What would you do if your child hit you?

20 Oct 2008

Quote by noladreams30
I am not a parent. However, as someone who has spent some considerable time working with young people in both the education and youth justice systems, I feel like I can contribute.
It is extremely simplistic just to blame the parents.
Yes, there are worrying correlations between home life and behaviour, home life and educational attainment etc. If we trawled the research we could find plenty of stats to back up that argument.
Unfortunately though, there are many 'respectable' families who suffer these kind of problems. When you have a violent child - and I don't mean a kid that occasionally has a strop, but a physically and/or emotionally violent child - then simply blaming parents is not the answer.
I am not decrying some of the points that have been made about parenting skills and boundary-setting etc, what I am perhaps doing is trying to inject a note of caution and say that in a lot of cases like this it is so far from being a black and white, easy to apportion blame type of situation.
Just my opinion of course!

Of which you are entitled to have. cool

20 Oct 2008

haven't read the whole thread... but what if it were someone elses child?
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21 Oct 2008

I feel i have to say this after reading the thread.
Unfortunately nobody is allowed to discipline children like they used to be, it never harmed me to av a clip round ear hole, or harmed n e 1 at school to av the cane/slipper.
But teachers cant even tell kids off, same as parents sumtimes as all the kids will say is i am ringin childline etc etc
It would also help if the LEA and Governing bodies would help people who work with kids in any way shape or form let us tell the kids what it is they are doing wrong etc. I was a child minder and wasnt able to say to the children that is wrong/naughty as these were negative words, as far as i am concerned children need to know what is naughty and what isnt.
Sorry 2 bore u all, jus my thoughts tho

22 Oct 2008

I havent read all the replies to this as I'm not in the right frame of mind right now to get all deep on this subject lol
What I would like to say is that I think it's unfair to cast judgement on parents with children who do hit them. You can't put this into a box, there's different circumstances for all.
I'm the first to admit I'm not the best mother around but it's not a regular occurance for me...
Don't really know what else to say on the matter :confused:

22 Oct 2008

Quote by couplefunuk
I need to start by saying I don't have kids.
HOWEVER it isn't rocket science.
I've commented on lack of parenting skills before. I am often appalled by the lack of discipline from parents. They let their kids run riot.
I had my 2.5 year old niece to stay this weekend. She started throwing her dinner on the floor, throwing a tantrum and refused to eat it. First forkful went on the floor, I told her 'if you do that again, you go to your room' she did it again. So I sent her to her room. She cried, and screamed but I sent her up there for 3 minutes (one minute for every year of her life - cheers supernanny lol) She stopped crying when she realised I was serious and even said sorry when I went up there after. She ate all her dinner so I gave her a small piece of chocolate cake to finish.
It's not rocket science to teach your kids from the moment they can walk and talk who is boss. If you don't discipline your kids, who will?
*Her*

I don't know about anyone else but I find that other peoples children are always better behaved