Where do u begin again?

3 Oct 2006

: Having read very similar posts about broken hearts etc. I am going thru the same scenario now bcos of my wife of 12 years etc. Apparently Ive become surplus to requirements along with a slight age difference. Im older in numbers only not actions. Most clubs etc in my area cater for kids etc, not people of my age. I have spent the last 12yrs enclosed in family life without keeping a circle of male friends or indeed female friends. Then why should I have done that when all I needed was at home. My problem is where and how does one start to rebuild a life, to socialise again. A pub is the wrong place to go but what is the right place. Because as someone else has said likfe is so f....g lonely at the moment.
Dont know if this is the right place to post this quest but you all seem very nice helpful, considerate people.
Thanks BJME

4 Oct 2006

Sorry to hear you're going through it too hunni. A year ago today my hubby left and Monday would have been my wedding anniversary so I know what you're going through.
I've found this place to be a great place for socialising, mostly online but occasionally in person. No, it doesn't replace the warm feeling of waking up next to someone or having them there to chat to but it's a start. This site has kept me sane over the last year ( yeah, right I hear you say rolleyes

)
Hopefully, you'll make some good friends through this place. Get yourself to a few socials and munches and have some fun. You could try over the road if it's a date you're looking for.
Good luck kiss

4 Oct 2006

yes what sassy said.
sorry to hear about your break up.
ive been single 2 months now, i miss going to sleep and wakeing up in the morning in someones arms.
but i have a few good friends on here and some that i meet from here, so that keeps me going.
good luck xxxxx

4 Oct 2006

Do you have any interests or hobbies you could share with others.
Local enthusiast clubs and book clubs and the like are a good way to meet people socially and start fitting in.
As Sassy Seren says, the internet can be good as well biggrin

Good luck with it
Jas
XXX

4 Oct 2006

have a hug off me because u will need many of them to get u thru it...but u r in the best place to be.....the friends that u make off this site will be friends for life
love n licks
chesty
xxxx

5 Oct 2006

Can I thank you all for your replies. If I could personally I would but dont know where u all reside. I wasnt sure what answers to expect from the site but you guys/gals are all lovely and considerate in your replies. Life is so painful each day....but knowing theres peeps like u around somewhere will help calm some of the hurt. If any of your are ever down this way Ill gladly have a drink with you to say thanks for your help.
There is a little light flickering somewhere cos nxt Mon I have my first "date" in 12yrs. Very low key, chatting, bowling, nowt heavy, just company. How very daunting and scary at my age? Have to start somewhere......so chin up and life goes redface

on
many thanks to all
bj

6 Oct 2006

hi m8,sorry to hear of your troubles,i am in a similar position although we were just partners,not married.1 idea is to use this site,but for making a new circle of friends try looking in the lets meet up section and see if any socials/munches are happening in your area,good way to introduce yourself biggrin

also dont knock the pub as a meeting place,just choose your pubs carefully.i,m sure you will do ok m8 it just seems a little unnerving at first
good luck :karaoke:

6 Oct 2006

Quote by cuddly-catlin
yes what sassy said.
sorry to hear about your break up.
ive been single 2 months now, i miss going to sleep and wakeing up in the morning in someones arms.
but i have a few good friends on here and some that i meet from here, so that keeps me going.
good luck xxxxx

so how you aint asked me out yet :evil2: remember only 8 miles :giggle: