Where do I find Mr Right

7 Jan 2007

Quote by PoloLady

I think that's a tad unfair on the 'guys' who actually do just come here for "shags" ...
... at the end of the day, this is a swinging sex site ...

:thumbup:

Quote by jaymar
...it seems unfair to say men are happy to shag a swinger if you are happy to shag the male.

I would go further than that... It is a unfair for anyone to shag some poor guy/gal under the pretence of being a swinger, if what you actually want is a relationship with him/her (and are then going to complain that you haven't been invited round to meet their parents).
I have seen where that sort of thing ends up too many times on here rolleyes

Yep
We've seen that as well. Messy.
I have absolutely no problem with
a) Those who see this site as nothing more than a shagging site
b) Those who see it as a place to socialise with (mostly) liberal minded people
c) Those who see it as a mixture of both
or
d) Those who think they can find everlasting love through swinging
This site is obviously different to different people.
Because someone thinks of it in category a) they seem to get quickly put down by those who see it as category b) and so on and so forth.
Basically put, it is what it is to you and you'll make it work that way for you. Others are different. Have the decency to respect and tolerate that difference if you will but try and stay off your fuckin' soapbox.
It's just going round in circles
confused

7 Jan 2007

I have a good reply to your questions in my head Goose-if I can find a way of getting it to my fingers I will post it confused

7 Jan 2007

There's also a sort of mid-way feeling that you sometimes get, when you are aware that an "intimate friend" of yours is playing with someone else - you have no relationship as such with this person, (apart from being friends), and that suits both of you - but it still stings to know about it.
Or is that just me?

8 Jan 2007

There's also a sort of mid-way feeling that you sometimes get, when you are aware that an "intimate friend" of yours is playing with someone else - you have no relationship as such with this person, (apart from being friends), and that suits both of you - but it still stings to know about it.
Or is that just me?
Isnt this part of what makes us human?
i cant speak from experience yet cos ive never shared anyone whilst ive been in a 'relationship' (careful use of the R word there, means different things to different peeeps..im learning), but if i was intimate with a couple or single on a regualr basis and i found they were also seeing others, i can imagain how i would feel too

8 Jan 2007

Quote by the_Laird

I think that's a tad unfair on the 'guys' who actually do just come here for "shags" ...
... at the end of the day, this is a swinging sex site ...

:thumbup:

Quote by jaymar
...it seems unfair to say men are happy to shag a swinger if you are happy to shag the male.

I would go further than that... It is a unfair for anyone to shag some poor guy/gal under the pretence of being a swinger, if what you actually want is a relationship with him/her (and are then going to complain that you haven't been invited round to meet their parents).
I have seen where that sort of thing ends up too many times on here rolleyes

Yep
We've seen that as well. Messy.
I have absolutely no problem with
a) Those who see this site as nothing more than a shagging site
b) Those who see it as a place to socialise with (mostly) liberal minded people
c) Those who see it as a mixture of both
or
d) Those who think they can find everlasting love through swinging
This site is obviously different to different people.
Because someone thinks of it in category a) they seem to get quickly put down by those who see it as category b) and so on and so forth.
Basically put, it is what it is to you and you'll make it work that way for you. Others are different. Have the decency to respect and tolerate that difference if you will but try and stay off your fuckin' soapbox.
It's just going round in circles
confused

Can't you find that thing I wrote before that you agreed with about people saying what they want? :roll:
I'm too lazy to look lol

8 Jan 2007

Someone is friendly with the search button wink

cheers

Quote by the_Laird

the sad thing is, the geek in me, saw the title, and thought it was a computer thing, and you was asking how to add files to something

You're not on your own there... but it took me this long to have a look redface

We are all here to do what we are all here to do... the only real rules in my book are...
1 - Be honest with the people you come in contact with about what you want and why you are here.
2 - Be honest with yourself about why you are doing it.
3 - Only do what you are happy to do.
A truer word never spoken PL
:thumbup:

8 Jan 2007

Quote by Geminifemale
Thanks Amber
I keep getting lied to and dumped on by men so often i just expect it every time i chat to some one new,
its happened again this morning, i got a message in faceparty, read his profile hes real cute and no nonsense, says hes in west mids etc
messaged him on msn and hes in london but was seeing someone last yr in the mids, which leads me to think he was two timing her cos he advertised while he was with her, he only had one word answers to all my questions and asked to see sexy pix straight away, so i told him im not into pic collectors and hes not bothered if we dont talk again
I either attract peeps like him who are so up their own asses or sad fat old perves who think they are gods gift to young girls
its just so unfair, im in the prime of my life and its passing me by
some peeps think i try too hard, so i back off and dont try at all and there is no difference
And fellas, please dont think its just you cos gay women are just as bad if not worse.......men should know how dippy women are and i agree......me excepted of course !!

Up our own asses or sad fat old perves..that's us men then lol!
Don't expect it in five minutes Gemini - maybe six - but in time you will find a lot of good people here on SH, single men, single women and couples, a good few of them have responded on this very thread already.
smile

8 Jan 2007

Quote by Geminifemale
Where do I find Mr Right?

HTH :giggle:

8 Jan 2007

I'm almost certain he's a general manager in a Happy Eater on the M4.
Mind you as he's about to lose his job, he's more almost right.
wink

8 Jan 2007

Quote by Geminifemale
..lesbian women are the biggest bunch of head fucks and timewasters...

Really?
Mrs Kiss seems perfectly fine to me. evil

Then again she's put up with me for 5 years! confused

8 Jan 2007

Quote by Geminifemale
There's also a sort of mid-way feeling that you sometimes get, when you are aware that an "intimate friend" of yours is playing with someone else - you have no relationship as such with this person, (apart from being friends), and that suits both of you - but it still stings to know about it.
Or is that just me?

Isnt this part of what makes us human?
i cant speak from experience yet cos ive never shared anyone whilst ive been in a 'relationship' (careful use of the R word there, means different things to different peeeps..im learning), but if i was intimate with a couple or single on a regualr basis and i found they were also seeing others, i can imagain how i would feel too
If you get jealous about people that you have played with moving on and playing with other people then you have to seriously consider whether swinging is really for you. confused

8 Jan 2007

Quote by PoloLady
Can't you find that thing I wrote before that you agreed with about people saying what they want?

Not sure what the :roll: is for PL.
If people are honest with potential play mates about their wants then you'll know how they view the site and what they are looking for from it.
That would save all the mess which we have both witnessed.
My point was to those who sit on either side of the fence and constantly decry others for their reasons for being on here ie. the "it's purely a swingers shagging site" vs "the get yourself known on the social scene brigade"
You're not a soap-boxer for the "cause" are you? dunno

8 Jan 2007

Quote by the_Laird
You're not a soap-boxer for the "cause" are you?

That depends what "cause" wink

8 Jan 2007

C'mon Scandal
My response was to a post that had progressed from the initial thread and was perfectly valid so why edit it in such a way dunno

you know my response was not to Geminifemale's original question confused

You and I both know how people get annoyed with the apparent higher moral stance that "our way is the right way to swing" evokes.
But here's a thing, is there any difference, other than which side of the fence you are on, between that being spouted ad nauseum and the equally droning lecture of "this is only a swinging site".
It just seems quite arrogant on both parts.
Maybe it's just me, but I still go with the fact that it means what it means to whoever it means it to.

8 Jan 2007

I'm still waitin for minxies reply lol

8 Jan 2007

Quote by the_Laird
Maybe it's just me, but I still go with the fact that it means what it means to whoever it means it to.

:thumbup:
Thats what makes it so good ............ It can be all things to all people!
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