We have been swinging for a few months now and have throughly enjoyed this learning experience. We have met a few cpls off swinging sites for that all important first drink and chat and got on well enough with one cpl to go further. We have also tried swingers clubs which we really enjoyed. Our question is which way do you prefer meeting people? Meeting people for that first time drink which we find very nervewracking or going to clubs and meeting like minded people there whch we find far less stressful.
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which do you prefer?
Sex God
I prefare going to a social gathering and maybe having a little natter there with others... Then going away and chatting more... before deciding to meet.
Im not 1 for jumping straight in...
Im not 1 for jumping straight in...
Forum Virgin
As a single bloke I have made contact with a few couples and met up socially in a pub, it is very nerve wacking, I have found myself on the car park before going in saying to myself 'what am I doing here', but it is part of the buzz, and once you meet you find it is the same for all parties.
Clubwise as a single bloke I have yet to pluck the courage up to visit a local club on my own, if anyone can suggest a good club for single guys in the midlands please do so so that I can add my comments on club meetings to the discussion.
Clubwise as a single bloke I have yet to pluck the courage up to visit a local club on my own, if anyone can suggest a good club for single guys in the midlands please do so so that I can add my comments on club meetings to the discussion.
Sex God
we do both and even when we go to our local club we still get butterflys even though we most in it,but must add never get get dissappointed if we dont pair up as we still enjoy the social prefer clubs though.
Hi mrluvtong and welcome to swinging heaven
I can well understand you being nervous about walking into a swingers club. Many people might imagine non-stop orgies and naked bodies everywhere! The reality (at least in most of the clubs and at most of the times I have been) is very different - people sitting, chatting, and generally relaxing. There should be no pressure on you at all. Many clubs have a sauna and/or jacuzzi, and in many of the UK clubs you would change into a towel (or the ladies maybe into sexy underwear) on arrival.
Of course, if you are looking for guaranteed sex, you might be disappointed at a club. On the other hand, you could get lucky!
Wishing you well in your quest.
I can well understand you being nervous about walking into a swingers club. Many people might imagine non-stop orgies and naked bodies everywhere! The reality (at least in most of the clubs and at most of the times I have been) is very different - people sitting, chatting, and generally relaxing. There should be no pressure on you at all. Many clubs have a sauna and/or jacuzzi, and in many of the UK clubs you would change into a towel (or the ladies maybe into sexy underwear) on arrival.
Of course, if you are looking for guaranteed sex, you might be disappointed at a club. On the other hand, you could get lucky!
Wishing you well in your quest.
thanks for that sparking.
ive just noticed that not only am i newbie to clubs but this site too........ i am on here free, managed to hook up with a few couples and amazingly a single woman too, have been a member for about two years.
yet i am listed as being on here since dec 05??????
ive just noticed that not only am i newbie to clubs but this site too........ i am on here free, managed to hook up with a few couples and amazingly a single woman too, have been a member for about two years.
yet i am listed as being on here since dec 05??????
I have only met a few off this website and quite a lot of the old msn chat before it was closed. My advice for what it is worth is play every thing by ear and expect nothing.
You have to check that the person/s are genuine
You should meet in public place
You should chat (prior to meet) and then take it from there.
If you speak to a person long enough you will know if genuine or not. If they are not prepared to talk by mobile, msn or email then likely that your time is being wasted. Dont meet until you have qualified that they are likely to be genuine and that there is little chance of being let down. Slowly slowly catches the monekey... Wooops sorry no disrespect meant.
You have to check that the person/s are genuine
You should meet in public place
You should chat (prior to meet) and then take it from there.
If you speak to a person long enough you will know if genuine or not. If they are not prepared to talk by mobile, msn or email then likely that your time is being wasted. Dont meet until you have qualified that they are likely to be genuine and that there is little chance of being let down. Slowly slowly catches the monekey... Wooops sorry no disrespect meant.
we've done both.... atleast with a pre-arranged meet, you know what everyone wants and is into.. so there is no confusion..
we find the clubs a little difficult at times, no one wears signs, you can read them all wrong and make mistakes and either upset people or end up offended yourselves..
but we still do it.... we prefer clubs for couples, pre arranged meets for the single guys.. single guys in clubs tend to get a little over the top...
each has its own buzz... on apre-arranged meet you don't know if you will get it on, in a club its still the same...
happy hunting
Gary & Becky
we find the clubs a little difficult at times, no one wears signs, you can read them all wrong and make mistakes and either upset people or end up offended yourselves..
but we still do it.... we prefer clubs for couples, pre arranged meets for the single guys.. single guys in clubs tend to get a little over the top...
each has its own buzz... on apre-arranged meet you don't know if you will get it on, in a club its still the same...
happy hunting
Gary & Becky
Quote by PoloLady
Clubs - seeing the people I know, meeting new ones and not having to put all your eggs in one basket. Yep, it is clubs for me.
Of course, if you are looking for guaranteed sex, you might be disappointed at a club.
:shock:
:doh: oh yeah - sorry you are a guy
:lol: :lol: 
awww bless
you'd never hear a woman saying that :lol:
i like club better than private meets, if the guy your shagging at a club is crap you can just move onto the next :lol:
never done pub or clubs meets - tend to get chattin to someone over msn to suss out whether they are genuine, then fone chats and either invite them to mine (with fava beans and a nice chianti - he he he) or arrnage to go to theirs
perhaps i shoudl expand my outlook (seeing as i have a pub round the corner) but it if aint broke.......
perhaps i shoudl expand my outlook (seeing as i have a pub round the corner) but it if aint broke.......
Quote by mrluvtong
like bealano have only ever met at a pub and like he says the buzz is amazing. as for going to a club, i have bailed out after sitting outside in car for half an hour too many times. has anyone on here got any advice for a club newbie.
My advice is just pluck up the courage and visit a club you will be suprised at just how normal it is. People chatting and drinking with their clothes on and later in the pool or sauna minus you dont try you will never know and you always have the option to leave if you dont like it. Hope that helps mrluvtong.
Quote by naughtynymphos1
Clubs - seeing the people I know, meeting new ones and not having to put all your eggs in one basket. Yep, it is clubs for me.
Of course, if you are looking for guaranteed sex, you might be disappointed at a club.
:shock:
:doh: oh yeah - sorry you are a guy
:lol: :lol: awww bless
you'd never hear a woman saying that :lol:
i like club better than private meets, if the guy your shagging at a club is crap you can just move onto the next :lol:
And why just settle for one hey :wink: :twisted:
Sex God
We only Swing to fulfil our fantasies not to make new friends or increase our social circle. We would never meet in a Pub or someone's house as it is just too personal.
Clubs are safe and impersonal environments where we can pick what we want to do and go home back to our family life afterwards.
We both think that Swinging and intimacy (close friendship) with other Swinging couples is playing with fire - but that is only our opinion. I am sure there are many happy people out there who do get close with other couples but that is just where we draw the line.
Maybe there is an age/culture difference I don't know - we are a very committed couple with children but we are both very horny people and swinging allows us to express our fantasies without encroaching on our privacy.
Someone once said that we were in denial about our Swinging and we should 'come out' but really - why should we. It is all about us and no one else so whatever we choose is right for us - not what other people say we should do
Clubs are safe and impersonal environments where we can pick what we want to do and go home back to our family life afterwards.
We both think that Swinging and intimacy (close friendship) with other Swinging couples is playing with fire - but that is only our opinion. I am sure there are many happy people out there who do get close with other couples but that is just where we draw the line.
Maybe there is an age/culture difference I don't know - we are a very committed couple with children but we are both very horny people and swinging allows us to express our fantasies without encroaching on our privacy.
Someone once said that we were in denial about our Swinging and we should 'come out' but really - why should we. It is all about us and no one else so whatever we choose is right for us - not what other people say we should do
Sexpert
I've only ever met in a pub for a drink with a pre arranged guy , I'm usually very nervous but soon unwind and often feel at easy quite quickly .
Not had the experiance of big gathering but I would be more nervous being a lone female.
Not had the experiance of big gathering but I would be more nervous being a lone female.
Orgasminator
we like to meet socially first, even if we,ve just met them in a club its nice to to chat and unwind , to see how we all get on 
Quote by Too Hot
We only Swing to fulfil our fantasies not to make new friends or increase our social circle. We would never meet in a Pub or someone's house as it is just too personal.
Clubs are safe and impersonal environments where we can pick what we want to do and go home back to our family life afterwards.
We both think that Swinging and intimacy (close friendship) with other Swinging couples is playing with fire - but that is only our opinion. I am sure there are many happy people out there who do get close with other couples but that is just where we draw the line.
Maybe there is an age/culture difference I don't know - we are a very committed couple with children but we are both very horny people and swinging allows us to express our fantasies without encroaching on our privacy.
Someone once said that we were in denial about our Swinging and we should 'come out' but really - why should we. It is all about us and no one else so whatever we choose is right for us - not what other people say we should do
:thumbup:
Whatever works for you - fluck everyone else, it's your life and your pleasure.
