What is it with only pics of the woman in a profile?

7 Jun 2008

Why is it when you look at a cpls profile they have a great write up but when you go to cheak out the pics all you see are either:-
Cocks,
Just the woman,
Boobs,
I know there are lots out there with pic of both the man and woman, but dont no about any others out there but we get put off when only seeing pics of the one person. We dont look for face pics just pics that show that its defo a cpl.
Are we on our own with this?

7 Jun 2008

Last time this was discussed it was down to a lot of the guys being camera shy I believe. Thats why theres no pics of my other half- but then as we are not actively looking it's not something I'm worried about.

7 Jun 2008

I find it more annoying when you see single guys profiles with pics of women on them!!
:shock:

7 Jun 2008

Not many have couples pics.. its actually nice to see them other than "bit" pics!!!
I have only me on mine.. obviously... but its sometimes confusing like yesterday when I was chatting to someone in one of the chatrooms and when I checked their profile out it was only womens pics on their and I was chatting to the man... and it was a couple profile...
:confused2:
I can understand why some don't want their faces on profiles... specially if they have kids, but I don't just want to see bits!!!!
Sorry... rant over! :grin:

7 Jun 2008

Dearest Members,
If the Lady of a Couple can show her 'items' within a Photo Advert then why can't the Gentlemen...?
It seems that this is the case within this Website.
Yet if people are advertising themselves as a Couple then it should be done equally:
50 / 50, all the way.
Should Swinging Heaven create a rule, perhaps that all couples using the Photo Advert section MUST have the same amount of photos.
If the Female is naked in say two photos within an Advert then the Male MUST be naked for the same amount confused

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If the Ladies can do this then so should the Gentlemen.
I've always found this very strange.
Also why are more Females Bi in Couples than Males.. :?:
Is this Nature or Nurture, happeing?
Just within our society currently we are shown that it is alright for a Female to show or be Bi Sexual; yet this is NOT the 'done thing' for a Man.
Me & thought provoking Posts... wink

From,
Wunderhorse.

7 Jun 2008

Quote by Lilmiss
I find it more annoying when you see single guys profiles with pics of women on them!!
:shock:

Report them!

7 Jun 2008

Quote by Freckledbird
I find it more annoying when you see single guys profiles with pics of women on them!!
:shock:

Report them!
whats wrong with it?,this is like a market the more you advertise and promote yourself the better chance of getting a meet....so is it ok for couples to display pics of 3,4 somes or groups sex they've had on their profiles while singles are denied the oppurtunity/right to ??
well spend another minute on the AUP you will find that pics of third party is permitted as long as it doesnt show face or any recognised features
experience sells

7 Jun 2008

Quote by Phuckers
I find it more annoying when you see single guys profiles with pics of women on them!!
:shock:

Report them!
whats wrong with it?,this is like a market the more you advertise and promote yourself the better chance of getting a meet....so is it ok for couples to display pics of 3,4 somes or groups sex they've had on their profiles while singles are denied the oppurtunity/right too ??
well spend another minute on the AUP you will find that pics of third party is permitted as long it doesnt show face or any recognised features
experience sells

Quote by AUP
Photos
The photo should be mainly of the account holder(s), only non-distinguishable parts of third parties can be shown.
Before you post a picture containing the part of a third party defined above, you must have the approval of that person and be able to produce it to Admin, if required. If a complaint is received from someone who claims to be in the picture and is not happy about it, the onus of proof of permission will be on you.

Just for clarity.

7 Jun 2008

Phuckers has a point. I only have a few photos on my profile, most are just me but one is clearly me with a very nice man ;) No one has ever complained to me about that, if anything it seems to turn people on more.
I agree with the op, i find it hugely annoying when ur looking at a couple and cant see the guy. I dont look to play with couples, but when i'm chatting with a guy and he says that they play seperately too then what's the point in not showing yourself ? I'm not going to meet you because you have a photogenic girlfriend ! lol

Trix xxx

7 Jun 2008

Quote by Trixie_female
Phuckers has a point. I only have a few photos on my profile, most are just me but one is clearly me with a very nice man ;) No one has ever complained to me about that, if anything it seems to turn people on more.

It's indistinguishable - it's just another cock and unremarkable, as cocks go.

7 Jun 2008

This is one of the problems with some of the SH rules, one rule says one thing and another rule something different. We had this problem back last year when we put a 3 party pic on our profile it was removed so Richard asked why and a mod said 3rd party pics are not permited but after reading 2 different rules we where confused but we now have one 3rd party pic on our profile.
It is confusing some times to what is permited and what is not maybe SH should make up one set of rules for all not 0ne for some a one for others.

7 Jun 2008

Quote by Freckledbird
Phuckers has a point. I only have a few photos on my profile, most are just me but one is clearly me with a very nice man ;) No one has ever complained to me about that, if anything it seems to turn people on more.

It's indistinguishable - it's just another cock and unremarkable, as cocks go.
Heeheehee, I'll be sure to tell him that ! :lol2:
Trix xxx

7 Jun 2008

Quote by Freckledbird
I find it more annoying when you see single guys profiles with pics of women on them!!
:shock:

Report them!
whats wrong with it?,this is like a market the more you advertise and promote yourself the better chance of getting a meet....so is it ok for couples to display pics of 3,4 somes or groups sex they've had on their profiles while singles are denied the oppurtunity/right too ??
well spend another minute on the AUP you will find that pics of third party is permitted as long it doesnt show face or any recognised features
experience sells

Quote by AUP
Photos
The photo should be mainly of the account holder(s), only non-distinguishable parts of third parties can be shown.
Before you post a picture containing the part of a third party defined above, you must have the approval of that person and be able to produce it to Admin, if required. If a complaint is received from someone who claims to be in the picture and is not happy about it, the onus of proof of permission will be on you.

so why should the singles be reported if they have third party pics on their profile...the above rule doesnt seem to ban it!

7 Jun 2008

Quote by Dizzy_DonnaCouple
This is one of the problems with some of the SH rules, one rule says one thing and another rule something different. We had this problem back last year when we put a 3 party pic on our profile it was removed so Richard asked why and a mod said 3rd party pics are not permited but after reading 2 different rules we where confused but we now have one 3rd party pic on our profile.
It is confusing some times to what is permited and what is not maybe SH should make up one set of rules for all not 0ne for some a one for others.

These are the rules for everyone:
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/main/aup.html

7 Jun 2008

Photos will be deleted if they contain any of the following:
Anyone who looks under the age of 18.
Contain little or nothing of the account holders.
Children can be seen - anywhere and in any context
People can be seen in the background
Animals can be seen
Any contact information such as an email address, URL or mobile/telephone number is on them
They are too small to be useful or if they have not been cropped correctly.
The photo is blurred or too difficult to make out.
They are deemed to be too obscene or inappropriate for this site.
Please note repeated disregarding of these rules WILL result in your account being de-activated.
So can't see any problem with anyone having a 3rd party in there pics. :shock:

7 Jun 2008

Quote by Phuckers
Photos
The photo should be mainly of the account holder(s), only non-distinguishable parts of third parties can be shown.
Before you post a picture containing the part of a third party defined above, you must have the approval of that person and be able to produce it to Admin, if required. If a complaint is received from someone who claims to be in the picture and is not happy about it, the onus of proof of permission will be on you.

so why should the singles be reported if they have third party pics on their profile...the above rule doesnt seem to ban it!
It doesn't ban it. I've reported profiles where there were more pictures of another person than the owner of the profile (for example, single male with more pictures of a female than a single male). Or when it's a newly single male/female with pictures of ex partner after a split. The other party is unlikely to have given permission then, is my reasoning. If I were to split up from my husband, and he had pictures of me on profile, I'd expect admin/mods to at least ask me if it were OK with me.

7 Jun 2008

Well it seems to be up to the vagaries of how the admins are feeling on any particular day.
Recently a pic of mine was disallowed for having a third party on it. All that could be seen of her was the tip of her nose and her lips... and even then I'd blurred them, yet it was deleted.
Just can't win sometimes.

7 Jun 2008

Quote by Dizzy_DonnaCouple
So can't see any problem with anyone having a 3rd party in there pics. :shock:

There isn't - they just have to be indistinguishable! And not more of them than you.

7 Jun 2008

Quote by Freckledbird

Photos
The photo should be mainly of the account holder(s), only non-distinguishable parts of third parties can be shown.
Before you post a picture containing the part of a third party defined above, you must have the approval of that person and be able to produce it to Admin, if required. If a complaint is received from someone who claims to be in the picture and is not happy about it, the onus of proof of permission will be on you.

so why should the singles be reported if they have third party pics on their profile...the above rule doesnt seem to ban it!
It doesn't ban it. I've reported profiles where there were more pictures of another person than the owner of the profile (for example, single male with more pictures of a female than a single male). Or when it's a newly single male/female with pictures of ex partner after a split. The other party is unlikely to have given permission then, is my reasoning. If I were to split up from my husband, and he had pictures of me on profile, I'd expect admin/mods to at least ask me if it were OK with me.
well that would be a good point to ask before deleting,for my case when i split from my ex and updated my profile to single it took over three months,then one day 10pics were deleted, some were just of me....when i incquired, admin said he didnt delete them....i gave up any way

7 Jun 2008

Only got one face pic of Rich in our profile.
His choice. Im more of an exhibitionist. wink

dee

7 Jun 2008

It does bug me when couples have 10 - 20 pics of the woman and not one of the guy, it tends to put me off quite a bit.
As for third parties in pics. There should be a blanket rule for all that only you are allowed in the photos then there would be no arguements. If a couple only has one pic and it's of a threesom, how are you supposed to know who's who?
H.x

7 Jun 2008

I agree with you H if there was a 'no 3rd party' rule it would prob make it easier for alot of people.

7 Jun 2008

i have often thought this, if a couple are advertising and they are looking for a female to join them then why do they only have pics of their female on profile/adds??
one couple messaged me in chat and we got on well, i viewed the profile, read the ads andlooked to see if there were any forums threads, all still seemed well,
then i asked to see their cam to confirm the female was there and real lol
well i was puzzled for a bit. the guy was white. in the pics they were all of a couple but a white female and black male.
i was told they are pics of different black guys she has been with, i said its misleading and they said, why? we never stated mr was black.
i declined meeting them, they accused me of being rasist, not sure how? it wasnt cuse he wasnt black i didnt want to meet but cuse they had in my opinion mis lead me for the last 2 hours.
xx fem xx

7 Jun 2008

Quote by Dizzy_DonnaCouple
I agree with you H if there was a 'no 3rd party' rule it would prob make it easier for alot of people.

does that just defills the logic of a swinging site....

7 Jun 2008

There is one pic on our profile of me, the female.
Its just me because I chose to put it there. My hubby doesnt want any of him there. Again its personal choice.
If someone would chose not to contact us because there is only a pic of me, then we respect their decision.
We all have different ways of assessing how we contact people.

7 Jun 2008

Quote by H-x
As for third parties in pics. There should be a blanket rule for all that only you are allowed in the photos then there would be no arguements. If a couple only has one pic and it's of a threesom, how are you supposed to know who's who?

Agreed - and I've asked that question before.

Quote by Phuckers
I agree with you H if there was a 'no 3rd party' rule it would prob make it easier for alot of people.

does that just defills the logic of a swinging site....
Pardon?

Quote by Mistress_39
If someone would chose not to contact us because there is only a pic of me, then we respect their decision.
We all have different ways of assessing how we contact people.

Spot on.

7 Jun 2008

Well I see we all have different views on what, when and how profile pics soon be. I think my mine problem is trust.
I use to be very trusting of people's profiles but now I'm not so sure there seem to be alot of people on here that have pics on there profile that are either, not them (as in 3rd party) or mis-leading.
I guess it just takes time to sort though the genuine from the time wasters.
There isn't really a way to find out that untill you drive somewhere for a meet.

7 Jun 2008

Quote by Dizzy_DonnaCouple
Well I see we all have different views on what, when and how profile pics soon be. I think my mine problem is trust.
I use to be very trusting of people's profiles but now I'm not so sure there seem to be alot of people on here that have pics on there profile that are either, not them (as in 3rd party) or mis-leading.
I guess it just takes time to sort though the genuine from the time wasters.
There isn't really a way to find out that untill you drive somewhere for a meet.

Unless you meet someone face-to-face, there's no way of knowing if a picture is of them or even recent. Pictures soon become irrelevant for a lot of people anyway. Lack of pictures doesn't necessarily indicate that someone is a timewaster either.

7 Jun 2008

we only have pics of me mrs Lyns on our profile as its only me who activily plays.

7 Jun 2008

I have pics of myself and of Fee on my profile but we aren't together in them.
Wonder if that means we're not a couple??
In fairness, it's hardly difficult to find pics on the internet to use on here so having pics on your profile are hardly an indication of anything to be honest.