What you don''t do...

15 Jul 2007

Okay... so I'm being lazy and I'm sure this has been discussed before but I'd be there all day raking through profiles to find out what's not there!
Does anyone say in their profile what they're not looking for?
I know there are loads of people who state in their profile that they're not interested in single males but does anyone actually have a list of things they don't want?
I got a PM this morning from a married gentleman and although it was a very polite exchange where I told him I didn't do married men (unless I get to do the wife too obviously!) :rascal: He suggested that he wouldn't have bothered me had I written that in my profile. I explained that I didn't feel the need to write what I don't do in my profile as a simple PM conversation could clarify that. Apparently I'm the boss! Couldn't quite work out if that was sarcasm or not! :lol:
So do people write things they're not interested in to save people wasting their time getting in touch?
EDIT: And what is going on with my sig??!

15 Jul 2007

I will be very specific as profile is empty at the mo and that can mean anything!!!! lol

15 Jul 2007

Makes no difference. End up being asked anyway lol

15 Jul 2007

Quote by Dirtygirlie
Okay... so I'm being lazy and I'm sure this has been discussed before but I'd be there all day raking through profiles to find out what's not there!
Does anyone say in their profile what they're not looking for?
I know there are loads of people who state in their profile that they're not interested in single males but does anyone actually have a list of things they don't want?
I got a PM this morning from a married gentleman and although it was a very polite exchange where I told him I didn't do married men (unless I get to do the wife too obviously!) :rascal: He suggested that he wouldn't have bothered me had I written that in my profile. I explained that I didn't feel the need to write what I don't do in my profile as a simple PM conversation could clarify that. Apparently I'm the boss! Couldn't quite work out if that was sarcasm or not! :lol:
So do people write things they're not interested in to save people wasting their time getting in touch?
EDIT: And what is going on with my sig??!

I think that to include everything you do and don't do would A take all day and B as you said leave very little for discussion in PM.
If I put all the things I'd like and dislike it would take forever :lol:
And the sites been having problems with regards to the sigs lately (hence my rather shorter one :lol: )

15 Jul 2007

edited

15 Jul 2007

I think you should be as specific as possible in your profile. I will be adding/amending ours soon. However, I don't think it matters too much as most people ignore it anyway. We just put our first ad on in ages looking for couples this weekend and I got loads of replies from single guys. I amended the ad so it was VERY clear that we were not inviting single guys. I then got a message from a single guy suggesting that if we were not interested in single guys we should remove it from our profile. I replied to him that on this occasion we were looking for couples. The profile is completely separate from that is it not?

15 Jul 2007

I would have thought my profile as fairly clear, but I still get pm's and the relevant unwanted cock shoot photos. confused

I just love the ignore button. lol

15 Jul 2007

I have dont like winks. Wont answer whispers, no one under 40 and dont like bi guys, which is probably why I constantly get winks from 25 year old bi guys I guess. Have resorted to replying with " I can only assume you cannot read!!!" rolleyes

Oh and i cant change size or colour on my signature sad

15 Jul 2007

I believe my profile is very specific about my requirements and what I don't want.
Like Lost, it makes not the slightest bit of difference anyway. rolleyes

15 Jul 2007

Quote by Dirtygirlie
I told him I didn't do married men

:shock:

I dont bother with a profile as everyone seems to agree.....nobodys pays the slightest bit of attention to them anyway!

15 Jul 2007

Quote by Dirtygirlie

So do people write things they're not interested in to save people wasting their time getting in touch?

Yep!

Quote by Serendipity (in her profile)
I'm not interested in hearing from guys who want to "take" me dogging for a shag

It saves time having to explain to people that when I say I like dogging, it doesn't automatically mean I want to be spread across their bonnet and given one lol

And it does seem to have worked for the most part biggrin

15 Jul 2007

our dogging adds say 45 n over our choice end of, still get emails asking " i know i am only.... and "why over 45s" bit of a pisser that some only read so far or look at the pics.

15 Jul 2007

Quote by the_Laird
I told him I didn't do married men

:shock:

I don't do married men either, but i'm sure i could find something for your wife to join me for biggrin

:rascal:

15 Jul 2007

There's usually something we either haven't done or even imagined doing. So we can't say that we wouldn't do it..........................

15 Jul 2007

Quote by the_Laird
I told him I didn't do married men

:shock:

Well obviously with good reason I make the odd exception! :rascal:

Quote by meat2pleaseu
I don't do married men either, but i'm sure i could find something for your wife to join me for :rascal:

Trollop! :D

16 Jul 2007

You don't always know what you don't want until you come across it (or don't as the case may be..)
My list is growing all the time & I'm afraid I haven't replied to a mail in a long time... :cry:

16 Jul 2007

i have in mine i wont respond to winks and dont bother if you dont do kissing or like big girls
but being honest half of the pms that come through at least, havent read the profile anyway.
Earthyxx

16 Jul 2007

Our profile is a little empty at the moment as im currently rewriting our profile text due to the fact that what we want has changed.
Although when our profile text is there I dont usually put what we are not looking for as it could look a little negative. Theres probably lots of things that we are not looking for and you would be there all day reading it.
Also, what we are not looking for in one person might be ok in another. So its best we keep our options open.
Louise xx

16 Jul 2007

Quote by the_Laird
I dont bother with a profile as everyone seems to agree.....nobodys pays the slightest bit of attention to them anyway!

Ah but I do, I really see the profile as a way of someone marketing themselves. If when I am seacrhing profiles/ads and people haven't even overwritten the "Insert your text here" bit I assume (rightly or wrongly) that they are not serious or simply cannot be bothered. We are all here to market ourselves to appeal to similar folks we would like to have sex with. Full stop. I want to make the selection process easier. Call me anal( I know I can be rolleyes

) but it takes time this fecking searching business so it needs to be approached in a business like fashion in my view.
And yes we still get winks from couples as well as single males despite saying use your imagination to seduce our minds, yes we still get ever hopeful single males asking "If you ever change your mind" and yes we get unthought out cut and paste responses...BUT we dont get shed loads like some claim to, so is that cos we're are quite specific with a long detailed profile text and people DO read it or are we just unnattractive by our profile cos we're so specific (although I don't think we're overly specific just more detailed than most)? Who knows but am hoping it is the beforementioned and that people DO read profiles.
And quite honestly the people we are going to like as people in their own right (let alone in a sexual manner) are going to be people that can read a profile, respect it, digest it, respond to it in a pleasant friendly and appropriate manner rather than "You're hot babe, M34, F32 36DD and bi want to meet similar cpls. Get in touch" with nothing about themselves to tell us anything.
Err I don't think so.
pink x
p.s. If I come across as elitist today that's because I am feeling that way today blink

16 Jul 2007

Quote by blueandpink

I dont bother with a profile as everyone seems to agree.....nobodys pays the slightest bit of attention to them anyway!

Ah but I do, I really see the profile as a way of someone marketing themselves. If when I am seacrhing profiles/ads and people haven't even overwritten the "Insert your text here" bit I assume (rightly or wrongly) that they are not serious or simply cannot be bothered. We are all here to market ourselves to appeal to similar folks we would like to have sex with. Full stop.
I reckon thats two assumptions that are in my experience very wrong. I know many people on here who have neither a viable advert nor a comprehensive profile. I also know that they are genuine, serious about their swinging and can most definately be bothered. Equally there are people here not looking for sex.
The beauty of this whole thing is that what works best for some can be so different for others.
If a lack of profile bothers people then tough. If, because of a lack of profile, those people are NOT getting the experiences they perhaps seek then who's fault / problem / concern is that? Their's of course.
It's all about choice, if they choose not to fill in a profile then so be it.

Quote by blueandpink
"You're hot babe...

Cant disagree there though Pink
:twisted:

16 Jul 2007

We did have a meet that went awry; we were told that we should have pointed out that we wanted neither serious bruises or judo wrestling holds.
... It just didn't occur to us that not wanting to physically fight someone needed stating.
Silly us. rolleyes

16 Jul 2007

Well - I'm saying it again - 'Never say 'never''.
And what's more he has no right to expect you to anticipate his (fairly narrow) spec. Any married guy operating on his own ought to expect a good proportion of rebuffs without even a PM exchange to discuss the finer points rolleyes

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16 Jul 2007

Had a few pm's from gay / bi blokes even though I stated it wasn't my thing. People just chance their arm I think - it's easy enough to delete or block if you need to.
We don't do duvets!

16 Jul 2007

Thanks Choon... that's kinda what I thought... I do try to reply to everyone (although it sometimes takes me a while!) but to be effectively told off for not clearly stating in my profile that I'm not interested in married men who are playing alone made me feel a little miffed!
I don't have an advert and I don't say much at all in my profile about what I want never mind what I don't want because I generally don't know what I want until I find it. However, I do swing and I am genuine. biggrin

I just don't see the point in filling up a space with specifics cause believe me, I'd be there all day and it's hard enough trying to get people to read what I have written and judging on the winks and the whispers that still come I guess most of them don't even bother to read that! rolleyes

16 Jul 2007

Quote by Dirtygirlie
I told him I didn't do married men

:shock:

Well obviously with good reason I make the odd exception! :rascal:

Quote by meat2pleaseu
I don't do married men either, but i'm sure i could find something for your wife to join me for :rascal:

Trollop! :D
I glad you noticed my best feature wink

17 Jul 2007

Quote by meat2pleaseu
I don't do married men either, but i'm sure i could find something for your wife to join me for :rascal:

Bring it on! :grin:
Fee
XX

17 Jul 2007

Quote by the_Laird

I dont bother with a profile as everyone seems to agree.....nobodys pays the slightest bit of attention to them anyway!

...If when I am seacrhing profiles/ads and people haven't even overwritten the "Insert your text here" bit I assume (rightly or wrongly) that they are not serious or simply cannot be bothered...
I reckon thats two assumptions that are in my experience very wrong. I know many people on here who have neither a viable advert nor a comprehensive profile. I also know that they are genuine, serious about their swinging and can most definately be bothered.
Well, that might work for people who are using the chatrooms or forums to meet people, or who aren't nterested in meeting anyone right now. But if someone writes you a message, or replies to your ad, then surely they should have something on their profile for you to read - I mean - do they think we're telepathic? confused

all the more so if they're going to just send you a wink or "hi you're hot!"
I think it's absolutely safe to assume that anyone who winks at you and then has no profile text, and no pictures is either not genuine, not serious, or genuinely and seriously dumb.
("Oh yeah!" we should reply, "U R HOT! I really liked the style of that wink and your empty profile is turning me on so much, I'm gonna have to find out where CF11 is and travel there and fuck you, without telling my boyfriend. Meet me in the dog and parrot at ")
Erm, ranting aside: we put as much as we can on our profile, both what we want and "the rules" on the bottom. We still get emails from married men but frankly, given the number of people who don't want cheating married men, anyone dumb enough not to lie about that deserves to get ignored. (I mean if you're lying to your life partner then why be honest to a bunch of strangers?)

17 Jul 2007

Quote by tomu

I dont bother with a profile as everyone seems to agree.....nobodys pays the slightest bit of attention to them anyway!

...If when I am seacrhing profiles/ads and people haven't even overwritten the "Insert your text here" bit I assume (rightly or wrongly) that they are not serious or simply cannot be bothered...
I reckon thats two assumptions that are in my experience very wrong. I know many people on here who have neither a viable advert nor a comprehensive profile. I also know that they are genuine, serious about their swinging and can most definately be bothered.
Well, that might work for people who are using the chatrooms or forums to meet people, or who aren't nterested in meeting anyone right now. But if someone writes you a message, or replies to your ad, then surely they should have something on their profile for you to read - I mean - do they think we're telepathic? confused

all the more so if they're going to just send you a wink or "hi you're hot!"
You missed this bit in your edit....

Quote by the_Laird
The beauty of this whole thing is that what works best for some can be so different for others.

17 Jul 2007

Oh yeah, sorry.
*bows respectfully, in the Japanese manner*

19 Jul 2007

Quote by LadyFeeBee

I don't do married men either, but i'm sure i could find something for your wife to join me for :rascal:

Bring it on! :grin:
Fee
XX
It's being brung wink