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How do you no that person you have arranged to meet is Safe?
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Sex God
debs.. any one worth meeting would understand you need for feeling safe.. so would be happy to go along with ANY precautions you feel you need. if they refuse.. they are not worth meeting. i agree that instinct is very important when making plans for meets.. if anything feels even slightly wrong... forget it.
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Quote by Calista
I get to know a few people on MSN and here first then I would neet with them at a munch or other well populated social event .. then and only then would I feel comfortable enough to arrange a private social drink ....
Paranoid? possibly but never had a bad experience yet
C x
Being paranoid is not a bad thing!.
And yes thats sounds good!
But It worries me that we here of such nasty things happening with peeps just relaying on gut intinct!..............as we all no there are some clever peeps around that have studyed the art of chat ..... and time after time we here espelly the vulnerable falling for it
Quote by well_busty_babe
debs.. any one worth meeting would understand you need for feeling safe.. so would be happy to go along with ANY precautions you feel you need. if they refuse.. they are not worth meeting. i agree that instinct is very important when making plans for meets.. if anything feels even slightly wrong... forget it.
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Hello babes
so we have meet in a public place
meet at muches
Get to no them on msn
I have heard of leaving your number with some one and telling them where you are going to meet and ringing them every hour
As a bloke, it's a lot easier to meet strange people because if they try it on, I can just twat them but I can fully understand that it would be a lot more dangerous for a woman meeting somebody alone for the first time.
Let's just say that if I was looking to meet a woman and had managed to get through the screening process of e-mails and MSN, I would be a fool not to let the woman take all the safety steps she needed to to be comfortable.
I guess there's not much fun in meeting a new guy if all you can think about is "OMG, what if he turns awkward?"
The short version of that is that several meets in the company of others is no hardship if you both still fancy the pants off each other.
Let's just say that if I was looking to meet a woman and had managed to get through the screening process of e-mails and MSN, I would be a fool not to let the woman take all the safety steps she needed to to be comfortable.
I guess there's not much fun in meeting a new guy if all you can think about is "OMG, what if he turns awkward?"
The short version of that is that several meets in the company of others is no hardship if you both still fancy the pants off each other.
Sex God
Well i trust my instincts and i also like chatting a lot first too. Im inquisitive and ask a lot of questions and if i trip them up, or they answer in an odd way, then that sets alarm bells ringing.
Also in the past have used a person to call when im safe etc.
Also in the past have used a person to call when im safe etc.
at the minute I am talking with somebody , so far we have spent 3 months chatting via msn, e-mail and telephone, we hope to make a meeting this week, probly meet at a prominent landmark in city center then go to the cafe next door
she is well worth taking all the time with, I dont mind the wait, not when we both know that we have taken all precautions to ensure the safety of each other that is possible. It isnt a lack of trust that makes us take the precautions, if the trust wasnt there we wouldnt even be meeting ffs, but it makes sense to both of us, be safe, be safe, be safe
Most of us practice safe sex all the time, well safe sex starts with a safe meeting
be safe, be happy
she is well worth taking all the time with, I dont mind the wait, not when we both know that we have taken all precautions to ensure the safety of each other that is possible. It isnt a lack of trust that makes us take the precautions, if the trust wasnt there we wouldnt even be meeting ffs, but it makes sense to both of us, be safe, be safe, be safe
Most of us practice safe sex all the time, well safe sex starts with a safe meeting
be safe, be happy
Orgasminator
Very well said Kristof
I think this is the most important topic I've seen raised here and I am glad and reassured to see such a positive response - absolutely safety comes first. You have to feel comfortable before you can begin to think about anything else... which is why a post in one of the forums recently from someone (a guy) saying they wanted to be worried me. is far too serious a matter, and so is all physical violence, in my view, unless that happens to be what turns you on and in that case you know all about the special precautions you need to take. I know 1 woman personally and 1 friend of a friend who've had that terrible experience and it is not a laughing matter, ever.
So if I was up for a meet, the first thing would be to convey that she will be safe with me, and the second is that I need to know that I'll be safe with her and that no-one is going to creep up behind me when I am otherwise engaged. That may be done explicitly, or maybe be implicit non-verbal signals. But it must be done. If you are in any doubt, don't meet.
WW
So if I was up for a meet, the first thing would be to convey that she will be safe with me, and the second is that I need to know that I'll be safe with her and that no-one is going to creep up behind me when I am otherwise engaged. That may be done explicitly, or maybe be implicit non-verbal signals. But it must be done. If you are in any doubt, don't meet.
WW
The bottom line is that it is all down to instinct.
Chatting on MSN enables me suss out the odd balls (no pun)Men who are too pusshy or whos stories just dont sound right dont stand a chance. Im looking for a real person with personality which is far more important than cock size or alleged perfomance id be very warry who of a guy who makes exagerated claims about his performane or equipment.
I would only agree to meet someone when i was ready and then it would have to be a location that i had chosen. Im afraid I dont have time for preliminary meetings so by the time we arrange a rendevous i have to be fairly certain. After saying that id still, almost always insist on coffee or a drink furst , just in case.
As back up my h/b always knows where i am and i normally text him to say that im ok.
Working on these guidlines i have been fortunate enough to meet some really nice men and enjoyed everyone of them!!
Chatting on MSN enables me suss out the odd balls (no pun)Men who are too pusshy or whos stories just dont sound right dont stand a chance. Im looking for a real person with personality which is far more important than cock size or alleged perfomance id be very warry who of a guy who makes exagerated claims about his performane or equipment.
I would only agree to meet someone when i was ready and then it would have to be a location that i had chosen. Im afraid I dont have time for preliminary meetings so by the time we arrange a rendevous i have to be fairly certain. After saying that id still, almost always insist on coffee or a drink furst , just in case.
As back up my h/b always knows where i am and i normally text him to say that im ok.
Working on these guidlines i have been fortunate enough to meet some really nice men and enjoyed everyone of them!!
As a single bloke, I have no problem at all with a woman being a bit paranoid about safety. I ALWAYS ask her where she would like to meet, & make the point that it should be somewhere that she feels safe meeting a stranger. Occasionally a woman has said that she has to ring a friend to let them know she is safe etc. I'm not aware of having known anyone who has suffered the experience of being attacked or , but there must be few things worse than that.
Quote by DeniseBabe
Meet somewhere public. Go with other people. Have same room fun with a group. There are clubs with rest rooms for one on one meetings. Go there with friends and use the rest rooms with the new partner.
In my opinion from what i have seen and heard most people tend to meet up just to say hello on the first meet........ put a face to the name ect. Then go home and discuss how they both felt and arrange further meets if both want to pursue the sex side of it....... failing that if your not attracted it doesnt stop you becoming good mates.
I agree with DenisBabe. I have no problem, in fact prefer "coffee meets" if I haven't previously met someone at a Munch or such like. As most of you know, I live in the truck all week, so quick coffee meets aren't easy for me to arrange other than at short notice as I pass through or park up somewhere near you. That doesn't alter my attitude to coffe meets.
I also think it's a good idea to have someone call you at a given time to see if you're ok; as someone asked me to do recently. It also give you a reason, if needed, to make your excuses and leave the meeting early. (I'm sure you can work that one out).
Brill topic Debs
Great advice DB and have used that one myself. If I meet them somewhere where I see their car, I have a pal who I text with the registration #. Nothing else, just the reg - if he gets a text from me with just that, he knows I'm on the prowl! 
If my body turns up in the Thames 2 days later, he knows who to contact 
Dambuster - do you have your plate in the window of your truck?
If my body turns up in the Thames 2 days later, he knows who to contact Dambuster - do you have your plate in the window of your truck?
Quote by Bloke2005
Dambuster - do you have your plate in the window of your truck?
(Sorry Debs)
Yes I do.I'm too tight to pay to have one of those "number plate" things done.(dambuster is too many letters
)In the the bottom of my windscreen on the offside is a white sign with my old avatar. I'ts also on the back of the trailer near the number plate.
Another hint - My unit is plain white with no logo/livery, the trailer is purple and usually has a mustard couloured shipping container on it :wink:
(I think that's about as much as I can get away with) :wink:
Feel free to
Quote by dambuster
Dambuster - do you have your plate in the window of your truck?
(Sorry Debs)
Yes I do.I'm too tight to pay to have one of those "number plate" things done.(dambuster is too many letters
)In the the bottom of my windscreen on the offside is a white sign with my old avatar. I'ts also on the back of the trailer near the number plate.
Another hint - My unit is plain white with no logo/livery, the trailer is purple and usually has a mustard couloured shipping container on it :wink:
(I think that's about as much as I can get away with) :wink:
Feel free to
Continuing the hi-jack (but no more after this DW, I promise x)
Okay - I'm sure I'll likely bump into you on my travels. And Eagerslut - does he have his name on his plate?
:shock: Judy babes!
I have to admit me self............ but with out going into it all .............that i have had a few bad experiences
:(
its made me very weary now not trusting men!
believe you me i didn't put this post up just for the women.............the men too ........we have all heard of Bunny boilers! :shock: ........no ones taking my rabbit o no
I have to admit me self............ but with out going into it all .............that i have had a few bad experiences
:( its made me very weary now not trusting men!
believe you me i didn't put this post up just for the women.............the men too ........we have all heard of Bunny boilers! :shock: ........no ones taking my rabbit o no
Quote by Debbiewebs
I have heard of leaving your number with some one and telling them where you are going to meet and ringing them every hour
I know it;s a bit like closing the stable door after the proverbial horse has bolted - but I always leave a post-it note on my fridge door with details of where i am. I figure if I don't make it back I'll make it a little easier for the police.
Glad you back Debs
. Now where's my snog!!?? 
Quote by Rainbows
I have heard of leaving your number with some one and telling them where you are going to meet and ringing them every hour
I know it;s a bit like closing the stable door after the proverbial horse has bolted - but I always leave a post-it note on my fridge door with details of where i am. I figure if I don't make it back I'll make it a little easier for the police.
Glad you back Debs
. Now where's my snog!!?? Warming it up for you...but its getting a bit cold here!...........so GET YA ASRE HERE SOON
:wink: 
Sex God
Personally I dont feel safe until way after Silky has done up the handcuffs , and the rohypnol has kicked in properly .
