 2005

One thing that stops me is when I get the impression she just isn't enjoying it. Usually the second time and because thereâ€™s too much lubrication. Before I had the snip it was putting on condoms and the thought of if it had leaked, Arrr its that time of the month again lol.
Dave