Let's look into this response a bit closer:
"'This is a swing site not find a mate"
This is true, although it's entirely up to each of us how we use the broad scope the site affords us.
i'm not into granny sex
Is this not an attempted humorous (though not very funny) reference to you putting your age as 108? (Not that I can talk, I'm 2010!)
"but hole is goal no matter how slack."
Yes, offensive, but doesn't it reflect more upon himself and his own attitude than upon you, as he is acknowledging that you don't want to meet him?
"Happy trawling"
Nothing offensive there - people regularly refer to "trawling the ads", or profiles.
Maybe it's more a sort of frustrated self-deprecating irony than insulting to you. Not that I would ever write anything like that.
Respond thus...."I don't know if you've ever read the book M.A.S.H.,but I have recently developed epilepsy and find that my fits are brought on when I'm in a heightened state of arousal...as yet I haven't found a man able to last for more than two minutes of my bucking and moaning,I did have my hopes for you but it appears you are to remain untested"
thats what you get for being polite and answering them......
everytime we say no thanks they just go on and on....
i think this place should have a hall of shame. it would probably force some people to behave better to each other.
he probably wouldn't say that to you if it was in a bar but because it's the net...
most people don't even have the courtesy to reply. he should count himself lucky.
I think it's polite to reply and when we have been turned down we generally reply with our appreciation for the other couples frank and honest reply.
When we turn others down we try to do it respectfully and have never really had an issue.
However we have one exception which is single guys, and that is because it's not on our list of interests, so if people cannot be bothered to read our profile then we see no reason to respond.
The same would apply to any couple who wanted to put the female into an all male gangbang, we make it quite clear what we like and so only tend to respond to those that make an effort to read our profile.
But I suppose some single guys ride their luck and if the polite approach does not work they feel they can insult or bully their way into a bed instead, i suppose once turned down they feel they have little to lose.