Is there any 'luck' involved in attaining an orgasm?
its a very good question
i think most people get a sexier experiance whilst doing something new /differant , so therefore you would expect to have a bigger/ better orgasm
your partner should be happy for you if not your probs in the wrong swinging at all
Oh and we are new to this , and yes i have found that the above to be true.
Reactions to the pleasure of one's partner with others can be various. I have seen some couples go so far as restrict each others involvement in very specific ways. This means that your partner may be happy to see you get pleasure from someone, but may not wish you to acheive the same or more pleasure from another person.
I think this is brought on by the envy and fear of someone being able to exert more dominance and control on your partners abilities and experience. You may not wish to have to compete with an influence way beyond your own relationship.
So be warned, jealousy and envy are powerful and can surface at any time.
your words its so exciting
thats what its supposed to be thats why we do it,and yes that excitement can does lead to hightened pleasures for one or both You wouldn't be human if you dont talk about it afterwards but dont analise it just ENJOY IT
As the male speaking here.
I love pleasing my partner, and quite frankly if someone gets her off by squirting and I couldn't do it I would want the guy to show me.
I am not going to get all fucking macho and try to better somone.
It gives me more pleasure to please her better, than it would to say I am better than him.
A couple we have played with on here have had the unfortunate event of meeting a cpl where the girl didn't do a damn thing, speak, interact etc. The ad is for a BI girl specifically,
I am guessing there are a few guys dragging their girls along and trying to reap the benefits.
That is NOT FUCKING SWINGING
Those sorts of guys would be all fucking jealous and probably do something stupid too. I have no respect for them and wouldn't consider playing with anyone so uncompassionate.
We are far from hardened swingers, but theres my two cents.
I am guessing there are a few guys dragging their girls along and trying to reap the benefits.
Just aswell we are not in that category then 8thsinner!! :shock:
Mrs Lizard xx
It's an interesting question, but an issue that we had never even thought about or contemplated as we just enjoy each other getting pleasure whatever the scenario.
When you get into things like this if you even question things like that then maybe it's not being entered with the right or a healthy frame of mind..... it's not a competition after all, it's just all about enjoyment and fun!
Layla xx
When you get into things like this if you even question things like that then maybe it's not being entered with the right or a healthy frame of mind..... it's not a competition after all, it's just all about enjoyment and fun!
Layla xx
I must just say at this stage that neither myself or Mr Lizard are EXPECTING any adverse reactions to our partners enjoyment, but we are human and have not had an experience yet which is why I am interested in these posts from others that have had experience.
Love and light
Mrs Lizardxx
I am not so sure it is entering with the wrong frame of mind to ask such a question.
I, by my very nature am a thinker, and a philosopher.....kinda
I think it is healthy to ask questions no matter how silly they are or seem to the person asking.
I agree that sex is not a competition, but it also just gets better and better,theres always something to learn.
Firelizard hun,
you are so right to ask! We had a few full swaps- but I was at the time only doing it to please him (young & naive)
However I was never really happy about seeing him with another girl. We ended up evolving- Im jealous, hes not (kinda). I now play with guys, which turns him on immensely. He does feel jealous "pangs" occasionaly, but the whole "pleasure pain thing " is a real turn on for him.
He knows I am always coming home to/with him.
And he reckons seeing me enjoying myself with someone else- the look on my face etc is horny as hell.
Any hint of me having feelings for a guy (or girl I suppose!) is where the boundary is.
P.S. once had a guy using a huge vibe on me, and giving me oral. I came so hard the room went black & I almost passed out! Mr W found it hysterical- you're getting past it etc!
As u saw last night 16 years after we met- I am no longer so naive- that was me doing the leading!
I would be lying if I said that we truly don't have 'what if' thoughts. I can't call them doubts because they are not. We can't wait to get started! We just feel like we are teetering on the edge of something and I think that if you teeter on the edge of anything you always wonder what the fall will be like 
