when no thx !becomes personal

14 Sep 2004

Why do some..( not all ) Single men spit out the dummy when they are told NO SINGLE MALES! Is it a pride thing? dunno

Is It not everyones perogative on whom they desire or wish to swing with? We are all entitled to have our own personal sexual desires! ..So what gets me is why some of them don't understand and seem to take it very personal when told thx but not thx..Should We have to explain why the interest is not there! Personally I don't believe anyone should have to explain their reason."No thx should be enough ! Everyone has their own boundaries and desires. and those boundaries/desires should be repected by others! Perhaps if guilty ones took a leaf out of some of the other guys book s, Get to know Couples well before pressuring them then maybe have a bit more luck! !
Lucy xx
PS ..Plz Note ( Not All Single Guys) before I get lynched for this post

14 Sep 2004

Quote by lucyweebaps
So what gets me is why some of them don't understand and seem to take it very personal when told thx but not thx..

Quite honestly, they should be grateful that you actually respond. Most people just ignore my emails sad

& it makes a nice change when I find someone like yourself with manners... even the people involved don't want to play with me. So credit to you for good manners.

14 Sep 2004

Like HungryP, I take it as grattitude when somebidy replies, even if it just to say No Thank You.
The single men have to be realistic and understand how many 'single men' there are responding to each and every ad Couples Seeking Men or Woman Seeking Men ads - and for those that respond when they don't even meet the crtieria, or they live in London and are responding to an ad from Scotland (with no intention of travelling) - Wake Up!!
Just be patient guys and make your responses stand out, dont be arrogant or pushy and you might get lucky.
This site works, if used properly and you pay people the respect they deserve.

14 Sep 2004

I just have to ad...
NO SINGLE GUYS! AND NO COUPLES EITHER!

14 Sep 2004

I never reply to ad's that say NO SINGLE MALES i can read and understand why can't other guys? confused

Why is it that some guys just want to make a T**T of themselfs, its easy just have respect for what others are looking for and seeking eh!!
On the other hand ladys you could alway put in your ad only single males that take 12" of hard rubber in there ass need apply, that should get rid of afew lol

:lol: :lol: :twisted:
Redshift cool

14 Sep 2004

Quote by redshiftnights
On the other hand ladys you could alway put in your ad only single males that take 12" of hard rubber in there ass need apply, that should get rid of afew :lol: :lol: :twisted:
Redshift

But on the other hand..... I can think of some that would reply :wink:

14 Sep 2004

I am totally with this. I do my level best only to respond to ads where I fit the criteria if at all possible. Saying that, I then find people don't write back but hey, you can't look gorgeous to everyone!
But I do get a LOT of people - especially single bi men - who get in touch with me. On occasions we get talking and it can lead to pleasant times and conversations and so on. However, most of them don't, and they do get really stroppy when they are told no to the inevitable:
Can I have your phone number/your address/my penis wedged into your rectum or whatever else it is they have interpreted 'no single males' to actually mean.
I also get a lot of stick from the same unsolicited people who get quite stroppy when I tell them that actually no, I don't DO anal sex as a receiving party. Not out of any sense of disgust (when I have been able to do so in the past I've enjoyed it) but because right now it is not POSSIBLE for me to do so for medical reasons.
I am totally stumped by precisely how an unsolicited response from a guy who is being very, very pushy can result in HIM being offended because the tranny refuses to bend over and be buggered after a 10 minute conversation.
Is it me, or am I harbouring expectations that are a little bit too high here? Is it wrong to expect people to look on me as more than just a walking hole for their shemale fantasies? Sure, I tend to be flirty but I'm not THAT bad....!
Disgruntled of Surrey, also known as
Dxxx

15 Sep 2004

Quote by lucyweebaps
Why do some..( not all ) Single men spit out the dummy when they are told NO SINGLE MALES! Is it a pride thing?
Lucy xx

Well for some reason the single guys seem to not be able to see the NO SINGLE MALES written on our add us and then seem miffed when we tell them we only meet couples.

15 Sep 2004

Quote by Steve_Lincs
Why do some..( not all ) Single men spit out the dummy when they are told NO SINGLE MALES! Is it a pride thing?
Lucy xx

Well for some reason the single guys seem to not be able to see the NO SINGLE MALES written on our add us and then seem miffed when we tell them we only meet couples.
Same here .. in fact I am so fed up I've deleted my our ad.
Doesn't stop people pming me ..... usually one liners with no information about themselves, just "wittty" one liner that has me rolling on the sofa ... NOT.
I know it's rude but I don't even respond anymore, unless they spend time on the pm and then I will.

15 Sep 2004

its not just when you tell them you dont meet single men.
if you tell them that they personally are not what you are looking for.. they sometimes take it even worse!!!!
look at the nightmare i had last week!!!

15 Sep 2004

i must admit i have pm d peeps when it has said cpls etc i think us single men because we arent in as much demand as single females or cpls. we do pm hoping for a change of mind and heart etc. i am allways well mannered in my pms though and apologise for troubling them etc, however with me a no means exactly like internet stalking other wise. and like these spammers gets right up my only i could find a spammer and meet one in the flesh.

15 Sep 2004

Quote by lucyweebaps
Why do some..( not all ) Single men spit out the dummy when they are told NO SINGLE MALES! Is it a pride thing?
Is It not everyones perogative on whom they desire or wish to swing with? We are all entitled to have our own personal sexual desires! ..So what gets me is why some of them don't understand and seem to take it very personal when told thx but not thx..Should We have to explain why the interest is not there! Personally I don't believe anyone should have to explain their reason."No thx should be enough ! Everyone has their own boundaries and desires. and those boundaries/desires should be repected by others! Perhaps if guilty ones took a leaf out of some of the other guys book s, Get to know Couples well before pressuring them then maybe have a bit more luck! !
Lucy xx
PS ..Plz Note ( Not All Single Guys) before I get lynched for this post

Being a single male, I can't see what the problem is... If an ad says no single males then I don't reply.....Surely it's not that hard to understand is it!!!

15 Sep 2004

That depends on whether you read the text or just look at the pictures... confused

15 Sep 2004

Quote by roger743
That depends on whether you read the text or just look at the pictures...

There's TEXTthere? :shock:
Mal
wink

15 Sep 2004

Quote by lucyweebaps
Why do some..( not all ) Single men spit out the dummy when they are told NO SINGLE MALES! Is it a pride thing?
Is It not everyones perogative on whom they desire or wish to swing with? We are all entitled to have our own personal sexual desires! ..So what gets me is why some of them don't understand and seem to take it very personal when told thx but not thx..Should We have to explain why the interest is not there! Personally I don't believe anyone should have to explain their reason."No thx should be enough ! Everyone has their own boundaries and desires. and those boundaries/desires should be repected by others! Perhaps if guilty ones took a leaf out of some of the other guys book s, Get to know Couples well before pressuring them then maybe have a bit more luck!
Lucy xx
PS ..Plz Note ( Not All Single Guys) before I get lynched for this post

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I'm a single guy and I never reply to ads. that say no single men, what is the point?
however, I am a single straight guy, so I have no chance at all, the single bi/guys do get opportunities sometimes, so what have they to moan about?

15 Sep 2004

For a guy to reply to an ad that specifies "NO SINGLE MEN" he is being ignorant of the wishes of the advertisers.
On the other hand I have seen ads where it doesn't specify "NO SINGLE MEN" and the approach there must be to ASK POLITELY if they meet with single guys and don't just assume that they do. Afterall if you don't ask you don't get...
Manners cost nothing but there value is great!
my ad 82788

15 Sep 2004

If the ad says no single guys, then there is a reason for the exclusion.
Politeness costs nothing, and not respecting the wish of the advertiser cant be considered good manners....
My 1st post, and im condemning myself already redface

15 Sep 2004

I used to say no thanks to many of the replies I got. Sometimes there's just too many to reply to them all, but if I think someone has put a bit of effort into a reply I would always acknowledge that by saying thanks but no thanks if they weren't for me. However, in my last round of ads, I'm sorry to say I haven't replied to any that I didn't instantly fancy. The reason is I'm sick of it leading to a conversation where the guy tries to persuade me to change my mind rolleyes

, some don't become abusive until a few emails into the conversation, and I haven't the time to be bothered. Sorry! sad

I'm not saying I will never go back to my thanks but no thanks routine, but that's the way it is at the mo :roll:

15 Sep 2004

Quote by Richie469
For a guy to reply to an ad that specifies "NO SINGLE MEN" he is being ignorant of the wishes of the advertisers.
On the other hand I have seen ads where it doesn't specify "NO SINGLE MEN" and the approach there must be to ASK POLITELY if they meet with single guys and don't just assume that they do. Afterall if you don't ask you don't get...
Manners cost nothing but there value is great!
my ad 82788

I agree with with you in a sense Richie.." don't ask don't get" I personally don't have a problem with guys asking.. It's when they persist to say the least! and start to slag you off!!.. When they are told no Thx. In no way are we against single men as we have a lot of single friends in here (guys). But the ones with manners and respect are the one we would consider when the time is right for MMF..
lucy xxxxxxxxx