I don't mean tips on posting, or "getting some" as I have read from a lot of guys. I mean in a more serious emotional pit falls to watch out for. Certain types of advert that might seem interesting to me but start alarm bells ringing for you guys ?
What sort of encounters were your first ? Do you think you got in too heavy or too shallow? How would you have liked them to have gone.
What about encounters you have regretted ? If there have been any obviously. And is it possible to find situtions that are erotic and charged rather than just sex. By this I mena tension and excitement. I guess thats what I am looking for, but am not sure how to start off !
Thanks all !
Steve
BTW, thanks for all the friendly advice I have been given so far - you guys and girls are very open, honest and willing to share !
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:roll: :roll:Quote by takingitslow
Its kind of complicated ! I feel on trial
Well you can't be on trial if its all true. Best way to have a simple life is not to lie... then you don't have to remember all the lies you made!!
I am sure its not that complicated unless you fudged what you said a bit and now wish you hadn't
I really don't think I have much to tell. I came here just over a year ago, met up with a couple in newcastle. It was pretty odd. I didn't come here for a long time. Then curiousity got the better of me. I never used to post before (not that I can remember anyway) and kind of wish I hadnt now.
I probably shouldnt have asked so many questions as it seems to have really upset people. Sorry ! I never even thought about journalists being a problem
I think it might have been better off to lurk. I'm sorry if I'm not your average newbie, it seems that not being a typical single male and one who appears above radar early on is a really big mistake. Way to burn bridges during my first few days ! Yeah ! Go me !
I probably shouldnt have asked so many questions as it seems to have really upset people. Sorry ! I never even thought about journalists being a problem
I think it might have been better off to lurk. I'm sorry if I'm not your average newbie, it seems that not being a typical single male and one who appears above radar early on is a really big mistake. Way to burn bridges during my first few days ! Yeah ! Go me !
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Quote by takingitslow
I don't mean tips on posting, or "getting some" as I have read from a lot of guys. I mean in a more serious emotional pit falls to watch out for. Certain types of advert that might seem interesting to me but start alarm bells ringing for you guys ?
What sort of encounters were your first ? Do you think you got in too heavy or too shallow? How would you have liked them to have gone.
What about encounters you have regretted ? If there have been any obviously. And is it possible to find situtions that are erotic and charged rather than just sex. By this I mena tension and excitement. I guess thats what I am looking for, but am not sure how to start off !
Thanks all !
Steve
BTW, thanks for all the friendly advice I have been given so far - you guys and girls are very open, honest and willing to share !
Too many questions, my brain has gone into sensory over-load... sorry, this reads like an exam :shock: :shock: :shock:
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I thought this site was about asking questions about swinging
It is, but to answer all of the above thoroughly I would end up writing a 50,000 word thesis :shock:
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I thought this site was about asking questions about swinging
It is, but to answer all of the above thoroughly I would end up writing a 50,000 word thesis :shock:
Don't know about that blue. I could answer that in one sentence. I regret nothing except our foursome in Rotherham
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What paper or magazine can we read the articles in?
My suspicious mind going into overdrive
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Thats just what I was thinking!!! :shock:
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Hi everyone,
I've only just joined, although I've been lurking for a while. I've had one sucessful meetup under my old name / advert, and have finally plucked up the courage to return ! I know that it is very hard to for a single male to get any responses, but can anyone give me some advice about a good level for newbie encounters.:
I guess what I'm trying to say, in a rather long winded way, is that munches and clubs are a bit too much for me at this stage. I'm not here to "get laid" or just go for the first thing that comes my way. I'm perfectly willing to settle in and take my time.
In conclusion, has anybody got any tips for the type of stuff its good to start out with ?
Thanks all !
Quote by takingitslow
What about encounters you have regretted ? If there have been any obviously. And is it possible to find situtions that are erotic and charged rather than just sex. By this I mena tension and excitement. I guess thats what I am looking for, but am not sure how to start off !
Quote by takingitslow
I probably shouldnt have asked so many questions as it seems to have really upset people. Sorry ! I never even thought about journalists being a problem
I think it might have been better off to lurk. I'm sorry if I'm not your average newbie, it seems that not being a typical single male and one who appears above radar early on is a really big mistake. Way to burn bridges during my first few days ! Yeah ! Go me !
Now is it just me or are thses posts all contradictory?
Taking it slow has been on the site before with success, yet states they are a newbie and doesn't know how to start off. They have been lurking for a while so must have read threads on the forums and know the style of posts but say they didn't see a problem with the leading questions in the threads which they have been posting.
From the answers which have been given in the several threads posted by Takingitslowly it would be remarkably easy to write an article about swinging.
I apologise if I'm wrong but my alarm bells are ringing LOUDLY !!!
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Pleeeeeeeeease! :bounce: :bounce:
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Can I be on page 3?
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I am going to buck the trend and say what I have said before - there is already enough information on here to write 100 articles on swinging, including some really detailed and private stuff from some people.
If I was a journalist I wouldn't even need to register just go searching through the old posts and it is a brilliant resource of information on the whole UK swinging scene.
In my opinion takingitslow is one of those people who just wants to discuss things in detail (I too could talk the hind legs of a donkey) - always a good thing but there are too many questions in one post for me to even start trying to answer them.
So welcome to the forums takingitslow and I would suggest you take the advice of your name and dont post quite so much at one time - or even apply for a mentor and some helpful person can help you with how to avoid opening your mouth and putting your foot in it.
Roger the Dragon
If I was a journalist I wouldn't even need to register just go searching through the old posts and it is a brilliant resource of information on the whole UK swinging scene.
In my opinion takingitslow is one of those people who just wants to discuss things in detail (I too could talk the hind legs of a donkey) - always a good thing but there are too many questions in one post for me to even start trying to answer them.
So welcome to the forums takingitslow and I would suggest you take the advice of your name and dont post quite so much at one time - or even apply for a mentor and some helpful person can help you with how to avoid opening your mouth and putting your foot in it.
Roger the Dragon
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Right, I am going to answer all of these without writing a 50,000 word thesis. I am bored enough to take up this challenge, but practicing again the art of conciseness :lol: :lol:
1. Emotional pit falls.... I avoid those obviously looking for love, or those who want to steal my money (OK, not emotional as such, but I do love money :lol2: ). I avoid the ones who sound desperate or clingy, the ones who's wife doesn't understand them, and those that are just downright loopy :uhoh: .
2. Alarm bells... yes sometimes the first reply from someone is OK, but then it becomes obvious that all is not well (see point 1). Trust thine instincts at all times and everything is fine :thumbup: .
3. First encounters I considered swinging were meeting guys and a few couple off an Internet site (not this one) :rascal: .
4. Too heavy or too shallow... none ever got too heavy... all were designed to be one offs (or two offs) so I guess all were shallow by design. I did make a friend that I still see to this day :high-smile: .
5. I would have liked them to have gone well, obviously..... some did, some were crap... all part of the learning curve :smug: .
6. Regrets, I have a few, but then again too few to mention :karaoke:
7. Erotic and charged... yes, well possible with the right catch. Again, a learning curve.... :mrgreen:
How did I do folks? :thrilled:
:lol: :lol: Quote by takingitslow
1 Any emotional pit falls to watch out for.
2 Certain types of advert that might seem interesting to me but start alarm bells ringing for you guys ?
3 What sort of encounters were your first ?
4 Do you think you got in too heavy or too shallow?
5 How would you have liked them to have gone.
6 What about encounters you have regretted ?
7 And is it possible to find situtions that are erotic and charged rather than just sex. By this I mena tension and excitement.
1. Emotional pit falls.... I avoid those obviously looking for love, or those who want to steal my money (OK, not emotional as such, but I do love money :lol2: ). I avoid the ones who sound desperate or clingy, the ones who's wife doesn't understand them, and those that are just downright loopy :uhoh: .
2. Alarm bells... yes sometimes the first reply from someone is OK, but then it becomes obvious that all is not well (see point 1). Trust thine instincts at all times and everything is fine :thumbup: .
3. First encounters I considered swinging were meeting guys and a few couple off an Internet site (not this one) :rascal: .
4. Too heavy or too shallow... none ever got too heavy... all were designed to be one offs (or two offs) so I guess all were shallow by design. I did make a friend that I still see to this day :high-smile: .
5. I would have liked them to have gone well, obviously..... some did, some were crap... all part of the learning curve :smug: .
6. Regrets, I have a few, but then again too few to mention :karaoke:
7. Erotic and charged... yes, well possible with the right catch. Again, a learning curve.... :mrgreen:
How did I do folks? :thrilled:
Quote by takingitslow
I don't mean tips on posting, or "getting some" as I have read from a lot of guys. I mean in a more serious emotional pit falls to watch out for. Certain types of advert that might seem interesting to me but start alarm bells ringing for you guys ?
What sort of encounters were your first ? Do you think you got in too heavy or too shallow? How would you have liked them to have gone.
What about encounters you have regretted ? If there have been any obviously. And is it possible to find situtions that are erotic and charged rather than just sex. By this I mena tension and excitement. I guess thats what I am looking for, but am not sure how to start off !
Thanks all !
Steve
BTW, thanks for all the friendly advice I have been given so far - you guys and girls are very open, honest and willing to share !
Hey man Im a fellow newbie and Ive read your opening questions and Im afraid I have to agree with the regulars and mods on this one, and they way your questions are frased sounds like a jornalist to me.
However if Im wrong and you are genuin then the best thing to do is be yourself and if your a decent guy people will see that and things will hapen over time,there is no such this as a quick fix on here.
Quote by takingitslow
I don't mean tips on posting, or "getting some" as I have read from a lot of guys. I mean in a more serious emotional pit falls to watch out for. Certain types of advert that might seem interesting to me but start alarm bells ringing for you guys ?
What sort of encounters were your first ? Do you think you got in too heavy or too shallow? How would you have liked them to have gone.
What about encounters you have regretted ? If there have been any obviously. And is it possible to find situtions that are erotic and charged rather than just sex. By this I mena tension and excitement. I guess thats what I am looking for, but am not sure how to start off !
Thanks all !
Steve
BTW, thanks for all the friendly advice I have been given so far - you guys and girls are very open, honest and willing to share !
Well i'd personally change the avatar, cos the blades are pooh......
I'll respond in the way I believe the question was meant.
No regrets about any of the meetings we've had.. Most have been great, one has been mediocre. The people we've met have been caring & considerate ... underlining the key qualities of a "swinger".
there are some lonely souls out there, and some who just haven't managed to get their lives together in a reasonably acceptable manner. We were taken in briefly by a "woman" who whispered over the phone - so that's one danger flag I'd draw your attention to ... whispering women might sometimes be men.
Speaking as a couple we'd say that swinging isn't an alternative to love ... but it can be a great enhancement to an already loving relationship.
No regrets about any of the meetings we've had.. Most have been great, one has been mediocre. The people we've met have been caring & considerate ... underlining the key qualities of a "swinger".
there are some lonely souls out there, and some who just haven't managed to get their lives together in a reasonably acceptable manner. We were taken in briefly by a "woman" who whispered over the phone - so that's one danger flag I'd draw your attention to ... whispering women might sometimes be men.
Speaking as a couple we'd say that swinging isn't an alternative to love ... but it can be a great enhancement to an already loving relationship.
