I know this has been done before but I thought I would try and ask again.
To me when entering into this lifestyle I believe it to be a kind of free open mindedness about enjoying sex, with a free spirit to do so.
It meant to me to enjoy and see sex as something as pleasurable for all parties, it was having the abilities to open the mind.
It was to meet people with the same free outlook on life, but to understand it was about the enjoyment of sex between people.
I sometimes wonder if what I saw in the beginning is really what it is all about.
Is it really just an excuse to be able to have sex with anyone?
So what is a swinger?
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Quote by Theladyisaminx
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Is it really just an excuse to be able to have sex with anyone?
So what is a swinger?
No, that is witches meeting on the common the worship the devil.
What is swinging?
It is the confidence in a relationship to share. To allow your partner tohave fun with someone and not take it as a comment on oneself.
How swinging manifests it's self is fully dependent on those involved.
As for sex with anyone, no thank you. Would I have concerns about W choice of men? No, but there are those I would not like to see/know about. That is OK, because she ... now I wonder off track. What I am saying is I would not have sex with anyone I do not like. If I did not like them, then I pass, and I am confident that W does as well.
Travis
ps No offence to real witches meant
Sex God
:swingingchair: :swingingchair: :swingingchair:
These little friends look like swingers :giggle:
These little friends look like swingers :giggle:
broad spectrum/scatter-bomb answer:
Those whom enjoy recreational sex.
that should just about cover it.
As we may have seen, there are many denates over time discussing what it may be to a couple... how/why do singles fit in... gender/sexuality issues. et al.
but hey... if you enjoy it, do it.
lp
Those whom enjoy recreational sex.
that should just about cover it.
As we may have seen, there are many denates over time discussing what it may be to a couple... how/why do singles fit in... gender/sexuality issues. et al.
but hey... if you enjoy it, do it.
lp
Orgasminator
Simply? Couples that swap partners based on the original and pure "Strangers car keys in fruit bowl" days.
Everyone else is just a fecking pervert - myself top of that list!
Everyone else is just a fecking pervert - myself top of that list!
Orgasminator
Quote by fem_4_taboo
lol
noo thats wife swapping.
i do think single people can be swingers, im one,
in my mind i am a swinger,its something i am not something i do, well i do do it but oh fook it you know what i mean
xxx fem xx
I do know what you mean, I feel I "carry and live by the code" as far as swinging is concerned. I don't agree though its determined by being a couple (though it helps), going to clubs (though its opportunity) or attending socials (though its an ice-breaker and helps networking).
I could argue am more of a swinger than couples who go to clubs (to watch), or go to clubs to play in public (only with each other) or entertain at home but soft swap only...meaning they never actually shagged anyone else. But that's their choice.
Quote by Theladyisaminx
Wife swapping make me laugh. I don't see myself as such and hubby said he wouldnt swap me for the world
Not that I believe that for a second :lol:
I offered a second hand fridge for you.
He told me to give him a week so he can organise a trailer. Didn't he tell you that?
Dave_Notts
Quote by Dave__Notts
Wife swapping make me laugh. I don't see myself as such and hubby said he wouldnt swap me for the world
Not that I believe that for a second :lol:
I offered a second hand fridge for you.
He told me to give him a week so he can organise a trailer. Didn't he tell you that?
Dave_Notts
So he delivers as well? Fantastic!
I'm so dead now, aren't I?
Quote by Dave__Notts
Wife swapping make me laugh. I don't see myself as such and hubby said he wouldnt swap me for the world
Not that I believe that for a second :lol:
I offered a second hand fridge for you.
He told me to give him a week so he can organise a trailer. Didn't he tell you that?
Dave_Notts
Errrm Dave that was Mrs minx you spoke to.
Hubby is on his way to you in swap for the fridge.
Please have it ready!
Thanks
Mrs Minx
xxx
Quote by Dave__Notts
Wife swapping make me laugh. I don't see myself as such and hubby said he wouldnt swap me for the world
Not that I believe that for a second :lol:
I offered a second hand fridge for you.
He told me to give him a week so he can organise a trailer. Didn't he tell you that?
Dave_Notts
does Minxie need a trailer?
lp
Sex God
Quote by R6_biker
I'm about 90% gay and have a male partner - we do 3 somes with other guys and also play seperately, with one another's knowledge and consent - do we fit into the swinging category or are we just over-sexed freaks?
x
Can you please let me see the 10% and then I can decide for sure?!
:rascal:
Quote by Dirtygirly
I'm about 90% gay and have a male partner - we do 3 somes with other guys and also play seperately, with one another's knowledge and consent - do we fit into the swinging category or are we just over-sexed freaks?
x
Can you please let me see the 10% and then I can decide for sure?!
:rascal:I thought we'd already scheduled that when the weather got warmer?
x
Quote by Theladyisaminx
Wife swapping make me laugh. I don't see myself as such and hubby said he wouldnt swap me for the world
Not that I believe that for a second :lol:
I offered a second hand fridge for you.
He told me to give him a week so he can organise a trailer. Didn't he tell you that?
Dave_Notts
Errrm Dave that was Mrs minx you spoke to.
Hubby is on his way to you in swap for the fridge.
Please have it ready!
Thanks
Mrs Minx
xxx
:shock:
(In pantomime voice) And what a deep voice you have Mrs Minx
Dave_Notts
Sex God
Quote by R6_biker
I'm about 90% gay and have a male partner - we do 3 somes with other guys and also play seperately, with one another's knowledge and consent - do we fit into the swinging category or are we just over-sexed freaks?
x
Can you please let me see the 10% and then I can decide for sure?!
:rascal:I thought we'd already scheduled that when the weather got warmer?
x
Pah... I'll be here forever waiting for the weather to get warmer in this country!
Sex God
Quote by Ahabs
I could argue am more of a swinger than couples who go to clubs (to watch), or go to clubs to play in public (only with each other) or entertain at home but soft swap only...meaning they never actually shagged anyone else.
Well you could argue that I suppose, but I wouldn't think it wise! I can hear the hackles of indignation rising as we speak.
;)Swinging is not defined by a sexual act, IMO. It's not defined by the people we play with, or the things we do with them. It's an attitude of mind, that we define all for ourselves, according to our own preferences ((( and yes, prejudices too. ;) ))) and that attitude involves, among other things, an openness to sexuality and sexual expression in whatever form, and a willingness to explore it with others in a way that is mutually rewarding for all concerned. That's it.
Some experiences I've had have been me exploring my own sexuality and preferences, some have been me exploring my relationship with Gem, some of been me / us being priveleged enough to be involved in others exploration of their own sexuality and relationships. Ultimately, what form that exploration takes is neither here nor there.
Neil x x x ;)
Orgasminator
Quote by neilinleeds
I could argue am more of a swinger than couples who go to clubs (to watch), or go to clubs to play in public (only with each other) or entertain at home but soft swap only...meaning they never actually shagged anyone else.
Well you could argue that I suppose, but I wouldn't think it wise! I can hear the hackles of indignation rising as we speak.
;)Swinging is not defined by a sexual act, IMO. It's not defined by the people we play with, or the things we do with them. It's an attitude of mind, that we define all for ourselves, according to our own preferences ((( and yes, prejudices too. ;) ))) and that attitude involves, among other things, an openness to sexuality and sexual expression in whatever form, and a willingness to explore it with others in a way that is mutually rewarding for all concerned. That's it.
Some experiences I've had have been me exploring my own sexuality and preferences, some have been me exploring my relationship with Gem, some of been me / us being priveleged enough to be involved in others exploration of their own sexuality and relationships. Ultimately, what form that exploration takes is neither here nor there.
Neil x x x ;)
EXACTLY! Leading up to my definition of swingers as people of above average sexual awareness looking to explore with others of like.
... only to then have some arrogant male half of a couple tell me "We don't play with single guys - that's not swinging! He brings nothing to the table!" (However a quick look at their profile checks that they only meet single females, lucky for him then eh? All those women...)
He forgets, for argument sake, I still come bearing gifts of a sausage - unless he starts getting the girls to bring sausages!)
Sex God
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Sex God
Quote by neilinleeds
I could argue am more of a swinger than couples who go to clubs (to watch), or go to clubs to play in public (only with each other) or entertain at home but soft swap only...meaning they never actually shagged anyone else.
Well you could argue that I suppose, but I wouldn't think it wise! I can hear the hackles of indignation rising as we speak.
;)Swinging is not defined by a sexual act, IMO. It's not defined by the people we play with, or the things we do with them. It's an attitude of mind, that we define all for ourselves, according to our own preferences ((( and yes, prejudices too. ;) ))) and that attitude involves, among other things, an openness to sexuality and sexual expression in whatever form, and a willingness to explore it with others in a way that is mutually rewarding for all concerned. That's it.
Some experiences I've had have been me exploring my own sexuality and preferences, some have been me exploring my relationship with Gem, some of been me / us being priveleged enough to be involved in others exploration of their own sexuality and relationships. Ultimately, what form that exploration takes is neither here nor there.
Neil x x x ;)
:thumbup: Very well put Neil.
Sex God
I agree with Neil. I've seen single swinger told that they aren't swingers and they are the same as anyone who goes out to get shagged on a saturday night. I disagree with that definition. The difference between a swinger and someone who goes out and ends up in bed/park/car with a stranger is totally an attitude of mind.
Swingers have the luxury of being honest about why they are meeting someone. They also (generally) plan it in advance with the person concerned. And even though drink may be involved they are less likely to wake up with God-knows-who and a hangover.
I've seen that - although swingers have a huge population to select from - the vast majority are incredibly selective, even fussy about who they meet. And rightly so.
For me THAT is the difference, not the having sex, not having it with relative strangers, but how we approach the meet and the person.
Oh, and the fact that half the people on our phones are listed under their web-names and most of them cannot be shown to our Mums. :giggle:
Swingers have the luxury of being honest about why they are meeting someone. They also (generally) plan it in advance with the person concerned. And even though drink may be involved they are less likely to wake up with God-knows-who and a hangover.
I've seen that - although swingers have a huge population to select from - the vast majority are incredibly selective, even fussy about who they meet. And rightly so.
For me THAT is the difference, not the having sex, not having it with relative strangers, but how we approach the meet and the person.
Oh, and the fact that half the people on our phones are listed under their web-names and most of them cannot be shown to our Mums. :giggle:
