Just curious what methods people use to make sure the 'sexy young bi girl' is not really a 48 year old 18stone computer nerd called Raymond??
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What method do you use to make people prove who they are?
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Orgasminator
Quote by darrinjOi
Just curious what methods people use to make sure the 'sexy young bi girl' is not really a 48 year old 18stone computer nerd called Raymond??
Oh, if you are a 'sexy young bi girl' check out our ad at 91730!
Quote by JQLOi
Just curious what methods people use to make sure the 'sexy young bi girl' is not really a 48 year old 18stone computer nerd called Raymond??
Oh, if you are a 'sexy young bi girl' check out our ad at 91730!
and what is wrong with 48 - I'll be that next - is my life over then?
Orgasminator
Ask her to ring you, let them know they can use caller withheld...
One excuse is ok (cant do it at the min, etc...)
if they dont ring on a second asking, they aint real!
Jon
One excuse is ok (cant do it at the min, etc...)
if they dont ring on a second asking, they aint real!
Jon
Orgasminator
I'm 48, a computer nerd but not quite 18 stone
Hi Just our two penn'orth,
It's simple. As a couple with an ad on here, we often get email replies, some with pictures of couples (which is what we advertise for). Trouble is, pictures mean nothing. You can have as many pictures as you like but there's no proof that the emailer hasn't just grabbed pictures from the net.
The solution we have works brilliantly. We ask the emailer to chat with us ON WEBCAM on or MSN Messenger, but not to contact us until they are both together, sitting side-by-side on cam. We also tell them that we won't respond to them unless we too are side-by-side on webcam with our camera connected.
Once we are all together, we switch on our cam, and we see if they are genuine or not. If they are not, they don't bother contacting us on cam because it would be so obvious.
Also, the usual one of "she's not here at the moment" is sorted because we have explicitly stated that we should all be together when we go in front of the cam.
I would guess that most people using a site like this would be webcam equipped. They are 20 quid for Gods sake!
It's funny how often we get the message "My cam doesn't work, but can I see you to make sure you are genuine" So you're supposed to be genuine but won't show, and we, who are fully prepared to show ourselves as genuine on cam are expected to believe that old tosh!
Believe me, get MSN messenger and Messenger, it is the best way to make contact. You can be sure that the respondents are genuine.
It's simple. As a couple with an ad on here, we often get email replies, some with pictures of couples (which is what we advertise for). Trouble is, pictures mean nothing. You can have as many pictures as you like but there's no proof that the emailer hasn't just grabbed pictures from the net.
The solution we have works brilliantly. We ask the emailer to chat with us ON WEBCAM on or MSN Messenger, but not to contact us until they are both together, sitting side-by-side on cam. We also tell them that we won't respond to them unless we too are side-by-side on webcam with our camera connected.
Once we are all together, we switch on our cam, and we see if they are genuine or not. If they are not, they don't bother contacting us on cam because it would be so obvious.
Also, the usual one of "she's not here at the moment" is sorted because we have explicitly stated that we should all be together when we go in front of the cam.
I would guess that most people using a site like this would be webcam equipped. They are 20 quid for Gods sake!
It's funny how often we get the message "My cam doesn't work, but can I see you to make sure you are genuine" So you're supposed to be genuine but won't show, and we, who are fully prepared to show ourselves as genuine on cam are expected to believe that old tosh!
Believe me, get MSN messenger and Messenger, it is the best way to make contact. You can be sure that the respondents are genuine.
:lol: :lol: :lol:Well, I'm part of a couple that doesn't have a webcam!! But, we've found chatting on msn to be quite revealing, and we also have a phone chat at least between the two women to be make sure. Then there's always the meet for drinks first option. But then, we aren't in a major rush, so find that it pays off to take the time to do this first.
And intuition -- most definitely. There's a balance though between being careful and being rude/hostile. Anyone that comes across as being closed and suspicious rather than simply careful, isn't high on my list anyway!
Just my two cents worth ---oops, pence I mean...
And intuition -- most definitely. There's a balance though between being careful and being rude/hostile. Anyone that comes across as being closed and suspicious rather than simply careful, isn't high on my list anyway!
Just my two cents worth ---oops, pence I mean...
Orgasminator
Quote by foxylady 123
Intuition, its never failled me yet.
BTW I never ring , even if you are kind enough to let me with hold the number. Either you trust me or you dont, plenty more fish and all that.............
Its not so much "kind enough" but more that, while it may sound sexist, women do have to be more carefull.
As a guy, unless the couple or single fem turns out to be a single male 20stone dead weight lifter I can walk aways :-)
I agree with you that intuition usualy works... but if you were looking for a couple then how would you verify they were a couple prior to meeting, or what sort of get out claus/system would you have if you met and they were a single guy?
As a swingle male, i've had a couple of males pretending to be couples and signle females... how did I know? two things, 1, style of messenger conversations, although I was ment to be talking to the fem, most women dont use the same style or words men do. 2, even tho very keen to meet... after a couple of yes we can, sorry we didnt show, you know they are not for real... and if they are... life is to short to chase a meet that has been blown out 3 times, no one is that good!
Sex God
Quote by darrinj
Just curious what methods people use to make sure the 'sexy young bi girl' is not really a 48 year old 18stone computer nerd called Raymond??
Oh, if you are a 'sexy young bi girl' check out our ad at 91730!
I think you should be a little more tolerant of artistic licence.
Yours sincerely,
Raymond48
I agree with most of the post here about the web cam and msn chat. We dont put our msn address on here, cos we dont necessarily know who's adding us. But once we've made email contact we're more than happy to give out our msn address, and we're also prepared to cam. the only thing with us is, we cant always be together on the webcam due to Daz being on shift work, so it's rare that we're on at the same time!! But to decide if someone's genuine, we would say being open and honest when asked questions,(you know, what are you into, how long have you been swinging, things like that) and being willing to give a mobile number at the very least.
