What Women Want - Words Work Wonders...

Sorry if this post seems harsh, its a bit of a rant but hopefully will help improve the experience here. It is supposed to be some helpful points for the many many single guys to understand what works with women - well for me anyway...

If you were out at a bar or club, on the pull and you saw a woman you liked the look of, would you just go up to her, whack your dick out and ask her to show you her tits? Hopefully not, but why would you think that's ok here?

in my experience as a woman, male and female brains work differently and where an erotic / explicit photo may be all thats needed to get a guy turned on, i think most women find unsolicited dick pics / pms quite a turn off., and would prefer a flirty chat

for me its about a mental connection, conversation, a bit of flattery and being talked to like a person rather than an object. I sometimes feel that a lot of the single guys here just want to watch cams without interacting, as if the women here are here solely for male gratification when really we're here for our fun and pleasure.  surely if you're just gonna watch and lurk silently in a room you may as well just go to a porn site and watch a movie?

A simple hello, how are you and a compliment on pic / profile is enough to start a connection, make the woman feel good and more likely to lead to a more successful encounter than 'show me your pussy' or 'want to see my cock'. There's literally hundreds of cocks on display here at any one time so us women can have our pick - you need a USP or something to spark our interest. And reading profiles before you send a PM.. if a profile requests no pm from single guys, and you pm something crude and direct without even saying hi, why would you expect a positive response?

There are a few members here who i have got to know reasonably well and who, when i see their names i know i will have a good evening, and others who i know the opposite

not sure of the real point but i think its something like : we are not objects / porn stars here for you to leer, and ogle over, we are real people who want human interaction. 

please feel free to shoot me down, or other women what works for you?

thanks for getting this far and not poking your eyes out with a fork!

i do love a sexy girl on a rant 

morning we agree with you totally crisjane 

Well said!! Rick x

New here, so don’t have enough experience to comment decisively, but agree completely.....I’d much rather get to know somebody a little first

very well put. X

I’ve always been turned on by the “thrill of the chase” so to speak ... the lead up  to something actually going to happen !  

I think it is common problem and you can see that in a lot of profiles here and in other places (No Dick pics). I agree with your statement around Porn. If i want a quick fix a porn site is my point of call or if i want something a little more involved somewhere like here is ideal.

Some of the most satisfying nights I have had with a woman we have not even been together. Sexting, pics, vids are all so much more of a turn on as you are building up to it. Can honestly say I have only ever sent one dick pic and that was at the request of the recipient, who i had been flirting, sexting with for some days.

Equally, not that it happens often, if a women were to send me fanny pics without any other comms, that would put me right of. In fact doing the encounters, if the main profile pic is as above then I move on straight away. Probably missed out on some encounters as a result, but sure I am gaining in the long term.

Wow that was a long reply

Here as elsewhere, I try to talk to people as persons not objects be they men or women. If they are brave enough to show intimate photos of themselves I compliment them. But there are often other interesting things to talk about as well as their bodily looks. We are all on a site such as this as we all share a randy disposition and sex in all its aspects is endlessly fascinating.

Extremely well written 👏 

I back you up 100%

X

interesting perspective from a man xx Lina 

Respect the individual I say 😘

IMHO:  What you CAN’T see, is far more exciting than what you CAN see! I mean by that,  that a bit of subtlety is vital to inspire an interest. An open pussy (or cock) picture is NOT a turn on, but a smiley face in a short dress is MUCH more exciting. It inspires me to “discover more”, and the chase is ON! Where are you, enticing girl?? How about a drink and a chat, and let’s see where your ‘sparks” are hidden. I live that cheeky smile, and your stocking-clad knee ——- 😛😛😛😛

Another variant of this is the opening line in a pm ‘my cam is on want to watch me cum’. Girls on here tend to get a lot of pm’s if my experience is the norm so if you want us to chat, at least try and engage us first.

What works for us is guys who've actually bothered to read our profile, worked out if we're at all compatible and then sent a polite, cock shot free, message which relates to that and tells us a little about them.  They've made the effort and we reciprocate, even if it's just to say thanks with a polite 'no' for whatever reason.   

enjoyable read x