I was asked, right out there in the office, "Are you a swinger?"
So what did I say? "Yes, there is no good music about now."
Yes I know, but I did not lie, and no way was I going to say "Yes, do you want a fuck?"
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When you are asked "Are you a swinger?"
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Quote by Kaznkev
jd,never make assumptions on this site!
we have only been asked outright once,it wasnt a work situation,we said yes,its not something to be ashamed off and we both hate lies
Can I have your bank account details and PIN number please?
Some questions do not need to be answered as it is personal and just because people ask it does not need to be answered. I am not ashamed of being a swinger and I also hate lies, but if someone asked me if I was a swinger I would decline to answer as it is personal to me and has nothing to do with them at all.
Dave_Notts
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Quote by Dave__Notts
jd,never make assumptions on this site!
we have only been asked outright once,it wasnt a work situation,we said yes,its not something to be ashamed off and we both hate lies
Can I have your bank account details and PIN number please?
Some questions do not need to be answered as it is personal and just because people ask it does not need to be answered. I am not ashamed of being a swinger and I also hate lies, but if someone asked me if I was a swinger I would decline to answer as it is personal to me and has nothing to do with them at all.
Dave_Notts
and they would then know your a swinger
I have never been asked.
If the questioner is the one person I love who doesnt already know I would answer truthfully that I like to indulge in recreational sex with one or more people other than minx (I really dont like labels they give such the wrong ideas). If the questioner were anybody else I would decide why they were enquiring and either explain why their question was unwarranted or unwelcome or chat about what I choose to do as appropriate.
If the questioner is the one person I love who doesnt already know I would answer truthfully that I like to indulge in recreational sex with one or more people other than minx (I really dont like labels they give such the wrong ideas). If the questioner were anybody else I would decide why they were enquiring and either explain why their question was unwarranted or unwelcome or chat about what I choose to do as appropriate.
Warming the Bed
what he said "fuck all to do with anyone" its private, hate labels
I tell people if I am good and ready and if they are important enough to know.
Everyone i consider to be important knows in my life:- my son , friends, dad. Three work colleagues. I would talk about it, if it came up in context. I am generally quite a private person though and I wouldn't seek to share my personal life with anyone.
Everyone i consider to be important knows in my life:- my son , friends, dad. Three work colleagues. I would talk about it, if it came up in context. I am generally quite a private person though and I wouldn't seek to share my personal life with anyone.
Quote by Kaznkev
jd,never make assumptions on this site!
we have only been asked outright once,it wasnt a work situation,we said yes,its not something to be ashamed off and we both hate lies
....but would you have if it was a person you did not trust at work?
oh then id find some way to avoid answering, i should have made clear that the person who asked was an old friend,who was asking out of genuine interest
re the labels comment,indeed our converstion quickly moved on to how we hated the term swinger,and more considered ourselves a couple with attitudes towards monogomy that differ from the accepted norm...but swinger is a big catch all label. Convenient, but not always useful.
Sex God
It would all depend on who was asking the question ...
If it was my Mum then I'd deny all knowledge as she is a total prude and would refuse to ever babysit for me again!!
Some of my vanilla friends know some of what we do as does my sister and one of the girls I share an office with looks forward to the days when we are both in the office together as she is very intrigued by our way of life ... I'm just waiting for her to ask to come along to a club with us!! :twisted:
I hate lies but feel there is a time and a place for avoiding answering some questions, I often use humour as an avoidance technique!!
If it was my Mum then I'd deny all knowledge as she is a total prude and would refuse to ever babysit for me again!!
Some of my vanilla friends know some of what we do as does my sister and one of the girls I share an office with looks forward to the days when we are both in the office together as she is very intrigued by our way of life ... I'm just waiting for her to ask to come along to a club with us!! :twisted:
I hate lies but feel there is a time and a place for avoiding answering some questions, I often use humour as an avoidance technique!!
Sex God
Swinging? Whats that?
Always act a bit daft when anyone talks about it, and although I never admit to anything, I also never deny anything. I have only been asked outright once and replied with 'chance would be a fine thing' which stopped any further questions.
I am not embarraised but also think it is nothing to do with anyone else, so unless I am actually interested in them, why should I bother telling them
Always act a bit daft when anyone talks about it, and although I never admit to anything, I also never deny anything. I have only been asked outright once and replied with 'chance would be a fine thing' which stopped any further questions.
I am not embarraised but also think it is nothing to do with anyone else, so unless I am actually interested in them, why should I bother telling them
Sex God
Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
Swinging? Whats that?
Always act a bit daft when anyone talks about it, and although I never admit to anything, I also never deny anything. I have only been asked outright once and replied with 'chance would be a fine thing' which stopped any further questions.
I am not embarraised but also think it is nothing to do with anyone else, so unless I am actually interested in them, why should I bother telling them
Quote by Thebonediggers
I was aked outright at a recent school reunion...because someone my hubs trusted blabbed.....I feigned horror and said nope...you must be mistaken....Im a chatline girl!!
Looking at the above two quotes thats exactly the way to go if you are being asked. If you go down the route of avoiding the question or along the line of its not anything I want to discuss then you are as good as saying yes I am a swinger. Put it this way, if I asked the question and the question was avoided or dismissed as not really my business then I would leave the room knowing you were
Ive been asked the question, had to deny it flat out as bullshit. I can only think of one personal friend who wouldn't give a shit but I still choose not to tell them. Work colleagues probably wouldn't mind but the jokes would be endless so they dont know either. In fact in our world, no one knows.
Sex God
would depend on who was asking
a friend asked once well kinda hinted he knew and i never really denied it and we now talk about it openly in fact ended up talking bout it with another friend of his and got teased mercilessly with now the nick name of casper (think about it)
whereas a collegue kinda asked in a round about way and i just laughed it off and claimed i was too jealous for such things (if only she knew ) but not through shame just purely because i know she is such a gossip that if she knew so would every client that walked through the door too
a friend asked once well kinda hinted he knew and i never really denied it and we now talk about it openly in fact ended up talking bout it with another friend of his and got teased mercilessly with now the nick name of casper (think about it)
whereas a collegue kinda asked in a round about way and i just laughed it off and claimed i was too jealous for such things (if only she knew
) but not through shame just purely because i know she is such a gossip that if she knew so would every client that walked through the door too When I was single and meeting on my own my Mum thought I was on a dating site, it got a bit akward when my aunt was asking which one coz she`d like to sign up too as I seemed to be meeting quite a few nice men, blimey I soon steered that conversation away :eeek:
A few work friends know what we do and have even been on the site themselves, I work predominently with men so I`m used to the banter and getting ribbed anyway, but we don`t swap partners so I`m not sure if I`d label myself or BMW as "swingers" in the true sense of the word anyway, so if I did deny it that would be the truth, its win win for us :giggle:
A few work friends know what we do and have even been on the site themselves, I work predominently with men so I`m used to the banter and getting ribbed anyway, but we don`t swap partners so I`m not sure if I`d label myself or BMW as "swingers" in the true sense of the word anyway, so if I did deny it that would be the truth, its win win for us :giggle:
Sex God
Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
Swinging? Whats that?
Always act a bit daft when anyone talks about it, and although I never admit to anything, I also never deny anything. I have only been asked outright once and replied with 'chance would be a fine thing' which stopped any further questions.
I am not embarraised but also think it is nothing to do with anyone else, so unless I am actually interested in them, why should I bother telling them
So..............Are you a swinger ;-)
Sex God
Never been asked, but likely would just say no.
I would be quite happy to be voted "least likely to swing" by my colleagues.
I would be quite happy to be voted "least likely to swing" by my colleagues.
Was asked outright once at a party while I was on a 'nilla date with someone (not the person asking). I smiled sweetly and answered "Been there, done that, thrown away the teeshirt"
Did lead to a lot of "discusions" when we got back to the date's house, however he wasnt a 'nill for much longer :twisted:
Did lead to a lot of "discusions" when we got back to the date's house, however he wasnt a 'nill for much longer :twisted:
Sexlightened
Im never asked may be I just so discreet, or just have no friends
Oooooohhh. What a bugger of a situation.
As far as I'm concerned it's a don't ask don't tell situation. And has been for quite a while, both for work reasons and because explaining it to my mam would be like teaching St Hild to parallel park.
In a past life I used to end up in people's homes or discussing their domestic circumstances as part of my work. I don't think some husbands would have been comfortable with a promiscuous man calling on their wives, even if they knew I had strict rules about not shagging clients.
So I tend to act daft about the specifics while sticking to my firmly held theoretical belief that the state has no business messing about with people's sex lives, and that privacy and prurience are incompatible concepts that explain precisely why we have the worst tabloid press in the world.
As far as I'm concerned it's a don't ask don't tell situation. And has been for quite a while, both for work reasons and because explaining it to my mam would be like teaching St Hild to parallel park.
In a past life I used to end up in people's homes or discussing their domestic circumstances as part of my work. I don't think some husbands would have been comfortable with a promiscuous man calling on their wives, even if they knew I had strict rules about not shagging clients.
So I tend to act daft about the specifics while sticking to my firmly held theoretical belief that the state has no business messing about with people's sex lives, and that privacy and prurience are incompatible concepts that explain precisely why we have the worst tabloid press in the world.
Sex God
My sex life is no-one's business but my own (and my partners of course). But if someone were to ask - in the context of a sensible conversation of course - are you gay? I would probably answer with the truth. The same with 'are you a swinger?'. It would depend on the context and the person asking. I'm certainly not ashamed of my life-choices, nor am I in a job where it would matter. But equally I wouldn't bring it up. Mostly for the sake of not embarrassing the other person.
