Never in a million years did I expect to find the one person that sets my soul alight here on Swinging Heaven. When I first joined this website - almost a year ago now - I was a happy, confident, carefree individual and that aspect of my character hasn't changed - if anything it's been enriched and enhanced. But an individual I am no more.
I have met some wonderful people - and had a few hiccups along the way too, but that's to be expected. What happened 8 short weeks ago changed my life forever however.
My soulmate became known to me.
In this place of all places, she made herself known and we have gone from strength to strength from that day to this..
I am the happiest I have been for a long long time and even though most people now know that Leedslass is fighting cancer it does not change the fact that we met and fell in love in here.
The reason for this post is to ask anyone else here:
Have you met your soulmate through swinging or swinging heaven?
What has this lifestyle done for you? ... in a positive way please. no negativity on this thread would be nice.
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and keep fighting leedslass xxxxSorry to say this, Wishy, but I met my soul mate ( smoking muff ) long before either of us started swinging - but we had always had an open attitude to sex ( despite strong matriarcal homes with heavy religious tendencies ) with her being more open in a practical sense and me being more theoretical, but over time she has shown me the way and left me to do it if I chose.
What worked ( and still does ) for us, is we spent over six years together before we had any outside sexual relations - and for the greater part of that time there was a lot of talking between us. This means IMHO that we trust each other implicitly - she may fuck other people, just as I may do, but at the end of the night, she is in my arms, just as mine are holding her.
In short, we had a very strong foundation, and anything we do now strengthens our relationship, for me that is my ( sexual, at least ) definition of soul mate. It is so fantastic to have, that I am delighted for you that you have found your soul mate ( current problems and strains not with standing, Wishy ) - and if I had 3 wishes from a genie, then letting everyone in the world to have their soulmate for the rest of their lives, would be more use than world peace.
Sorry for the ramble.
What worked ( and still does ) for us, is we spent over six years together before we had any outside sexual relations - and for the greater part of that time there was a lot of talking between us. This means IMHO that we trust each other implicitly - she may fuck other people, just as I may do, but at the end of the night, she is in my arms, just as mine are holding her.
In short, we had a very strong foundation, and anything we do now strengthens our relationship, for me that is my ( sexual, at least ) definition of soul mate. It is so fantastic to have, that I am delighted for you that you have found your soul mate ( current problems and strains not with standing, Wishy ) - and if I had 3 wishes from a genie, then letting everyone in the world to have their soulmate for the rest of their lives, would be more use than world peace.
Sorry for the ramble.
:wave: :wave: :wave: :wave:Quote by smokerjim
Sorry to say this, Wishy, but I met my soul mate ( smoking muff ) long before either of us started swinging - but we had always had an open attitude to sex ( despite strong matriarcal homes with heavy religious tendencies ) with her being more open in a practical sense and me being more theoretical, but over time she has shown me the way and left me to do it if I chose.
What worked ( and still does ) for us, is we spent over six years together before we had any outside sexual relations - and for the greater part of that time there was a lot of talking between us. This means IMHO that we trust each other implicitly - she may fuck other people, just as I may do, but at the end of the night, she is in my arms, just as mine are holding her.
In short, we had a very strong foundation, and anything we do now strengthens our relationship, for me that is my ( sexual, at least ) definition of soul mate. It is so fantastic to have, that I am delighted for you that you have found your soul mate ( current problems and strains not with standing, Wishy ) - and if I had 3 wishes from a genie, then letting everyone in the world to have their soulmate for the rest of their lives, would be more use than world peace.
Sorry for the ramble.
You no after meet you 2.............. a few times now........... you have made my relation ship stonger with Mr Debs..you to have given me strath that i never new i had!....
i love you to so much
come here and gives a snog
and wishy many a time we have had a luagh............ i am so bloody pleased for you you wouldent beleave!
so you come here and let me give you a hug
assionkiss: Debs in a huggy mood tonight because even though you have been in a relaship as long as us some things till need working on......................... and things are moveing on for the better...............
bloody hell i am woffeling now :doh:
:dunno: :dunno:To love and be loved by that person in return.......... totally, completely and unconditionally... is the most amazing thing in the whole world..................
To know that they would do anything for you... and you would do the same for them... no matter what...
Sharing lifes' emotional roller-coaster and having more memories together than two people should be able to keep...
To look back on your life and be able to say... you are my world.... then, now and forever.................................
Congratulations Wishmaster and Leedslass.....
equi-princess xxx
To know that they would do anything for you... and you would do the same for them... no matter what...
Sharing lifes' emotional roller-coaster and having more memories together than two people should be able to keep...
To look back on your life and be able to say... you are my world.... then, now and forever.................................
Congratulations Wishmaster and Leedslass.....
equi-princess xxx
Quote by smokerjim
Sorry to say this, Wishy, but I met my soul mate ( smoking muff ) long before either of us started swinging - but we had always had an open attitude to sex ( despite strong matriarcal homes with heavy religious tendencies ) with her being more open in a practical sense and me being more theoretical, but over time she has shown me the way and left me to do it if I chose.
What worked ( and still does ) for us, is we spent over six years together before we had any outside sexual relations - and for the greater part of that time there was a lot of talking between us. This means IMHO that we trust each other implicitly - she may fuck other people, just as I may do, but at the end of the night, she is in my arms, just as mine are holding her.
In short, we had a very strong foundation, and anything we do now strengthens our relationship, for me that is my ( sexual, at least ) definition of soul mate. It is so fantastic to have, that I am delighted for you that you have found your soul mate ( current problems and strains not with standing, Wishy ) - and if I had 3 wishes from a genie, then letting everyone in the world to have their soulmate for the rest of their lives, would be more use than world peace.
Sorry for the ramble.
Hey, no sweat SmokerJim!
I think the amount of time spent together before realising that your partner is your soulmate is irrelevant ...... some people find it hard to expose their emotions enough to let another under their skin. Fortunately for me, I'm not that kind of person at all.... the glass is always half full and we realised very quickly what we had between us was something very special.
I do believe in fate & destiny and that things, events & people are placed in our path throughout our lives for a reason - our past moulds us into what we will become in the future as we are all a sum total of our experiences.
You mention the word 'trust' and I believe it is the fundamental principle of understanding between two people sharing themselves with each other and, in this lifestyle, with other people, that enables them to move forward and grow together. Once that trust is broken it is gone forever as the innocence of believing in someone completely that you have during the first heady days of a relationship is shattered irrepairably. I'm not saying that couples can't overcome day-to-day problems together but I am saying that the deep trust in each other that we develop is very powerful and when it gets broken it is deeply wounding. True soulmates never face this problem.
Thanks for making me think at 7am lol...
Sex God
That was so lovely to read Wishy
brought a tear to my eye god bless you both
maybe one day for me, who knows
brought a tear to my eye god bless you both
maybe one day for me, who knows
Sex God
I thought i had.... how wrong can u be??
It won't be known to many of you but the guy i started seeing bk at the end of feb mailed me thru SH...
We got on great.... things blossomed.... i fell madly in love with him.... then BANG!!!!
All gone.....
:cry:
It won't be known to many of you but the guy i started seeing bk at the end of feb mailed me thru SH...
We got on great.... things blossomed.... i fell madly in love with him.... then BANG!!!!
All gone.....
:cry:
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well wishy i am so pleased for you both xxx
good luck to leedslass in her struggle xxxxxxxx prayers are with you both xxx
as some of you may know i met a lovely fella on this site and we fell in love, totaly and unexpected. this progressed into a very deep and trusting relationship and although he is away at the moment he will be with me always he is my rock and my one true love. our lives are all the richer for being together and i concider myself one lucky woman.
life throws some un expected bonus's at you sometimes from places you never ever expected. take them in both hands and enjoy and be honest with yourself and each other.
enough of my sentimental feelings
good luck to leedslass in her struggle xxxxxxxx prayers are with you both xxx
as some of you may know i met a lovely fella on this site and we fell in love, totaly and unexpected. this progressed into a very deep and trusting relationship and although he is away at the moment he will be with me always he is my rock and my one true love. our lives are all the richer for being together and i concider myself one lucky woman.
life throws some un expected bonus's at you sometimes from places you never ever expected. take them in both hands and enjoy and be honest with yourself and each other.
enough of my sentimental feelings
Warming the Bed
Some really positive stories there - 
made up for all of you who have managed to find what they have been looking for - in this world we live in :twisted:
To Miss Gullable - well I am sorry to here you lost you hearts desire, but as they say
Its better to love and lost, than to never love at all
Each and everyone of us is dealt a hand and we must do with them what we can. Maybe Gullable the next shoe(as in card shoe) will deal you a better hand.
made up for all of you who have managed to find what they have been looking for - in this world we live in :twisted: To Miss Gullable - well I am sorry to here you lost you hearts desire, but as they say
Its better to love and lost, than to never love at all
Each and everyone of us is dealt a hand and we must do with them what we can. Maybe Gullable the next shoe(as in card shoe) will deal you a better hand.
Quote by LilMissGullable
I thought i had.... how wrong can u be??
It won't be known to many of you but the guy i started seeing bk at the end of feb mailed me thru SH...
We got on great.... things blossomed.... i fell madly in love with him.... then BANG!!!!
All gone.....
:cry:
Then your soul-mate has yet to find you....... i wish you well...... hugs and kisses....
equi-princess xxx
Sex God
I don’t know about having met my soul mate on here, but I think I am fairly close, and with a good friendship I have from a certain person .
Recently when I was in hospital I named him as my next of kin and responsible adult, and by doing this I put him in a position that should something have gone wrong with my operation or recovery, he may have to have made a decision one way or the other about my life, and what’s more I would have trusted his decision totally.
Now if that is not having a soul mate / good friend, I’m not too sure what is.
(I’m glad to say I’m fully recovered)
Leedslass, thinking of you.
Recently when I was in hospital I named him as my next of kin and responsible adult, and by doing this I put him in a position that should something have gone wrong with my operation or recovery, he may have to have made a decision one way or the other about my life, and what’s more I would have trusted his decision totally.
Now if that is not having a soul mate / good friend, I’m not too sure what is.
(I’m glad to say I’m fully recovered)
Leedslass, thinking of you.
Warming the Bed
dambuster Posted: Thu Aug 04, 2005 8:35 am Post subject:
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Good luck to both Wishy.
swmfl2003 wrote:
Its better to love and lost, than to never love at all
Got the say tho' - ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ that is such utter bollocks. Right up there with
"Expect the unexpected"
and
"All things in moderation"
Well I don't agree mate - obviously
The comment I posted is about having experienced that emotion of love. Thus you know how it feels and strive to get that same feeling back. How sad would it be to go through ones life not ever feeling Love or any other emotion.
@ Marm's & Dammie .....I don't know that I believe in soulmates ....
once thought I'd found mine but he turned out to be a bad 'un.I swore that I'd never get married and yet when I met Morbius, I "knew" he as the one and we are so happy ... we have our struggles, but we pick each other up and dust each other down as and when needed, I trust him with my life and that of my children, I know he's there for me when I need him, and even when I'm not with him thinking of him cheers me up. I still miss him like mad when we're not together and sex ... :contented sigh: well he knows exactly which buttons to press :twisted:
Soulmate .. who knows
: ..... best friend ... absolutely :thumbup: Cx
Quote by Calista
I don't know that I believe in soulmates ....
I swore that I'd never get married and yet when I met Morbius, I "knew" he as the one and we are so happy ... we have our struggles, but we pick each other up and dust each other down as and when needed, I trust him with my life and that of my children, I know he's there for me when I need him, and even when I'm not with him thinking of him cheers me up. I still miss him like mad when we're not together and sex ... :contented sigh: well he knows exactly which buttons to press :twisted:
Soulmate .. who knows
Cx
Nice one Calista! .. it's more of a feeling than a descriptive name ..... I call it soulmate .. you call it best friend.... sure your best friend could be a member of the same sex but I'm referring to that significant other that you share your bed with as well as your life.
I'm glad you have found yours however you refer to him.
Sex God
Awwwwwww..... nice thread Wishy 
At SH I think I have met a friend for every occassion :shock:
. Taking the sexual side of the site away and leaving just the "community" element I am still continually surprised and amazed by the strength of some of the friendships that I have seen develop on here. I know if I was ever in need of a friend I could find them on here....... OH YES YOU WILL BE MY FRIEND OR I WILL BAN YOU... BAN YOU ALL, DO YOU HEAR! :rotflmao: :rotflmao: .
BE MY FRIEND .... NOW!
I'm not sure I really do believe in the term "soulmate", I am a complicated character... :lol2: ... I don't think I could find someone who could match me soul for soul. Anyways, I sold my soul to some queer geezer down a back alley for a bag of chips and a veggie burger years ago, so I am now totally lost........
HELP ME.............. I'M LOSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSST...............
OK, yeah, I'm still a bit pissed from last night. No idea what this post is about. I promise not to drive a tonka toy or operate machinery til I feel better! :grin:
At SH I think I have met a friend for every occassion :shock:
. Taking the sexual side of the site away and leaving just the "community" element I am still continually surprised and amazed by the strength of some of the friendships that I have seen develop on here. I know if I was ever in need of a friend I could find them on here....... OH YES YOU WILL BE MY FRIEND OR I WILL BAN YOU... BAN YOU ALL, DO YOU HEAR! :rotflmao: :rotflmao: . BE MY FRIEND .... NOW!
I'm not sure I really do believe in the term "soulmate", I am a complicated character... :lol2: ... I don't think I could find someone who could match me soul for soul. Anyways, I sold my soul to some queer geezer down a back alley for a bag of chips and a veggie burger years ago, so I am now totally lost........
HELP ME.............. I'M LOSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSST...............
OK, yeah, I'm still a bit pissed from last night. No idea what this post is about. I promise not to drive a tonka toy or operate machinery til I feel better! :grin:
Quote by bluexxx
Awwwwwww..... nice thread Wishy
At SH I think I have met a friend for every occassion :shock:
BE MY FRIEND .... NOW!
I'm not sure I really do believe in the term "soulmate", I am a complicated character... :lol2: ... I don't think I could find someone who could match me soul for soul. Anyways, I sold my soul to some queer geezer down a back alley for a bag of chips and a veggie burger years ago, so I am now totally lost........
HELP ME.............. I'M LOSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSST...............
OK, yeah, I'm still a bit pissed from last night. No idea what this post is about. I promise not to drive a tonka toy or operate machinery til I feel better! :grin:
Omg.... now i'm scared......... lol
I am your friend.... honestly........
equi-princess xxx
